Why Our Future Self is Weak and How to Make it STRONG

Our present day self is strong but future self is weak!

This is often the case when it comes to sticking to our goals and commitments.

Let me explain…

When we set ourselves a goal, in that very moment we are almost certain that nothing will knock us off course.

We are adamant that we will follow through and that we will stick to the plan.

Whether that goal is increasing sales, getting booked for speaking, writing a book, getting in shape…The list goes on.

In our present day moment we are strong…

But often our future self is weak.

We can give in, we lose focus, we get tired, we lose motivation…It’s human nature.

This is why we need boundaries or what I like to call “Red Lines”.

Lines that we do not cross and minimum standards of action we WILL follow through on 85-90% of the time…

…Regardless of our thoughts, feelings or emotions.

Without these in place we have no real accountability strategy or warning signs to let us know we are drifting off course.

So do your future self a favour and get in place your red lines around:

Business
Health
Family
Personal development
Down time

If you are a HIGH performing Man and want to up level your income, results and fulfilment…Then I have something for you…

The 3 Powerful Shifts Every High Performing Business Man Needs to Know If He Wants to up Level Himself, His Business and His Life.

On Tuesday 15th September I’m going to guide a small group of ambitious men through a 60 min online session.

The purpose of this session is to create 3 powerful mindset shifts to help each attendee move forward and “unlock their fullest potential” in themselves, in their business and in their life!

Most business leaders desire to create an incredible life for themselves by using their business as a vehicle to do so. Whether that is using their business to create more money, more freedom or more fulfilment…

…However most are holding themselves back from achieving all they are fully capable of whether that be consciously or unconsciously.

This is often due to things such as self doubt, challenges around self worth, lack of time or other barriers, And because of this they stay in a cycle of never truly reaching the level of success they know they are capable of whilst continuing to feel stressed, overwhelmed and often stuck.

Often the only immediate solution is to work harder and work longer hours, but this takes its toll on relationships, family, health and mental wellbeing.

During this unique session, David will share with you 3 proven systems ANY high level business Man can use to quickly shift up his life, get on track and create a life that excites and energises him, regardless of what he has tried in the past.

You will leave the session with 3 powerful strategies to move you and your life forward.

David will also show you his ‘C4 Method’ that his coaching clients are using right now to make more money, get in great shape, increase mental focus and have more time freedom to be with family…ANY Man can add this into his life for dramatic results in less than 30 minutes per day.

THIS EVENT IS FOR YOU IF:-

– You have your own business and are looking to increase the level of success, income and fulfilment.

– You currently feel a little deflated, flat and unsure of what’s the next big move for you where that be in Business or life.

– You find yourself continually putting business and your customers first to the detriment of yourself, your own wellbeing and your family.

– You lack time, you have the resources to up level what you do, but more time is what’s missing.

Register for tickets ASAP to avoid missing out by clicking HERE

David

Are You Making Business Too HARD For Yourself?

Are you making building a business or creating a successful life too HARD for yourself?

Do you often find yourself procrastinating on your daily tasks and to-do-lists?

Do you find yourself continuing to “put off” those tasks that seem hard or those actions that would have you feeling more uncomfortable if you did them?

Are you telling yourself that building a business is “hard” work and that it’s going to take years before you see any real return?

Have you said to yourself, “I need to get out of my comfort zone more, I’m NOT doing enough or pushing myself enough”?

If you have ever said any of those things to yourself I am hear to say, you are potentially setting yourself up to FAIL!

The motivational mantras and success gurus out there tell us that we NEED to get out of our comfort zone to create success and that life begins outside of the comfort zone…

This is total horse SH*T.

 

The problem is that we mix these worn out success lines and phrases into our already fagaile, negative self talking mindset.

On average 80% of the thoughts we have as humans are negative.

So pile into that more phrases and thoughts that make us feel like we aren’t good enough, that what we are doing isn’t enough and that we have to not feel fear anymore to create success, is just making the situation worse.

On a daily basis, people are getting up and telling themselves that they aren’t good enough, or that they are lazy, unmotivated, that they aren’t working hard enough…

These leads down a road of constant procrastination.

Then to top it off, at the end of the day they feel guilty because they haven’t worked on their business, done their to-do-list and instead have spent the day scrolling the internet instead of building a business…

Then the fear kicks in and the negative self talks starts again.

This cycle is breaking more business ambitions globally than the COVID-19 pandemic EVER will.

 

What’s going on?

 

What’s going on here is you believe you need to be a outside of your comfort zone to create success…

But you have an ‘inner competing commitment’ inside of you that it telling you not too.

The example I give is;

You want to cross the road, you are standing on one side and you can see that when you cross the road and reach the other side that all the success you want is over there waiting for you. You know that’s exactly where you want to be.

So you go to cross the road because all your motivation and inner desire is there in you, But as you step off the curb you stop and you notice all the cars, vans and traffic that is flying up and down the road.

You hesitate because you start to feel fear, How can you cross this road safely now?

Your fear is your inner competing commitment because it’s keeping you safe, but now you feel guilty and like a failure because you can’t overcome that fear and move.

You start to question your entire personality and everything you think about yourself. Before you know it you’ve worn yourself down with added stress, anxiety and crippling self doubts.

Now you think success is only for the brave, those who don’t feel fear and that you aren’t enough, so what’s the point. Fear has won!

You end up sitting on that curb frozen or turn around and go back to what you know, flight.

When in actual fact the answer was there all along and what you didn’t realise was that you don’t need to try and rush across the road and be brave.

You need to take a step back and take a break. Accepting that you want to get to the other side but you don’t need to risk yourself to get there.

By taking a step back and looking around you notice there’s a footbridge that crosses the road to your left. You can take the foot bridge and safely cross the road WITHOUT getting massively out of your comfort zone. That footbridge (alternative route) was there along, but because you weren’t lifting your head up you didn’t see it.

 

You can create success by “moving” in your comfort zone.

 

See the powerful word here is MOVE!

We create success by doing, by taking action, by moving.

If you move inside your comfort zone, complete actions that you feel comfortable doing and that still align to building your business, then you WIN.

When we feel fear we often freeze, we procrastinate and we put off the doing part. Then we do something that makes us feel relaxed or brings the stress levels down…But what we didn’t do was move positively.

If we move inside our comfort zone and we take consistent action then this creates success far quicker, easier and in a much more fluid way.

Building a business, getting in shape, speaking on stage, putting yourself out to the world, posting on social media, running a marathon…These aren’t easy and they all come with a level of commitment and self discipline required.

However we don’t need to slap the “It’s hard” label onto them.

If I’m not a runner and I want to train for a Marathon, I don’t tell myself that today on my first day of training that I need to run hard and I have to run 26 miles…That would be madness right?

I just tell myself I can go out and run 1 mile today. One mile is in my comfort zone because I know I can run or at the very least walk 1 mile. But when I run that 1 mile today I grow in confidence because I completed it.

This gives me momentum to run 1.5 miles next time.

We can choose to approach ANY goal we have and do it with more ease and enjoyment, it’s a state of mind, it’s about finding our footbridge and taking that one step at a time.

 

Thank you for reading.

 

David

What Do You Do If You Don’t Have Time?

You say you don’t have time and struggle to find the time to work on your goals…

I say…BS.

I’m not going to beat around the bush here, I’m going straight into it.

You say you don’t have time to work on your goals…I say you’re not MAKING the time.

Let’s break down the ‘lack of time myth’:

– You have 168 hours per week…WE ALL HAVE THIS. Everyone from you, to Bill Gates and Serena Williams.

– Sleep for 50 of them (average 7hours per night)

– Work for 40 of them,

– Groom for 8 of them,

– Eat and drink for 10 of them…

So how are you spending the other 60 hours, or more specifically 8.5hours per day?

Let’s say you have other commitments, longer working hours, family, gym, commuting to work etc.

ALL that taken into account are you REALLY telling me you don’t have JUST 60 minutes spare per day to work on your dreams?

JUST 7hours per week MAX. 

If you read this and say “No I still don’t have time”. Then my advise to you is your goals aren’t enough for you because if you can’t carve out a little time to work on your dreams then your dreams aren’t for you.

That’s all it takes to get started, 60minutes per day to to work on your dream body, life, business, career or whatever your ambition is.

For most people to find 60minutes extra per day just need to stop mindlessly scrolling Facebook or Instagram and they’ll find time.

Imagine if you just did 60minutes today on your goal, that’s an extra 60minutes you’ve spent on your goal today than you did yesterday. By doing this you are now at least ONE step closer to the outcome you want.

Everything in life in HOW you view it from your perspective. This is partly what MINDSET is.

Someone says; “I don’t have time”.

I say; “You’re not making time”. All because we are both looking at it from different angles.

Change the way you view things and this will transform how you spend those valuable minutes.

You’re either moving closer to your dreams or further away and this comes down to your value of time and how you use it.

Alpha Dave

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