Arguably the BIGGEST missing piece for most high level business leaders and owners is their ability to prioritise time just for themselves, even before their business and family.
Now before you get p*ssed off and argue about why you’re kids are your number one priority and how your role is to provide for the family…
Stay with me and I’ll explain.
More and more business owners are becoming burned out, isolated, stressed out, depressed, unhealthy, overly anxious and are a slave to their business and customers.
On top of this, they’re struggling at home, neglecting their partner or wife, and this is causing friction. Limited quality time with their kids often due to working late or feeling the need to work weekends. Then when they do spend time with those they love, they aren’t being fully present, often on the phone, checking email, feeling guilt over needing to work or their mind is racing with mental chatter.
The most used responses from any man that is in this situation is…
“I’m doing this for my family, so I can give them a good life.”
“When I reach X amount of money or the business is at X size, then I can take more time off.”
“I struggle to relax. I just like to keep busy.”
These worn out lines continued to be used as an excuse to cover up a cycle of behaviour that neither serves them, their business or their happiness.
It becomes a cocktail of mental and physical fatigue, mashed together with low energy, poor moods and irritable behaviour, sprinkled with neglecting habits.
How do I know this?
Well, I’ve used these lines myself for years, until I found a healthier way. I also hear these coming out the mouth of my clients, until I coach them to find a better way.
If you are reading this because it relates to you, I almost guarantee that if I looked at your diary your week would be heavily scheduled with work commitments, obligations and appointments.
Your default will be to schedule work first, then with whatever time is left you can have a life around that, Am I right?
There will likely be little to NO time in there for your own self care, down time or even things that excite and energise you.
Very little family scheduled time unless it’s an appointment or obligation.
This is the way most high performing Men plan out their lives.
Business is priority because in business I can make money to help the family, it’s the old hunter, gather mentality.
Trust me when I say this, I get it.
There’s NOTHING wrong with wanting to provide for your family and give them the best, it’s human nature.
However are they getting the BEST version of you?
I have already alluded to the fact that you’ll probably have limited self care time in your dairy.
Self care means time you work on yourself or give yourself mental, physical and emotional space. Things like; working out, walking, down time, relaxation, self-development, meditation, journaling, reading, music, fun activities, hobbies, etc.
And some form of self care…DAILY!!!
Why is this so important?
High performers are so focused on output that we forget to do any form of input.
We focus on productivity, motivation, building business, serving customers, being there for our wives, partners, kids, friends, working hard, working longer hours, more obligations and more commitments, to-do-lists, etc.
We are always giving out.
But when are we putting in?
Imagine you are a battery and every day you give energy outwards, your battery power goes down.
Most people’s only form of recharge is sleep (most of the time that’s not great anyway) , zoning out watching TV or boozing on a night to switch off.
But there’s no real space for recharging the batteries OR increasing your battery size.
If every day, week, month and year all you do is give outward YOU will run down and this means you continue to show up less powerfully year on year.
Your customers and vendors get a watered-down version of you, and you continue to struggle to achieve your goals or set bigger goals.
Also, your family and loved ones also get a lesser version of you.
This shows through when you are more moody, irritable, low energy, have a lot of mental chatter and always think you need to be somewhere else or doing something else when you are with them.
Then come the resentment, the frustrations, the lack of intention and that feeling like all you ever do is give outward, making you feel less fulfilled and less happy.
Are your family, customers or employees really getting the BEST version of you if you continue to show up like this?
The answer is NO!
If you are in this space or feel like you are heading towards it, nows the time for…
COMMITTED, CONSISTENT SELF CARE!
Thank you for reading.
If you feel stuck in this place then here’s how I can help;
1) Continue to check in on my profile and read my articles, blogs, posts and watch my videos. I continue to share weekly content to help high performing guys show up as the best version of themselves.
2) Direct message me if you are ready to take action on this and find out how I can support you to create the business you want whilst living your best life.