What The Hell is Personal Development

What the hell is Personal Development and why should you care?

Personal development for me is about growing and enhancing a person’s self awareness, capabilities, skills, behaviours and self confidence to uncover and unleash someone’s full potential.

It’s helping a person get past their limiting beliefs or self doubts and in truth it’s about getting MORE out of yourself so you can DO, BE and ACHIEVE all you are in any area of Life, Business, Career and Body.

In short personal development is about growing as a person in one area of life or all areas. However I believe for the BEST results its about levelling up in every area.

What I teach my clients is that their goal is off in the future, a bigger ‘thing’ they are trying to reach or accomplish. So compared to their goal they are smaller, further away and currently NOT ready to achieve it, Because if they could…They would have already.

It’s like taking on their own mountain but having to learn to climb first to reach the top.

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Knowing where you are right now is about establishing reality and current positioning, any coach that BS a client at this point isn’t helping them, they are hindering them. Knowing where you are, warts and all is essential.

So personal development is what bridges the gap between where you are right now and the goal you desire.

It’s centred around growing as a person in mind, body, skill, capabilities and confidence so you can conquer that goal. It’s you levelling up and becoming more as an individual…So now you are capable of attaining and owning your goal.

 

Without self development we wouldn’t have laid the foundations to reach our goal or hold on to it.

Any worthwhile goal is achieved this way, hence why personal development is critical.

I base my coaching around developing people and helping them get more out of themselves…More than they ever thought possible so they can set goals, increase their capabilities and then own the sh*t out of their goals.


The Process

My approach is based on 3 critical steps to show a person how to develop towards their goal/s:

  1. Clarity

  2. Confidence

  3. Performance


Clarity

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This is about gaining clarity around who you are and what you want. This for me is essential and was one area of life I was really stuck in. I just couldn’t get clear on who I was or what I wanted.

Often this is the part people miss and they design their wants by what others around them have or do. They basis their requirements off what they ‘think’ they should do or have and worse still what society or social media dems to be right.

This is making people feel more lost, isolated and frustrated than ever before.

By doing some deep self discovery work you can understand YOU, who you are and what life you want to experience everyday. In all honesty your career, business, income, home, relationships and lifestyle are behind this in order of clarity.

This part is about you and knowing what turns you on, what makes you tick and what inspires you. Everything else is there to enable this to happen.

Clarity is very difficult to achieve on your own because it requires you being asked great questions by a coach that can help you think deeper and really question yourself.


Confidence

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Another essential piece to the puzzle because a lack of self belief is the number ONE reason most people don’t achieve their goals or start in the first place.

A limiting belief, fear, doubt or insecurity is holding more people back from going after what they truly want than any other barrier.

So building self confidence, awareness and emotional intelligence is huge. A big part of my coaching is build around becoming self assured in who you are and what you are capable of. This is much more than just reciting positive talk. It’s about practising self confidence and knowing you.

Yes confidence is practised. I will have you look at any area of your life right now you feel confident and comfortable in. May be its work, or a hobbie..

Now ask yourself how long have you been doing that for? What makes you confident at it? How many hours have you put into it?

Confidence is partly about discovering yourself. Partly about doing something over and over to get better at it, and…Well you’ll have to become a client to find out the rest 🙂

Once you build self esteem you’ll be unstoppable.


Performance

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The final piece to the personal development system is performance.

Increasing your performance is essential because you can not become all you can be with the same habits, mindset, behaviours and actions you use now, Think about that.

There will be certain behaviours and habits you have right now that help you and you’ll be able to move forward with. However some are hindering you and you’ll need to ditch them or maybe you can re-shape them into better habits.

Increasing performance is all about optimising how you Think, Act, Behave, Eat, Move, Sleep and Produce to enhance you as a person. Giving you greater energy, clarity, focus, production and awareness…And reducing stress, overwhelm, fatigue, burn out and procrastination.

Once you have the clarity and the confidence, NEXT you require the high performance habits that will get you doing what you want to do every day to get you to your objectives.

I coach my clients how to enhance what they do so they can set out each day fully equipped to take it on.


What Next?

So the goal or objective you have set for yourself will become achievable once you can do the above 3 steps, Add into the mix; Strategic planning, breaking down limiting beliefs, accountability and daily action steps and you have yourself one hell of a system.

Are you frustrated because you’re struggling to gain clarity around your next career or business move?

Do you struggle with self confidence when it comes to making certain decision or actions?

Are you an ambitious person but feel lost or like you’ve reached a ceiling and not sure what to do next?

Would you like to become a more effective business owner or leader to reach a higher level of income and success?

Do you want to reduce stress and self doubt WHILST gaining balance in your Life, Body and Business for more fulfilment, value and success?

If so, then I am here to help!

If you are a corporate professional or business owner I will take you through a personally tailored program that meets your needs.

No more living or playing the game of life at an average level…It’s time to become all you can be.

I will work with you 1-1 for 3-12 months to help you get more out of yourself personally and professionally than you ever thought possible.

If you are interested in what I offer and would like to speak further, then message  at wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk or contact me via LinkedIn HERE

 

What Feeling Exhausted Taught Me.

I wrote the below blog in 2014 and it STILL rings true today…

What feeling exhausted taught me today.

 

So this morning after a 5am alarm call (I hate getting up before 6:30am, it’s not good for me)

I rolled out of bed, got ready and made it into work.

Standing there this morning as I waited for my double espresso to pour out I had all these feels

Of being overwhelmed.

I was feeling like I had so much to do and not enough time to do that, you’ve almost certainly felt this way before right?

I was thinking there’s just so much work to be done to make DH fitness into the life changing company it can be.

Also thinking about how much I want to be the best athlete I can be
As I sat there sipping my coffee, both these feeling were followed up with doubt, fear, overwhelm, dread and stress.

Right there and then I stopped myself in the moment that point where you catch yourself

And I said to myself…

…What if all I do is being better today than I was yesterday?

Let me say that again

What if all I do is be better today that I was yesterday?

Because let’s face that’s all we have, the now, the today

The past is over right, we can’t change that

The future isn’t really ours to own or change either.

Yeah we can plan, organise, dream etc.

But we really only have today and right now.

So instead of me thinking how can I improve all these areas in my life and stressing the f**k out about then, I just though…

What can I do today to be better?

An immense weight lifting from me,

So today I’m going to do one thing to inspire one person (might even come from this blog that’s why I wrote it)

Its might be during our team training and development session today
Or it might be a member of dh fitness…either way all I need to do to know I’m on point today is inspire and motivate 1 person.

As for my journey to being the best athlete I can be

All I’m going to do is go and train and give it the best i’ve got, nothing more and nothing less…That’s all I can ask of myself.

Thanks for reading the ramble

Alpha Dave, Aiming to be the best version of myself one day at a time.

The Paralyzing Power of Feeling Overwhelmed.

The paralyzing power of feeling overwhelmed and the NEGATIVE affect it has on your life.

The scenario;

We start a new career path or business, or maybe a new training and dieting program and because we are excited and motivated our intention is to do as MUCH as we can.

We want to do it all now and strike whilst our motivation and energy is highest. We feel we can take on the world, We want to be at our end goal NOW…

But because of this do we actually end up biting off more than we can chew or taking on more than we can handle? 

We try so hard to do it ALL, that we end up doing nothing and become paralyzed with feeling overwhelmed.

For example:

We try to do everything on our new diet, following the plan 100%, buy all the recommend supplements, the healthy foods, cooking clean meals, avoiding social events, cutting back on alcohol, sugar etc.

However after a few weeks we realise that we just can’t keep this pace so we end up stopping. Or we adjust the diet to fit and end up doing less and less until we eventually go back to eating how we did before we started.

Let’s say the goal is to get in shape so we hit the gym 5-6 x per week, every week. Doing classes, HIIT training, cardio, weights, core work etc…We try and fit it all in but we get tired, burned out, we miss sessions and then get peed off. The more this happens the higher our chances are of stopping. We started out by doing more exercise than we can physically and mentally handle and the only way forward is to do less. The problem with doing ‘less’ is we can feel like we’re failing.

Maybe we start doing a sport and we try to progress quickly because we want to get good at it sooner rather than later. We try and develop the fitness, the strength, the skills and knowledge that go with the sport, But its a long process. We end up realising that their’s soooo much to it that we haven’t got time to fit it in. So we either continue to feel overwhelmed and underprepared in the sport, feeling like we aren’t good enough…Or we quit.

Maybe we start a new career or open a new business, we start doing everything, reading and learning everything. Going onto courses, building our skills, marketing, getting new clients, networking, branding, tax returns., accounts, sales, employment, trying to get ahead, putting more hours in…The list goes on.

We dive in the deep end and try and swim. We try and keep pace but realise that we are doing everything, and none of it to the standard needed to create a successful business or a flying career. We realise we can’t keep this pace so we feel stressed, burned out, anxious. We start to procrastinate on tasks, decisions, things don’t move forward as quickly as we’d like. So we start to panic, get frustrated and stress ourselves out.

We’re not growing the business at the rate we want. We’re spending almost every waking minute consumed by the business/career. Over time we’ll spend year upon year driving everyone close to us away and all we’ll have is a business/job that you LIVE to work for, becoming a slave to it. And every waking day is just a series of stresses and overwhelm.

In most of these situations feeling OVERWHELMED is the core of it all. This sometimes can become so intense that we end up procrastinating. And this means we end up doing NOTHING…Which makes us feel MORE overwhelmed and stressed… So the cycle continues. 

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Why does this happen?

Because as humans and we already have a full plate in our lives. We’re already doing and juggling so much, especially in the modern world where we WANT to have it all.

HOWEVER we only have so much time, energy and mental space for so many things (Work, Family, Fitness, Fun, Sport, Eating, Sleeping, Social time, Down Time, Personal development)…especially if we want to have everything that life offers.

So what SHOULD we do?

“Swing Singles”.

The key is to take small BUT consistent swings at life, or put differently just take one step at a time…aka Swing Singles.

The aim is to do JUST ONE THING, OR TAKE THAT ONE STEP that moves you closer to your goal/s. And ONLY one thing until this becomes a permanent part of your daily routine

Then once we’ve done that we can focus on the next step WHILST continuing to do step 1.

For example:

+ If you want to improve your nutrition then change ONE eating habit. For example eat a healthy breakfast 6 days per week for 4 weeks. This ingrains the HABIT. Just do ONE thing. Leave everything else until you can consistently eat a healthy breakfast. Don’t worry about lunch, dinner, snacks etc. Don’t worry about gluten and sugar content right now. Just nail down 1 meal. Get that right first and THEN move on.

+ If you want to improve your fitness and you DON’T exercise right now, then start with doing 10minutes of exercise 3 x per week. If you do exercise then just increase what you do by 10%. So if you run 5miles 3 x per week then run 5.5miles. Avoid trying to add in 1-2 more sessions per week, or trying to go 5 x per week. You’re got to do things that are manageable. Start small then build up.

+ If you want to grow your business choose 1 AREA to work on and do this consistently for 4 weeks. If it’s sales that could be make 1 phone call to a perceptive client 5 days per week for 4 weeks. Then do 2 per day and so now. Ingrain the habit of ‘DOING’ into your schedule.

It sounds so simple…And it is in theory.

What makes this strategy work is YOUR doing something that will have a positive affect on the area of life you wish to improve. Doing something that is manageable and then ‘doing it’ over and over again (swinging singles) until it brings results.

Results aren’t achieved by hitting a ‘home run’ every once in a while or trying to keep hitting them over and over even when you keep missing. This one hit wonder mentality and trying to do it ALL in one go, is what’s leaving you feeling more overwhelmed because you continue to miss the long term results.

The key is to keep hitting that ball for a single. Then move to base one, then hit it for another single and you move to base 2 etc etc. I’m using a Baseball metaphor to describe Swing Singles…But I think it fits really well.

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Most people try this all or nothing approach. It’s all in at 100%. But then after 3-4 weeks or so motivation drops and every week they end up doing less, 90%, 80%, 70% etc. Until they end up doing ZERO…Sound familiar?

However when you swing singles the approach is to do 10% this week, then 20% next month, then 30% and so on. We continue to move forward and do MORE…Not do less.

Once you have that one habit ingrained into you and your DAILY routine for about a 28day time period…Then start the next habit, swing that next single. And repeat the process…This strategy works. 

Swing singles everyday and that is when the magic happens.
Remember you are human, your not a robot. You can’t keep doing more and more, you’ll burn out, get overwhelmed, stressed and frustrated…Then you’ll quit.

Flip this on its head, do less now. Start small and build upon these habits over time.

The art of swinging singles is the secret to LONG TERM success.

Alpha Dave

What Are You Willing to Do to WIN?

When I’m talking about ‘winning’ in this blog I’m referring to winning at anything in life, sport, business, love or financial success…..

Basically you achieving your major goal/purpose.

I would like you to read this from your own perspective and take it into context with your major purpose and passion. The area/s of life you are striving for growth and success in.

Questions:

  1. To be successful and win in your chosen area, what are you ‘willing’ to give and do?

     2. What are you NOT willing to do, give in order to become successful?

So often we ask this question to ourselves or maybe a coach or mentor does;

“What are you WILLING to do to achieve your goal/s?”

What we are willing to do will vary from person to person because their desires, passion, ethics, upbringing, morals and abilities come into play here.

However, I also believe a great question to ALSO ask yourself is;

“What are you NOT willing to do, give or have in order to make it to the top?”

See for all of us we have a line, a line that we will not and can not cross. And this can go from anything from the number of hours we can/are willing to work, the sacrifices we are willing to make…Right down to the ethics and morals we might be willing to put into questions in order to reach the top.

It’s a balance for anyone trying to become successful. A balance between what we are willing to do to achieve our goal/win, and what are aren’t.

Where do you draw the line when it comes to;

  • Sacrifices in terms of money, time and effort.
  • Playing to win.
  • Increasing your knowledge base, learning and skill level.
  • Stresses placed upon family, partners, loved ones, friends and relationships.
  • Financial investment.
  • Screwing others over to reach the top.
  • Partaking in unethical activities in business, sport and life.

 

JUST TO NOTE: I’m not saying that to be a winner or to succeed in your endeavors you need to be unethical, cheat or screw people over. Far from it.

However what I am saying is you have to understand to your very core what YOU personally are willing to give to attain your goal.

People have their own views on what it takes to win and that’s anything from hard work, making sacrifices to blatant cheating and underhanded tactics.

So here’s a question to you,

In your OWN opinion do you NEED to cheat the system or go against the grain to WIN in your chosen area?

OR

Can you achieve success by playing by the rules? 

How you personally answer this questions will probably tell you all you need to know about your own personal mindset and beliefs around success.

How many people have heard the same old line about someone who’s become successful in business…

‘In order for them to reach the top they’ve probably screwed a lot of people over on their way up’.

What about in sport;

‘Yeah they’re only that good because they cheat or take drugs’.

I’ve heard these lines time and time again and I’m sure you have. People tend to use these to rationalise someone else’s success when it seems alien to them, or not possible in that persons mind.

The problem is how many people ‘actually’ start to believe these worn out lines and because they have heard them so often that they actually believe them. So much so that they CAN stop pursuing their own goals because they think they HAVE to cheat or be un-ethical to win and aren’t willing to do it.

OR on the flip side.

They actually believe the only way to reach the top is via these routes so they start screwing people over or cheating in sport in a pursuit to reach the top.

 

However in my opinion what we SHOULD focus on is OURSELVES. 

What are you willing and not willing to do to be successful?

Forget about the stories, forget about what you ‘think’ you know about what it takes and just focus on what you are willing to give to achieve your dreams.

This is ALL you can focus on.

Be willing to go down your own journey, do it your own way. Not following the crowd or following some preconceived notion that to be successful you must do X,Y or Z.

Your level of success is determined by what you personally give to it and ultimately whether you can sleep at night with a clear conscience when all is said and done.

Thanks for reading today.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this below?

Alpha Dave.

 

 

 

Risk Vs Reward

Now it’s post Mayweather Vs McGregor fight, I thought it would be the ideal time to write a blog like this.

With anything worth having in life such as Love, Success, Happiness, Business, Financial Security, Fitness etc there are trade offs…It’s what I like to call…

Risk vs Reward.

The risk I’m referring to in this case is the risk you personally take to reach your goals, to level up and to reach a higher position in your life.

People risk anything from their Money, Health, Reputation, Relationships etc to reach their goals.

And usually the bigger the risk (gamble) the higher the reward…SHOULD it come off.

A little bit like the risk McGregor took to fight one of the ALL TIME GREATEST pound for pound boxers. It’s a huge risk and gamble, however the rewards are also high enough for him to make a ‘calculated risk’.

This is why many entrepreneurs, athletes and success people who want MORE in and from their lives are willing to take bigger risks to succeed…And what we see are those paying off in terms of success, money, fame, business, love etc.

People who have a growth and abundance mindset are willing to risk money, time, effort, possible relationships, health, lives, reputations and even their own sanity in the hope that THEY WILL reach their goals. And they do this because they understand that WITHOUT taking a gamble and chasing their goals in life…There can be NO pay off at the end.

 

Many people before the Mayweather Vs McGregor fight said that Conor had nothing to lose. He was stepping into another sport, one he isn’t specifically trained for. He was fighting one of the best pound for pound boxers and he was going to make upwards of $100 million, win, lose or draw.

However what we forget is that in the early part of Conor’s career he was taking BIGGER risks for smaller rewards and all under the banner of HOPE.

Quitting his job to pursue a career in MMA. Living on social welfare. Falling out with his Dad over it.

People around him not believing in him, facing his doubters and haters.

Also risking injury and his health during fights. Lots of risk for very little financial reward, especially in the early part of his career.

See Conor weighed up the risk vs the reward and WAS STILL willing to risk it ALL…Because he believed in himself enough that he could see himself achieving success in the sport. Maybe not to the heights he has done, But certainly at a level of success he could be happy with.

And this is ultimately what it takes for any of us to achieve success.

There will be things we MUST risk. Things we must put on the line. Things and areas of our life we have to sacrifice in order to achieve success, scale new highs and reap the rewards. Because if we risk nothing then we run the ‘risk’ of staying exactly where we are right now. 

So what are you willing to risk?

Those people who aren’t willing to risk anything usually don’t get very far. They’re not willing to stick their neck on the line. Their not willing to go all in, And this keeps them with a mindset of scarcity…One foot in and one foot out.

They have one foot on the path they must travel to achieve success…And the other foot is left in safety and security. They hesitate to go ‘ALL IN’.

With this half in half out mindset they can say to themselves;

“Well if it doesn’t work out I’ve not lost anything”.

‘Nothing ventured, nothing gained’.

They aren’t willing to risk, so more often than not they’ll not able to receive.

This blog isn’t about me telling you to quit your job or to gamble on your life. It’s more about me giving you an alternative approach…

If you aren’t willing to go ‘ALL IN’ on something, then how do you ever hope to reap the rewards?

100% calculated risks are a good approach for the more conservative personality. However the ‘option’ of being able to make a more calculated risk comes from having ALREADY put more on the line in your early years, a little bit like Conor and many other successful people. They’ve taken risks and now are in a position to be smarter and more choosy about their future options.

HOWEVER many of us who are starting out or about to take that big leap are NOT in the same position.

My advise to you is this.

Take a look at the back story of the people that inspire you most.

  • How did they make it to the top?
  • Where did they start.
  • What did they do?
  • What did the risk/sacrifice?

Success leaves clues.

At some point and probably more often than not they’ll have taken a gamble, a punt at pursuing their ambition in life…What you’re now seeing is them reaping the rewards of that.

No one gets to the top without hard work, consistency, sacrifice, self belief, support from others and the ability to jump in with both feet.

Yes it’s always a gamble because there are NO guarantees.

Sure we can take calculated risks but at the end of the day with any goal your aspiring to achieve their will always be uncertainty.

You might give it all, jump in with both feet…And still not reach the heights you want.

But I guarantee you this…

If you stay on the side line, If you keep one foot in and one foot out, if you aren’t willing to give it all, Then you WON’T achieve your dreams or get anywhere near them anyway. Doing nothing in this case is worse.

So balance it up for you.

What risks can you take?

What are you willing to take?

Is that enough to reach the level of success you want in sport, business, life, love? 

And what are the rewards you could potentially have if you go for it? 

It’s a game and it’s one you have to be willing to play if you want to stand any chance of winning. 

Dare to believe…Dare to be Alpha.

Alpha Dave.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What WILL Your NEXT 90days Look Like?

We are already into the final quarter of the year, the last 90days.

Where has the time gone?

So with this in mind, What will the next 90day look like for you? 

>> At the start of the year what goals, aims and ambitions did you set yourself? 

>> Are you on track with your goals? 

>> Have you achieved them?

>> Or maybe you haven’t started yet?

This blog is for those of you who haven’t yet started your goals or have continued to put them off all year.

For whatever reason this is the case, I’m here to let you know that there’s still time.

There’s still time to get on track with these. There might even still be enough time to accomplish them.

So often people set goals, but they ‘just’ talk about them.

“I’m going to do this” 

“I’m going to achieve this” 

“I’m fed up and sick of X so I’m going to do Y” 

(You can insert your own goals into the above).

We talk about what we want, what we are going to do and we’ll tell anyone who’ll listen.

“This is my goal” or “This is what Im going to do” Or “Enough is enough I’m changing X as of monday”. 

Aka…We TALK.

That feeling when we say those words and feel that sense of relief when we unburned that feeling of making a change. We set ourselves a goal and now a deadline…

“When I get back from my holidays I’ll…”

“Come monday thats it for me”. 

“Come the start of the year I’m going to start…”. 

We talk and we talk.

But is there much ‘DOING’ getting done? 

 

At some point the talking has to STOP and the doing has to START – Alpha Dave. 

 

So are you going to continue talking about what you want, putting it off and making excuses up for yourself…Or are you actually going to do what you said your going to do?

 

See its easy to talk, its easy to tell everyone your story, it’s easier to feel that sense of relief lifting when you unburned your goals and ambitions onto others.

However…

When does the ‘DOING’ begin for you? When do you start taking ACTION? 

Or does monday come around again and your STILL doing the same old thing, living the same life without ANY change.

 

I’m not here to p*ss on your parade, But also not here to cuddle you and tell you that your goals with happen WITHOUT you doing something/anything.

You have just under 90days to get on track and make some progress towards your goals before this years out.

It’s not to late.

Avoid putting it off until Monday, avoid putting it off until Xmas or in telling yourself you’ll start in January.

Your quite frankly just BS yourself. Your telling yourself what’s easiest to do NOW…continue to put off starting what you KNOW if going to transform your life.

The hardest part is starting, I get that.

But guess whats harder?

You staying and feeling the same way you do right now. Feeling unhappy, anxious, down, fed up, frustrated, in pain or whatever else your feeling.

NOW is the time to start.

Get out there today and JUST TAKE ONE STEP. That’s all it takes…Just do one thing to start your journey.

The minute you do this you’ll feel relieved and you’ll start to gain momentum. Then once you’ve done this…Take another step.

You’ve got just less than 90days to start turning your dreams into a reality…Can you afford to wait any longer!

Dare to believe in yourself…Dare to be Alpha.

Alpha Dave.

 

 

 

The Fuel To My Fire.

The power of the human mind, will and spirt is vastly underestimated in my opinion. And it’s probably ourselves that underestimate JUST how much we can do when we put our mind to something.

One year ago I remember this specific moment so clear…

Standing watching 10 of my fellow competitors walk out onto the competition floor, each one of them having their names read out and having the crowd cheers as they walked to their starting positions.

These 10 men had made it into the final of the Jolee Crossfit Competition. Which is a in house competition between the athletes within the Jolee Crossfit Box group. It’s by no means the Crossfit Games, however the athletes on show are ALL fighting for pride and that podium position, All good athletes in their own right.

One year ago I had to sit at the side and watch the final workout go ahead without me in it. It was my first ever real Crossfit competition so even making the final that day would have been tough…But I set very high standards of myself. The disappointment I felt that day was intense. In that moment as I watched these 10 guys go out for that final event I said to myself…

“Next year I will return to this competition and I’ll make the podium”.

In that moment I made a promise to myself and one I vowed to actually keep.

In the past I’ve made promises to myself, I’ll achieve this, or I’ll do that but somehow I end up finding ways of letting myself down. Giving up and putting it off. How many times have you said to yourself, I’m going to achieve X,Y,Z but ended up putting it off, or giving up?

HOWEVER for me this time it was different.

I don’t know if you’ve ever experienced this before in a certain area of your life? But when I started Crossfit training to be a competitive Crossfit athlete I just new it was for me. I just felt that I was made to do this. I know it might sound stupid to some, or maybe even a little arrogant to others, But I just new this is what I was made AND wanted to do.

So that day when I made ‘that’ promise to myself something in me clicked. A light went on and I new I was going to do whatever it took to make it back to the competition next year and do so in the best physical and mental shape of my life to podium.

This for me is the power of setting the ‘RIGHT’ goals for yourself.

Something you are hugely passionate about. Something that keeps you awake at night. Something that will get you to ‘do the work’ even when you can’t be bothered, or when your tired…This is the power of setting the ‘right’ goals for you.

Goals, success and high standards in life are NOT achieved when you ‘only’ work on them when you can be bothered. 

Far to often we as human allow our FEELINGS and EMOTIONS to dictate the effort we put into working on our goals. And this is why for so many of us we can miss the mark because we just do it when we feel like it.

Your dreams are turned into a reality when you are willing to consistently put the WORK IN regardless of how you feel, your emotions, your frame of mind, your lifestyle.

You have to in my opinion become almost robotic to it. All emotion is taken away and all you do…Is DO. You do whatever it is you need to do to ensure your goals are achieved.

And that’s what I had to do to.

Every day, every week, every month for 1 year I did what I needed to do.

  • I worked out 8-10 x per week every week, never missed a workout EVEN when on holiday.
  • I ate healthy and fuelled my body correctly around workouts.
  • I sacrificed nights out, meals out, drinking, social events.
  • I started to workout with better athletes and surround myself with people who are fitter, stronger and better Crossfitter’s than me.
  • I busted my ass in the gym so hard I’ve had to peel myself off the floor.
  • I got around the right people, coaches and support networks.
  • Every week I worked on my mental game. My mindset and mental strength.
  • I pushed myself to work on my weaknesses and continue to improve my strengths.
  • I entered other competitions during the year to improve my confidence and event strategy.

And I did this consistently for a year. And this is what counts.

Did I live like a monk for a year?…NO. I’ve been on holiday, I’ve been on stag do’s. I’ve had nights out. I’ve ate cake, chocolate. There’s been times when I could have pushed a little harder in the gym.

But I have always put the work in.

I tell you this NOT to impress you, but to impress upon you that it’s the consistency that counts towards you achieving your own goals. Not just doing it for a month, or going all in when you can be bothered. It’s the day to day small steps that when added together allow you to leap forward.

Fast forward to Sunday 17th September and my return to the Jolee Throwdown.

This time I was ready to go. That morning when I woke up I said to myself;

“I’ve done everything I could and was willing to do, I’m ready”.

After 5 brutal workouts. Throwing down against some very good competition. Getting pushed to my physical limits, achieving some personal bests, I ended up finishing 2nd.

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For me I feel like I WON 2nd place. Leaving it all on the competition floor and knowing that I did everything I could do that day. A proud moment and a significant ‘little win’ for me personally.

So what now?

For me it’s some down time to reflect and start to plot for the next 12 months. The next stage of competition. What I need to work on and improve, how I’m going to do this and what are my major goals for next year?

I wrote this blog post because I know what’s possible when we put our minds and hearts into something.

Whatever you need for fuel to motivate you, for me it was the disappointment of missing out last year. So for you, find that fuel to your fire and light that b*tch up.

Your goals are there for the taking…You’ve just got to be willing to ‘DO THE WORK’.

Before I leave you I’m reminded of something Crossfit Athlete Josh Bridges said;

“You better love the journey and the pain because the podium lasts about 2minutes” 

And this is so true for ANY goal. The journey and the effort you put in day in day out is what you MUST love. It’s what should motivate and inspire you. Because the winning, the success, the money, the podium, that reaching the goal at the end doesn’t last long at all because for us Alpha’s…It’s always on to the NEXT goal.

 

Dare to be Alpha.

Alpha Dave.

 

 

 

 

To Have MORE You Must Become MORE.

It’s human nature to desire, want and need more in our lives.

More purpose, happiness, love, success, money, freedom etc.

These desires run deep and I’ll say this right now…There’s nothing wrong with wanting more, its human nature.

This is why so many people set goals for themselves, everything from their career, income, bodies, lifestyles etc.

People set goals because they want more and a goal gives them a target, direction, Something to aspire and work towards.

On top of that if gives you good feelings when you image your life HAVING that goal in it.

Because of goal setting and the ‘You can have whatever you want’ motivational phenomenon we have seen a surge in motivational and coaching guru’s telling us we CAN have more, we CAN do it…Hell in a way, I’m one of them.

Through social media, youtube, audios, books, seminars, coaching events more and more people are chasing their dreams, And I personally tip my hat to everyone that’s chasing theirs.

HOWEVER >>>

You must also understand that there is a vital piece of this equation that is over looked.

To have more you must become MORE.

To achieve more success, love, happiness, income, health etc you MUST as an individual, evolve, grow and level up.

There’s this ‘theory’ that if we set goals, wish for them, work hard, then in some magical way those goals will become a reality for us….If it were only that simple.

When we set out sights on something (your goal/s) then they are usually bigger than you right now. What I mean by this is, your goal/s are out of reach and out of your current comfort zone/ability level RIGHT NOW.

Take something like a persons desire to earn more money.

Let’s say you’re on £30k per year, but you want to make £100k per year. That goal is entirely doable, However it is 3 x plus what you’re already earning.

The chances of you making £100k by CONTINUING to do the SAME things that’s making you £30k Is very unlikely.

The chances of you making 3 x your income and being the same person you are right now is also very unlikely.

You’ve heard this saying right?

 

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result”.

 

You aren’t going to increase your income by continuing to work as you are, With the SAME skill, knowledge, attitude, mindset and character level you currently have.

For your income to grow…You’ll need to grow.

You’ll need to become more knowledgeable and skilled in your field. Or you might have to open your own business in which case this brings on a whole new level of skills and expertise you’ll need.

You’ll need to work smarter, more efficient, be more productive, discover how to delegate, manage etc.

Just hoping and day dreaming about MORE money isn’t going to bring MORE into your life. You have to act and become MORE of a person that makes £100k per year.

Building your skills, knowledge, attitude, character, outlook, mindset, body, productivity.

And this principle CAN used for ANY goal.

Let’s say you want to run sub 10sec for 100m. Right now you currently run 10.5sec. Just by doing the exact same workouts, running intervals an lifting the same weights you’re currently doing WON’T get you any quicker.

As you get stronger you have to lift more weight, run faster intervals, train more efficiently, improve your technique. Work on your mental game, be more effective with your nutrition and recovery.

You have to level up your entire game.

This bridges the gap between where you are right now in your life…And where you want to be…

And this goes for anything in life.

The ONLY way you can meet your goals is for you to grow to the same size they are.

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Ok so what do you do next?

  • Start by looking at the characteristics and habits of people that have or are doing what you want. What do they do daily? What’s their mindset? Work ethic, attitude, commitment, daily habits? What are their daily actions like?

 

  • What habits and characteristics do you need to improve upon or adopt for you to reach a similar level? I’m not saying don’t be you…Always be yourself. What I’m saying is you need to be MORE than you are. So discover what you need to bridge the cap and start building these traits and habits into your life.

 

  • Everyday aspire to be and become more. Improving every area of you and your life. Your mindset, body, career, relationships. Aim and focus on becoming more of a rounded person. Levelling up every area of your life, attitude and character. It takes daily practise until it becomes part of your life.

 

  • Self evaluate yourself, look at your weaknesses. What areas are you weak in and can you either improve upon these through developing skills, hiring a coach etc or are these areas you can delegate and hire someone/s to help you. This is what being smart is all about.  With this also look at your strengths and how you can continue to improve upon these.

 

The key to going from WHERE you are right now in life, to where you want to be (reaching your goal/s) is about levelling up as a person. And the way to doing this is by working on YOU.

Grow as a person and you’ll grow to the size of your goals. 

Dare to dream big…Dare to be Alpha.

Alpha Dave.

 

 

It’s Not What You Do…It’s How You Do It.

It’s not what you do…It’s how you do it that counts.

Have you ever heard this saying before…

“How you do something is how you do everything”. 

For any entrepreneur, athlete or professional how you do ANYTHING is how you do EVERYTHING, It’s the STANDARDS you hold yourself to.

This relates to everything from your:

  • Character.
  • Attitude.
  • Professionalism.
  • Commitment.
  • Mindset.
  • Positivity.
  • How you deal with adversity.
  • Work ethic.
  • Determination.
  • Organisation.
  • Communication skills…The list goes on.

 

Let’s take attitude for a moment and use it in a context of a persons outlook and approach in life, And lets take it on something very simple like ‘time management’.

If you’re in business and you are always LATE. Late for meetings, late for clients, always have people waiting for you because you have poor time management this becomes a reflection of your attitude.

When it comes to those people who are doing business with you then your poor time management reflects on their opinion of you, how might conduct business and your standards. So they COULD get the opinion that you don’t value their time. That your product and service may also be late in delivery or service. That you can’t stick to time frames and schedules. That you may promise things and not deliver on your word.

All of these have consequences on whether people will continue to do business with you now and in the future.

All because you we were late for meeting/s.

How you do anything is how you do everything. 

So flip this on it’s head and let’s say your early for your meeting.

You’re punctual, You’re well prepared. They’re business matters to you. Your smart, your attitude is one that cares.

This then reflects on how they perceive you are in day to day business and it all comes down to something as simple your time management, because it’s the standards you hold yourself to.

How you do something is how you do everything. 

And this goes for athletes, business owners, people you are in a relationship with and anyone you come into contact with.

Your attitude, mindset, positivity, outlook, professionalism, work ethic etc will reflect in everything you do good or bad.

This is why your character is probably more important than your skill and ability level. You could be the most gifted athlete on the planet but if your work ethic sucks then it’s very unlikely you’re going to reach the peak in your sport.

However let’s say you at a good athlete, not the most naturally gifted BUT you work your ass off in training, in recovery, with your diet and never give less than 100% in everything you do…The likely hood of this person succeeding is dramatically increased over the more gifted athlete who has a weaker character.

Working on your character and attitude is just as important as brushing up on your skills and knowledge. And YES character is learned.

Sure we get a lot of it when we grow up and these are instilled in us during our upbringing…Both our good and not so good traits. But we can always work to be an improved human being…

It’s a state of mind.

Aiming to become a better, more rounded person and becoming a master of yourself and your mind is the ultimate personal journey.

Working on your mindset, outlook, positivity, dedication, self control, confidence, humility and commitment will make you a better person, strengthen your character and better in whatever you do in life.

These things just like any skills have to be worked on and improved. And by doing so you’ll grow to that next level in life.

The truth is you can’t have more in life if you can’t become MORE.

What I mean by this is, you can’t have more happiness, success, freedom, love, money, fun, humility, confidence to name a few if you can’t become MORE of a person yourself.

Just by being the same you as you are right now won’t take you to that next level in your life because you won’t grow. And without growth there is no progress.

You must grow as person in all areas and this starts with a desire to be and become more than you already are.

Develop your character and your level of success with dramatically increase.

Dare to be Alpha.

Alpha Dave.