How Your Mindset Can Run Your Business

I’m a massive advocate of journaling, and in recent years ‘this’ activity has had some positive press around it. For those who don’t really get ‘journaling’, it’s not necessarily keeping a diary of your day, although that info sometimes goes in. It’s more a process of writing down your current thoughts, feelings, emotions, ideas and self questioning your perceptions about yourself, actions, life and dreams.

What I want to hone in on in this post is the act of…Self Questioning.

Now I don’t care who you are, how successful you are, what you’ve achieved in life, we all suffer with negative thoughts and stories. These are often a series of negative thoughts we have flowing through our mind on a regular basis.

The problem MOST people have is they NEVER challenge their thoughts and stories. They just leave them to run wild in their mind and because of this often stay stuck in an area (or areas) of life. This is because they continue to listen and believe the thought and this controls the actions taken and ultimately the outcome they get.

Simple things like: “I’m stupid”, “I can’t do that”, “I should be more successful by now”, “I’m fat”, “Who will listen to me”, “I’m too old, I’m too young”, “I could never do that”, “I’m just not wired that way”, “I’ve always been the type of person who…”.

You get the idea.

I was doing my own journaling on Friday and the thought that came to my mind was…“I should have more clients by now”.

I became conscious of this thought and for a few minutes it controlled my focus. I started to think “Yeah I should have more clients now, why don’t I?” “What am I doing wrong, am I not good enough, am I not doing enough?”

These self petetuaing thoughts running through my mind, if these were left unchecked then I would start to either react to them and I believe them, OR they would over time erode my self confidence, which I know all too well from my childhood.

In the past thoughts like this have been left unchecked and I would get all stressed and anxious. I would start to feel fear and start to panic in my business. This has often led me to make mistakes in many ways from doing poor reactive marketing, taking on poor clients or just staying anxious and overwhelmed.

Think about the current story you have been telling yourself;

What is it?

What do you say to yourself, what are you believing about yourself?

With this thought or story, how is it affecting you?

Is it keeping you stuck in procrastination? keeping you stressed and anxious? Do you feel low on self belief and thus stay where you are? Does it make you reactive and fall into a victim mindset? Without knowing your negative story, I guarantee that it’s affecting you.

The key is to hear that story and then do something about it. This is where the POWER of self awareness comes in and self awareness is a learned skill that you continue to improve.

Due to the coaching, therapy and work I have put into myself over the years I had enough self awareness to CHALLENGE THE THOUGHT!

I said to myself: “F**K YOU”. I wrote it down, and then I simply went to work on it.

Now, here’s what some coaches do, they tell you to replace that negative thought with a positive one, an overriding affirmation.

All this does is starts to bog your mind down and overload it with thoughts, now your mind has more thoughts and in time goes between which one it should believe the most and too often this depends on the mood you are in. In all honesty it’s very difficult to replace one negative story with a positive one…WITHOUT challenging the negative thought to begin with. It’s the same as having weak housing foundations that are made out of rotting wood and instead of ripping them out and starting fresh, you just lay concrete over the top and hope that it will hold when you build your new 3 story house.

It won’t and our thoughts are the same.

I believe that in 2020 we will see a MAJOR trend where business leaders will focus on growing their mindset, become more self aware and learn to recognise and evolve their emotional intelligence as a prerequisite for success in the modern age of business.

Here’s why: Because the life we live, the success we have and how we see and rate ourselves, is ONLY a direct reflection on how we see the world, our OWN perspective, values and experiences, And for as long as we see it via our current perspective we WILL continue to experience the same results. In short, having the same mindset in 2020 will give you the same results or worse as it did in 2019, 2018, 2017, 2016 etc etc.

So if you want to unlock the potential within yourself and have that align to your business, then unlocking and cultivating your mindset is critical.

Read all the books you want, attend all the courses you desire, listen to all the podcasts that are out there, these are great…But they don’t help you do the most critical thing…Challenge your current module of thinking and this is where you can truly create a mindset that’s bullet proof for success. Because this is where we must do THE WORK and start cultivating our mind.

On Friday I sat down and asked myself if the thought I was having “I should have more clients by now“. Then I asked myself, “Is this true?” and I used my 3 step system (see below) to help me do this. This is also a system I use with my Performance Coaching Clients to help them overcome the stories that hold them back from being the best they can be.

Here’s a simple system that works, but only when you put the work into it.

1) What is the truth? Write the thought or story down and ask yourself is this even true?

Is there any evidence to suggest that it is? Is so, what evidence is there? If not then there is No truth in the story and you have created an expectation for yourself that doesn’t align with you, your goals or your why. The thought is just a thought and nothing more.

Then ask yourself, What is the actual truth?

In my case the truth was, I have the clients I have created because of the work I have put into creating them. If I want more clients then I need to either; keep doing what I’m doing, do more client attraction and also understand that doing thing consistently over time creates results. Remember time is time and the more time you put into something, the better the long term results. The quick fix, instant gratification model the world uses right now is total unfulfilling and mentally damaging BS.

2) Given the situation what do I want to create? So the situation is I would love more clients, so what can I do to create more clients? I write down solutions, options and ideas. Ask yourself the same question to your situation.

Create a list of possible solutions, NONE of which you have to do just yet, just be creative and think outside of your story and then pick one and DO IT. Ask yourself the question: Given the situation what do I want to create?

3) Create an agreement not an expectation. Move away from expectations and what you expect of yourself and others because you will always be left feeling unfulfilled or unsatisfied. Why?

Because people (or you) either don’t reach your expectations or they (or you do) and you expected that anyway…So either way you feel dissatisfied.

Instead create an agreement and accountability, something or someone to keep accountable to. This creates something you hold yourself to based upon the TRUTH of the situation and the outcomes you have set yourself. Accountability is often the missing piece for business leaders because they have NO one to keep them accountable to their growth, actions and decisions, who right now keeps you accountable to doing what you said you would do?

For me it’s a case of, I’m going to consistently do 3 things every month for 3 months to create 3 new clients. And I will be held accountable by X to do this.

For anyone who is reading this who wants to unlock their truest potential in 2020 and beyond, the key is to work past THAT story or thought you have running through your head. That one that’s keeping you where you are right now.

The reality is you can’t ignore it and hope it goes away. You can’t replace it with a positive affirmation and hope that it goes it just goes away…

BUT you can challenge it and realise that thoughts are just thoughts and they have NO power, control or hold over you…It’s you and I that put emotion and power into our thoughts. It’s us that allows them to control us. It’s like standing at the side of the road and each car passing is a thought, we can either let the cars drive by and pay them no attention, or we can latch into one specific type where we focus and obsess about it.

A thought is just a thought and it’s us that allows them to dictate our beliefs and actions. It’s us that allows us to become emotionally invested around them. If you have a challenging thought and are struggling to let it pass you by, then write it down and start challenging your assumptions around it. Get clarity and then use my 3 step system about to create outcomes and actions that MOVE YOU pass it.

This is some of the work I have done myself on a regular basis and the work I support my clients to do because without it we continue to stay frustrated and stuck in our situation and there’s nothing worse than knowing you have the potential to achieve more in life and with yourself, but you can’t seem to get out of your own way.

This is why the performance coaching work I do with my clients has so much transformational benefit and is supporting my clients to create the life and business they desire most. On top of that it’s the accountability for you to follow through on your actions, because who right now is holding you accountable?

If you would like to know more about how we could work together and have an informal conversation, message me direct or email me at: wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk

Have an amazing 2020

David

Stressed and Burned Out, Here’s WHY I Work With Men.

Have you ever been in that place, mentally, physically or emotionally?

That Stressed out or mentally and physically burned out place?

Maybe you’re in a struggle right now with both of these.

I speak to so many guys at business events or online who tell me they’re struggling right now and don’t know what to do, so they just keep trying to plow on, head down and ‘Get On With It’.

Or they have been broken and have started to put themselves back together again.

To be fair you could also be in a place of feeling stressed out, lost and overwhelmed but you’re not on your knees…But perhaps you’re just struggling with clarity, direction, energy or confidence because of it.

The issue I’m bringing up here is that at some point in time we are all going through, will go through it it or have gone through stressed, burn out, anxiety and maybe even depression.

I’ve been there myself.

I’ve been so stressed out I was lashing out. Taking my anger and frustration out on my fiancee.

I was in that place where all I wanted to do was discover what the hell I was doing and where I was going with my life…Sounds so simple right?

Probably one of the hardest things I ever had to do because I was looking in all the wrong places. It’s almost like you can see the signs, the lack of sleep, the anxiety, the stress, the anger, the frustration, the delusion…BUT it’s hard to pull yourself out of it.

I was always thinking that “When I get this, or make this much money, or get here in business…Everything else will take care of it’s self”

How WRONG I WAS.

It just didn’t matter what I did, I couldn’t figure it out.

And because of this, everything else I looked at in my life wasn’t up to standard…My own perspective on the situation.

I would look at other parts of my life and recent them. I even resented the success of my fiance whose career was taking off whilst I was stuck.

I was becoming bitter under the surface whilst smiling on the outside.

And you know what?

I look back now and I’m like, who the hell was that guy?

I can say I have come out the other side of this, but it was no miracle cure. It wasn’t like I read one book or took one course and BOOM my life transformed.

I did 2 years of solid soul searching and self-discovery.

I did 2 years of serious self-development.

I did 2 years of getting to know me, all my insecurities, self doubts, fears, judgements, emotions, self awareness…As well as all the things in my life that are great, my success, my achievements, what makes me happy.

I just worked on me.

Now I don’t think it takes that for everyone, some people it can take a few months, some people a life time and I guess everyone else in the middle.

This is why YOUR Journey is your journey and no one else can say…

HERE, I can fix you in 5 steps.

I always smell BS, and I bet you do too!

What it does take to start is awareness of the problem, or awareness that you even have a challenge.

Being aware that you are stressed, struggling and maybe even burned out.

After awareness, it’s clarity.

This is why I put my Man-Unleashed together in the first place.

I wanted to create a place, a program and a coaching environment where men could go and develop who we are, in a non judgemental space.

I know what it’s like, I struggled to be open and honest round others. We see it as a sign of weakness, right?

However, it’s actually a sign of strength. To say you are struggling, to be honest and open and ask for a little help…IS STRONG.

To be your true and authentic self and put that person in life…IS STRENGTH.

So I’ve created a program that can enable men to be open about their struggles, get clear on who they want to become and then map out a way of getting there…

WHILST being their true selves.

I work with men because I have been ‘that’ guy, the guy who on the outside looks like he had it together but on the inside was crumbling.

I got myself together, and I’m still working on who I am…I eventually found my voice and the self confidence to put it out there, so helping other guys to do the same.

WHY?

So these men can show up to each part of their life and live life as the very best version of themselves. Be the best farther, husband, friend, manager, boss, colleague, leader they can be.

David

PS: If you are a man who has read this and it resonates with you and you yourself are feeling challenged in life and not where you want to be, Message me at wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk . 

Are You Being Your BEST, TRUE Self?

In life can you honestly say you are being your best, true self? By this I mean are you being honest with who you are, confident to live as you, And always be yourself no matter the situation?

Do you have the confidence to be yourself and present that to the outside world?

At school and college I was always shy and really lacked the confidence to be myself, share my truth or put myself out there. Looking back I feared rejection so I kept myself down, hid away and didn’t share my real self unless it was with people I trusted.

This got me thinking, How many people other people are hiding themselves away or diming their light because they lack the confidence to ‘just’ be themselves at work, in business, socially, or even at home?

Or they adjust their personality to suit various situations or people? I’ve done this as well. Shown different sides of myself to certain people so they might accept me.

The reality is you can and should always be your True, Real and Authentic self and by doing so you’ll always bring the BEST version of yourself to each part of your life.

If people are unable or unwilling to accept the true you, well then I’d say **** them. Be YOU and find those people who accept you for who you are.

However the POWER in my opinion is you have to accept YOURSELF first. Hiding your true self away will only cause you pain and keep your light dim.

So how do you gain the confidence to be yourself, put yourself out there and be the best version of yourself? 

1) Accept who you currently are.

Learn who you are, what you are about and your values as a person. Discover yourself both your good and bad sides (we all have them).

Then accept yourself. Self acceptance goes a hell of a long way in boosting self belief and understanding your true value. Sure you’ll have to accept the ‘not so good’ parts of you, but if those parts hinder you…Then look at No.2.

2) Change, Adapt or Advance what doesn’t fit for you. 

If there’s a part of your personality that doesn’t fit your life and causes you pain…Work on changing it. Don’t be a arse **** and just accept it.

Adjusting our behaviour/s is essentially what we must do to develop as people. So it’s just a case of changing negative, damaging, disempowering behaviours with more positives ones. I won’t BS, this is tough, however over time with the right support, you can do this.

3) Know your worth

Know your true worth and value in all parts of life. Know what you bring to the world and honor that. Honor your gifts, personality, value and shine your light on the world around you.

4) Practise.

It sounds simple but just practise being you. Go to places and groups where you don’t know anyone and be you. Put yourself out there without fear of judgement or the need to be accepted. Then once you have confidence here, be you with those closest to you, those people can often be the toughest for us to be ourselves around.

5) Focus on something else. 

When you feel the fear of being your true self, or putting yourself out there, focus on something else. Be interested in other people, ask them questions and focus on getting to know them.

Direct your attention somewhere else and be curious of others and that will help you relax.

6) Repeat all the above and keep pushing to be you.

It’s not easy and it may take you a long time, but it’s worth it because the alternative is always you keeping you down, hiden, trapped and not valuing yourself…

Probably the worst thing you can do to yourself mentally is not valuing who you REALLY are.

 

David

PS: I’ll be launching a series of MasterMind coaching events soon just for guys. 

Focusing on helping men to level up their mind and body to reach their truest potential.

The best way to think of your potential in my opinion is;

“You know that you are capable of doing and being much more in this world…But right now you feel like you’re being held back or not confident to go ahead and become that person. Your potential and all you are capable of is being subdued”. 

My one day events will help you lay the foundations to overcome your adversities, overcome challenges you face and step up to being all you can be.

PPS: If you’re a guy, head to the link below and get notified first about the event. PLUS get my Man-Unleashed Daily Guide to super charge your Fitness, Focus, Finance and Fulfilment. 

https://mailchi.mp/49b84add0c9a/man-unleashed

What The Hell is Personal Development

What the hell is Personal Development and why should you care?

Personal development for me is about growing and enhancing a person’s self awareness, capabilities, skills, behaviours and self confidence to uncover and unleash someone’s full potential.

It’s helping a person get past their limiting beliefs or self doubts and in truth it’s about getting MORE out of yourself so you can DO, BE and ACHIEVE all you are in any area of Life, Business, Career and Body.

In short personal development is about growing as a person in one area of life or all areas. However I believe for the BEST results its about levelling up in every area.

What I teach my clients is that their goal is off in the future, a bigger ‘thing’ they are trying to reach or accomplish. So compared to their goal they are smaller, further away and currently NOT ready to achieve it, Because if they could…They would have already.

It’s like taking on their own mountain but having to learn to climb first to reach the top.

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Knowing where you are right now is about establishing reality and current positioning, any coach that BS a client at this point isn’t helping them, they are hindering them. Knowing where you are, warts and all is essential.

So personal development is what bridges the gap between where you are right now and the goal you desire.

It’s centred around growing as a person in mind, body, skill, capabilities and confidence so you can conquer that goal. It’s you levelling up and becoming more as an individual…So now you are capable of attaining and owning your goal.

 

Without self development we wouldn’t have laid the foundations to reach our goal or hold on to it.

Any worthwhile goal is achieved this way, hence why personal development is critical.

I base my coaching around developing people and helping them get more out of themselves…More than they ever thought possible so they can set goals, increase their capabilities and then own the sh*t out of their goals.


The Process

My approach is based on 3 critical steps to show a person how to develop towards their goal/s:

  1. Clarity

  2. Confidence

  3. Performance


Clarity

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This is about gaining clarity around who you are and what you want. This for me is essential and was one area of life I was really stuck in. I just couldn’t get clear on who I was or what I wanted.

Often this is the part people miss and they design their wants by what others around them have or do. They basis their requirements off what they ‘think’ they should do or have and worse still what society or social media dems to be right.

This is making people feel more lost, isolated and frustrated than ever before.

By doing some deep self discovery work you can understand YOU, who you are and what life you want to experience everyday. In all honesty your career, business, income, home, relationships and lifestyle are behind this in order of clarity.

This part is about you and knowing what turns you on, what makes you tick and what inspires you. Everything else is there to enable this to happen.

Clarity is very difficult to achieve on your own because it requires you being asked great questions by a coach that can help you think deeper and really question yourself.


Confidence

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Another essential piece to the puzzle because a lack of self belief is the number ONE reason most people don’t achieve their goals or start in the first place.

A limiting belief, fear, doubt or insecurity is holding more people back from going after what they truly want than any other barrier.

So building self confidence, awareness and emotional intelligence is huge. A big part of my coaching is build around becoming self assured in who you are and what you are capable of. This is much more than just reciting positive talk. It’s about practising self confidence and knowing you.

Yes confidence is practised. I will have you look at any area of your life right now you feel confident and comfortable in. May be its work, or a hobbie..

Now ask yourself how long have you been doing that for? What makes you confident at it? How many hours have you put into it?

Confidence is partly about discovering yourself. Partly about doing something over and over to get better at it, and…Well you’ll have to become a client to find out the rest 🙂

Once you build self esteem you’ll be unstoppable.


Performance

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The final piece to the personal development system is performance.

Increasing your performance is essential because you can not become all you can be with the same habits, mindset, behaviours and actions you use now, Think about that.

There will be certain behaviours and habits you have right now that help you and you’ll be able to move forward with. However some are hindering you and you’ll need to ditch them or maybe you can re-shape them into better habits.

Increasing performance is all about optimising how you Think, Act, Behave, Eat, Move, Sleep and Produce to enhance you as a person. Giving you greater energy, clarity, focus, production and awareness…And reducing stress, overwhelm, fatigue, burn out and procrastination.

Once you have the clarity and the confidence, NEXT you require the high performance habits that will get you doing what you want to do every day to get you to your objectives.

I coach my clients how to enhance what they do so they can set out each day fully equipped to take it on.


What Next?

So the goal or objective you have set for yourself will become achievable once you can do the above 3 steps, Add into the mix; Strategic planning, breaking down limiting beliefs, accountability and daily action steps and you have yourself one hell of a system.

Are you frustrated because you’re struggling to gain clarity around your next career or business move?

Do you struggle with self confidence when it comes to making certain decision or actions?

Are you an ambitious person but feel lost or like you’ve reached a ceiling and not sure what to do next?

Would you like to become a more effective business owner or leader to reach a higher level of income and success?

Do you want to reduce stress and self doubt WHILST gaining balance in your Life, Body and Business for more fulfilment, value and success?

If so, then I am here to help!

If you are a corporate professional or business owner I will take you through a personally tailored program that meets your needs.

No more living or playing the game of life at an average level…It’s time to become all you can be.

I will work with you 1-1 for 3-12 months to help you get more out of yourself personally and professionally than you ever thought possible.

If you are interested in what I offer and would like to speak further, then message  at wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk or contact me via LinkedIn HERE

 

Look Back to Look Forward For 2019…

It’s that time of year again, a fresh start, a time for new or updated goals and resolutions to be set.
As I sit down and start to get clear on the year ahead, I’m reminded of the power of reflection.

See what so many of us do is we become reactive to our current feelings and emotions.

For example, ‘I’ve put weight on, So I need to hit the gym 5 days per week and detox myself to lose it, I’ve got to get this weight off ASAP’.

Or ‘I hate my job I need a new career so I going fully into that’.

Or ‘I’m broke after Xmas I need to earn more money’.

Or ‘I’m surrounded by negative people so I need to get away from them’.

These are all valid goals, However before you start transforming your entire life I implore you to spend some time looking back over the past 12months and asking yourself some key questions;


What did you learn or discover about yourself? 

What made you happy? 

What do you want to do more off and then what do you want to do less of?

What’s changed in your life over the past year? 

How do you feel about those changes? 

What word or phrase would sum up the past 12 months for you? 

What mistakes did you make? 

How does those mistakes make you feel, or what’s your thoughts on them?


The word that comes to mind for me when I reflect over the past year was…Discovery, 

More clear than that, Self Discovery.

My year was full of moments of self discovery and personal awareness.

Discovery in key areas of my life such as;

My relationship with exercise and how I was using it as a mental and emotional crutch. And how this was giving me serious anxiety and overwhelm.

Discovery in my relationships with family members and the importance of correcting these and moving forward in my life.

Discovery in my own personal style and self confidence as a man. Coming to terms more with who I am and being more comfortable with that.

Discovery in what makes me happy and what I want from my future with Helenlee (my fiancee) and our life together.

Discovery in my career and what I want to do, achieve and become. Discovery on the importance of serving and coaching other people. Becoming clear on what my purpose is and where I can best help people.

These discoveries all came about at various times throughout the year however I wasn’t aware of them all until I actually sat back and reflected on my year and had a conversation about it.
This shaped my year but this will also shape my coming year. Because of all the self discovery I have made about myself, who I am, what I want, where I want my life to do, what makes me happy, what I want more of and what I want less of.
This allows me to prepare and set my intension for the next year.

This means I’m not reactive but actually proactive.

My next 12months will follow on from 2018.
By looking back and becoming aware of what we have done, this can give us clarity about the changes or continuation of what we have or haven’t been doing.
So before you settle down and start putting together your New Years resolutions, take some time to reflect on 2018 this could have a hugely positive affect on 2019 and beyond.


I’m now taking on coaching clients for 2019. 

Do you have a significant career or business dream/goal you wish to achieve?

What’s the biggest challenge you face right now in your business or career? 

Do you have a life challenge or goal that you feel you’d need support, focus or clarity to accomplish? 

What’s that one thing you want that you know when you have it will change your life? 

“I coach people on whatever is challenging them at the time or whatever opportunity is not being achieve. Helping clients self manage themselves on a daily basis to produce the results they desire most”. 

If you want to transform the results you are experiencing for 2019 and beyond then click the link below:

https://davidjohnwilkinson.wordpress.com/coaching/

The ONLY Reason I’m Coaching is Because of This.

Yesterday was the start of me doing my level 3 diploma in Learning and a Development with CIPD.

This past year and now next year (2019) will have been mainly taken up of me doing continued learning and carving out a second career for myself.

The thing is though 12-18 months ago I was lost. I wasn’t doing any performance coaching or any personal development courses.

I new I wanted to become a professional coach and help people achieve their goals through powerful conversations, but I had nothing else figured out; I didn’t know what to do, how to do it, where to start?

And I thought these we’re my issues…

But they weren’t.

My real issuee was a limiting belief I had,

My self confidence wasn’t where it needed to be because I was more focused on

“What will other people say or think?”

So instead of starting a new path and jumping in with fun, love and passion…

I was more concerned with the worry of what others would say and this stopped me.

But let’s be honest, How many of us struggle with our own mindset?

There’s always something we put off doing, or starting or continuing because of a limiting belief we may have.

The No.1 thing that kills peoples ambition, dreams, passions, purpose and their ability to have and live the life they want…Is their limiting beliefs.

I was disguising mine behind the fluffy stuff of; When, What, Where, How…

It was stopping me focusing on the bigger picture.

Our beliefs control how we act, think, behave and this obviously affects us.

Limiting beliefs around:

Self confidence, money, self worth, our abilities, self identity, Judgement, Love, Rejection, Trust, Failure, Age..

These are just a few that can shape the course of our lives.

What COULD you putting off because of mindset?

Like I said in Monday’s email, We aren’t broken. There’s nothing wrong with us…

We just have a blockage. It’s like having a blocked sink at home and the water can’t flow…

You don’t rip the kitchen out and put in a new one…You find away of removing the blockage.

Life is the same.

This is how coaching helped me, it still helps me now. It helps me become and create the life I want.

It helps to create opportunities and get past blockages.

Performance, success, life, business coaching…Whatever you want to call it works.

It worked for me,

It works for my clients

And it’s helping people all over the world either get past their biggest challenge and frustration in life right now, or its helping them create the life they want,

I was able to walk into that classroom yesterday on my L&D course and start a new chapter of my life…

I couldn’t mentally have done that 18months ago.

What are you not doing or putting off that you really really would love to do, have or be?

What right now is causing the biggest challenge in your life that you want resolved?

An invitation from me to you…Email me if you want to have a real in-depth person to person conversation and let’s see together what you can achieve, do or create in and for your life.

email me at wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk

David

What is Performance Coaching?

I get asked this question a fair bit, in fact in a recent poll I discovered that 70% of people aren’t sure what performance coaching actually is. So how are they ever going to know the real tangible benefits of what this service can bring to their lives, careers and business?

I actually explain it to my clients as ‘Performance Coaching’ however for many people this can still leave them in the dark.

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So I thought a short blog post would help clear it up.

Performance as stated by the dictionary is: “How well a person does a piece of work or task”. Other words linked to performance are; achievement, fulfilment, completion, implementation, execution.

So when I talk about performance coaching what I’m referring to is the improvement of an individuals performance so they can achieve the goals they set themselves, have greater success within their business, lives, career or get beyond certain challenges or hurdles that are holding them back.

Coaching is all about the person in front of you helping them develop, strengthen their skills, gain more confidence and self assurance, clarity and focus.

CEO of Google Eric Schmit said, “Everyone needs a coach”. 

  • If you’re performance, implementation, execution and completion of work tasks is poor, then you’re business will be perform poor.
  • If you’re un-organised, un-productive, a procrastinator or someone who lacks the ability to take action, then you’re business will struggle.
  • If you’re the type of person who struggles with clarity and the direction/vision of your business then guess what? You’re business won’t move forward or if it does move it’s likely to be in a direction you want DON’T want.
  • If you have a goal or outcome you want to achieve but are unsure ‘how’ to get there or even start then you’ll likely continue to procrastinate or have self doubt and possibly stagnate.
  • If you lack confidence in yourself or your ability to make a decisive decision then this is going make you anxious, stressed and miss potential opportunities that would be idea for you.

Now just so we are clear if you’re business and success isn’t where you want it to be right now…That’s ok, you haven’t failed in anyway. You are already a high achieving individual because you have what it takes to go out on your own. And believe me when I tell you this, I’ve struggled in business. There are times when I’ve procrastinate or lost focus and felt so overwhelmed it’s crippled me.

We are all human at the end of the day.

However, what I am talking about here are those of you who DON’T want to struggle anymore.

Those of you who want to grow, expand and take their business to that next level whether that be financial, status, size, reach etc.

Those of you how want to find clarity and focus in what you’re doing so you can wake up everyday knowing exactly what to do and how to do it.

Those of you who want a structured business and to have it running on autopilot for you. You have systems in place, your organised, you’re clear and you’re disciplined to do what you said you would do.

Those of you who want more client, to increase their reach and to get more interaction.

It’s for those who want to increase the performance and output of their business, and what I do is coach you to do just that. 

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  • I coach, support, motivate and challenge you to work towards a set goal/s or objective/s you want. 
  • I help you raise your bar, your game and the level at which you operate at. 
  • I support you in the decisions you make and action steps you focus on doing. 
  • I’m a sounding board to you. Someone who is non-biased to you and can help you objectively with the problems you face and together discover a solution you are happy with.
  • I coach you to improve your overall daily working performance so you are the most productive, focused and disciplined you can be. 
  • I help you get crystal clear on your business vision and purpose and how this fits with your life and goals. 
  • I support you to increase you’re own self development which in turn develops your business. 
  • I’m there to listen to you and support you through the changes and growth you go through. 
  • I’m there to coach and get the best out of you. 
  • I coach you to get through you’re mental barriers and limitations whether that be self doubt, loss of confidence, low motivation etc. 

 

So to conclude: 

Performance = I coach you towards your goals and to increase you’re overall performance, this results in optimal performance within your key area’s of your life, career or business that you’d like to work on, develop or grow.

Coaching = Coaching is what I do. I don’t tell you want to do, this isn’t coaching. It’s your business, your goals, your life. I support you to reach those outcomes in a personally bespoke, goal specific, action orientated, 1-1 approach.

I hope this helps clear this up and thank you for reading.

David.

 

PS: For more information about my coaching service, head over to my page: https://davidjohnwilkinson.wordpress.com/coaching/

We Learn From Our Mistakes Not Our Wins.

There are some very powerful lessons that we CAN learn as a result of mistakes, setbacks, mishaps or even our failures. These lessons, if learned have the capacity to transform our future success.

Now I don’t really like using that word…Failure because we never truly fail. However I know that that particular word is used to describe a particular event that we have had a lack of success in.

What I learned…

On Saturday I took part in another Crossfit finals competition, This one was called ‘Battle For Middle Ground’. I was entered into the middle ground category which was an intermediate comp.

During this competition us athletes had 4 events to complete and one event to complete 2 weeks prior to the competition starting, so 5 events in total.

The Events: 

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This is how my competition stacked up.

  • Event 0 (the one we did 2 weeks before the event). This was a 10 rep max push press, back squat and deadlift all set in 12min total = 16th.
  • Event 1 = 2nd
  • Event 2 part A = 26th
  • Event 2 part B = 1st
  • Event 3 = 12th
  • Event 4 = 3rd.

Overall my finish was 4th and I narrowly missed the podium by 3 points.

As you can see I had some very good finishes throughout the day however a 16th and a 26th place finish in 2 events stopped me reaching that podium. And this is what myself and you can learn from our mistakes.

See a win doesn’t really tell you that much, ok it tells you what you’re doing is probably working, or maybe you were a little lucky, but a loss can give us so much more information.

For me when it comes to Crossfit I know where my weaknesses lie, I have tangible results and data that conform this its not just based on theory or feelings. To win a Crossfit competition of this standard I would need to finish all my events at a minimum inside the top 10 on everything, maybe even top 5.

I had 3 event finishes outside the top 10 and then 3 top 3 placings. This shows my inconsistency as an athlete and what my strengths and weaknesses are.

I believe that for any of us it’s our loses that can show us what we need to fix.

Take any area of life you may have come up short in, work, career, business, sport, hobbies, financial. You’ll have come up short and missed your mark and this is where we LEARN. Our mistakes highlight the part/s of us we need to improve upon, or the extra knowledge, skills, abilities we need to get or improve upon so we have better success next time.

A setback gives us data, an actual tangible result that when analysed tells us what we need to do next time so we don’t get the SAME result. 

I challenge you to look at where your coming up short, what might be holding you back, what areas could you be making mistakes in that are affecting your bigger picture and correct these. Look at the information that’s been given to you, be honest with yourself and then ‘Do The Work’ to correct them.

I could easily look at my high place finishes and think to myself ‘I’m doing ok, I’m winning events and coming top 3’. And YES that is nice to see but in all honesty it means nothing to me if I’m not winning the competition overall.

I’d rather come top 5 in all the events and WIN the competition overall, than win a few workouts and miss the podium.

For me that’s the fuel to my fire, my motivation, my drive. Knowing I can get better and doing what it takes. I’m not the complete athlete yet, Im not the complete performance coach or motivational speaker I know I can be. That’s why everyday I try and improve one part of each of these.

I look at what I suck at, what I’m weak at, I’m honest with myself, self critical and I look to putting it right.

In Crossfit it can be difficult for some athletes to admit they are weak at something, they don’t like to be in the gym surrounded by their friends, fellow athletes, competitors and look foolish as they try and master a skill, lift or improve strength in things they are weak at. Ego can very easily get in the way here, and I’ll admit I do feel this way from time time to time.

But it’s only when we embrace these moments, these workouts, these opportunities to get better that we WILL actually improve.

I won’t be competing in individual competitions for about 6-8months now. I’ll only be doing team comps or maybe something individual for fun, but for major individual comps i’ll be taking a back seat so I can work on my weaknesses and come back a stronger athlete. I’ll be putting the work in so I correct the mistakes as I work towards my long term goal.

So my challenge to you is be prepared to screw up, miss your mark and have setbacks. You’ll discover these when you step out your comfort zone and when you start pushing to your goals. In these moments I challenge you to look at your weaknesses, be self critical, be honest with yourself and then do the work to put it right for next time.

Why?

Because when you do then you grow, evolve, level up and get closer to your goal. You have to be aware of your weaknesses as much as your strengths because this is also where you need your attention. Then you can correct them and move further forward.

I challenge you to do what it takes in training, in self development, in self mastery and be prepared to fail. I challenge you to get out your comfort zone and maybe even feel like you look foolish from time to time because when you embrace your ability to learn from mistakes then there isn’t ANYTHING that can stop your progress apart from your own ego. 

Alpha Dave.

 

Mistake + Correction = Learning. 

 

 

What Feeling Exhausted Taught Me.

I wrote the below blog in 2014 and it STILL rings true today…

What feeling exhausted taught me today.

 

So this morning after a 5am alarm call (I hate getting up before 6:30am, it’s not good for me)

I rolled out of bed, got ready and made it into work.

Standing there this morning as I waited for my double espresso to pour out I had all these feels

Of being overwhelmed.

I was feeling like I had so much to do and not enough time to do that, you’ve almost certainly felt this way before right?

I was thinking there’s just so much work to be done to make DH fitness into the life changing company it can be.

Also thinking about how much I want to be the best athlete I can be
As I sat there sipping my coffee, both these feeling were followed up with doubt, fear, overwhelm, dread and stress.

Right there and then I stopped myself in the moment that point where you catch yourself

And I said to myself…

…What if all I do is being better today than I was yesterday?

Let me say that again

What if all I do is be better today that I was yesterday?

Because let’s face that’s all we have, the now, the today

The past is over right, we can’t change that

The future isn’t really ours to own or change either.

Yeah we can plan, organise, dream etc.

But we really only have today and right now.

So instead of me thinking how can I improve all these areas in my life and stressing the f**k out about then, I just though…

What can I do today to be better?

An immense weight lifting from me,

So today I’m going to do one thing to inspire one person (might even come from this blog that’s why I wrote it)

Its might be during our team training and development session today
Or it might be a member of dh fitness…either way all I need to do to know I’m on point today is inspire and motivate 1 person.

As for my journey to being the best athlete I can be

All I’m going to do is go and train and give it the best i’ve got, nothing more and nothing less…That’s all I can ask of myself.

Thanks for reading the ramble

Alpha Dave, Aiming to be the best version of myself one day at a time.

My Next Crossfit Competition

My next Crossfit Competition will be this Saturday and I’ll be competing at the ‘First Means Everything’ Finals.

My focus and mindset going into this competition is to give my absolute best and I will leave ‘everything’ I’ve got on the competition floor.

As they would say “The hay is in the barn”. I’m the most physically and mentally prepared I have EVER been for a competition and this Saturday will be my opportunity to put all the preparation to the test.

However it’s the journey that pushes me.

See the goal does not matter as much as we believe it does. Regardless of size, scale, time frame, why you want it etc…None of this matters as much as the process…aka the journey.

The journey we undertake to move us towards our goal/s, that’s where we must excel. That’s where we must find happiness, joy, fun, freedom, contentment and personal growth.

The goal will never be the be-all-end-all, it’s the journey that should make us feel alive, passionate, purposeful.

Sure the goal is important because it gives us direction, something to work towards and clarity of our progress, a kind of test at the end to see how well we’ve performed, or a pat on the back for something achieved.

I could never reach my goals if I hated the process and that’s because it doesn’t matter how motivated I am, if my hearts not truly in it then its not for me.

The purpose of the process is to change you.

 

Will the journey be easy?

Absolutely not, it will test you, push you and move you further out of your comfort zone than ever before because that this is the purpose of the process. The process is meant to ‘CHANGE’ you.

You can not be the same person you are right now today if you want more, better, bigger, happier, healthier, freedom in your life. The very idea of having more means you as a person MUST become MORE.

You need to level up, grow, self develop and move yourself onto a high plain in life. Then once you are committed to this, then the goal becomes closer.

And remember with any goal, once it’s been achieved and then celebrated you’ll always desire something else. This is what makes the greats…Great. They never settle, they never stop, they never stagnate, their desire never stops. When it does they leave that area of life behind and move on.

When the journey stops being your purpose in life, then you’ll discover a new path to follow.

Note, that when you set a goal for yourself and you feel that rush of excitement comes over you with all the possibilities it will bring to your life, I encourage you to start thinking about the journey YOU must take to achieve that specific outcome.

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Consider WHO do you need to become to achieve your goal/s.

What will your daily habits will look like?

What will your weekly schedule look like?

What does your mindset need to become?

Who you will need to bring into your life to support you?

What strengths do you have that will assist you?

What areas do you need to improve?

What skills and knowledge you will need to adopt?

How much this is going to take from your life, commitment level?

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There is a personal transformation you will need to go through to reach your ambitions in life and it will change you.

Be ready for change because it’s one of the only certainties in life.

Alpha Dave.