What The Hell is Personal Development

What the hell is Personal Development and why should you care?

Personal development for me is about growing and enhancing a person’s self awareness, capabilities, skills, behaviours and self confidence to uncover and unleash someone’s full potential.

It’s helping a person get past their limiting beliefs or self doubts and in truth it’s about getting MORE out of yourself so you can DO, BE and ACHIEVE all you are in any area of Life, Business, Career and Body.

In short personal development is about growing as a person in one area of life or all areas. However I believe for the BEST results its about levelling up in every area.

What I teach my clients is that their goal is off in the future, a bigger ‘thing’ they are trying to reach or accomplish. So compared to their goal they are smaller, further away and currently NOT ready to achieve it, Because if they could…They would have already.

It’s like taking on their own mountain but having to learn to climb first to reach the top.

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Knowing where you are right now is about establishing reality and current positioning, any coach that BS a client at this point isn’t helping them, they are hindering them. Knowing where you are, warts and all is essential.

So personal development is what bridges the gap between where you are right now and the goal you desire.

It’s centred around growing as a person in mind, body, skill, capabilities and confidence so you can conquer that goal. It’s you levelling up and becoming more as an individual…So now you are capable of attaining and owning your goal.

 

Without self development we wouldn’t have laid the foundations to reach our goal or hold on to it.

Any worthwhile goal is achieved this way, hence why personal development is critical.

I base my coaching around developing people and helping them get more out of themselves…More than they ever thought possible so they can set goals, increase their capabilities and then own the sh*t out of their goals.


The Process

My approach is based on 3 critical steps to show a person how to develop towards their goal/s:

  1. Clarity

  2. Confidence

  3. Performance


Clarity

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This is about gaining clarity around who you are and what you want. This for me is essential and was one area of life I was really stuck in. I just couldn’t get clear on who I was or what I wanted.

Often this is the part people miss and they design their wants by what others around them have or do. They basis their requirements off what they ‘think’ they should do or have and worse still what society or social media dems to be right.

This is making people feel more lost, isolated and frustrated than ever before.

By doing some deep self discovery work you can understand YOU, who you are and what life you want to experience everyday. In all honesty your career, business, income, home, relationships and lifestyle are behind this in order of clarity.

This part is about you and knowing what turns you on, what makes you tick and what inspires you. Everything else is there to enable this to happen.

Clarity is very difficult to achieve on your own because it requires you being asked great questions by a coach that can help you think deeper and really question yourself.


Confidence

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Another essential piece to the puzzle because a lack of self belief is the number ONE reason most people don’t achieve their goals or start in the first place.

A limiting belief, fear, doubt or insecurity is holding more people back from going after what they truly want than any other barrier.

So building self confidence, awareness and emotional intelligence is huge. A big part of my coaching is build around becoming self assured in who you are and what you are capable of. This is much more than just reciting positive talk. It’s about practising self confidence and knowing you.

Yes confidence is practised. I will have you look at any area of your life right now you feel confident and comfortable in. May be its work, or a hobbie..

Now ask yourself how long have you been doing that for? What makes you confident at it? How many hours have you put into it?

Confidence is partly about discovering yourself. Partly about doing something over and over to get better at it, and…Well you’ll have to become a client to find out the rest 🙂

Once you build self esteem you’ll be unstoppable.


Performance

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The final piece to the personal development system is performance.

Increasing your performance is essential because you can not become all you can be with the same habits, mindset, behaviours and actions you use now, Think about that.

There will be certain behaviours and habits you have right now that help you and you’ll be able to move forward with. However some are hindering you and you’ll need to ditch them or maybe you can re-shape them into better habits.

Increasing performance is all about optimising how you Think, Act, Behave, Eat, Move, Sleep and Produce to enhance you as a person. Giving you greater energy, clarity, focus, production and awareness…And reducing stress, overwhelm, fatigue, burn out and procrastination.

Once you have the clarity and the confidence, NEXT you require the high performance habits that will get you doing what you want to do every day to get you to your objectives.

I coach my clients how to enhance what they do so they can set out each day fully equipped to take it on.


What Next?

So the goal or objective you have set for yourself will become achievable once you can do the above 3 steps, Add into the mix; Strategic planning, breaking down limiting beliefs, accountability and daily action steps and you have yourself one hell of a system.

Are you frustrated because you’re struggling to gain clarity around your next career or business move?

Do you struggle with self confidence when it comes to making certain decision or actions?

Are you an ambitious person but feel lost or like you’ve reached a ceiling and not sure what to do next?

Would you like to become a more effective business owner or leader to reach a higher level of income and success?

Do you want to reduce stress and self doubt WHILST gaining balance in your Life, Body and Business for more fulfilment, value and success?

If so, then I am here to help!

If you are a corporate professional or business owner I will take you through a personally tailored program that meets your needs.

No more living or playing the game of life at an average level…It’s time to become all you can be.

I will work with you 1-1 for 3-12 months to help you get more out of yourself personally and professionally than you ever thought possible.

If you are interested in what I offer and would like to speak further, then message  at wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk or contact me via LinkedIn HERE

 

The Struggle in Business is REAL

If you’ve been in business long enough you’ll know that it’s a roller coaster of ups and downs, wins and knockbacks.

There are times when you’re on top and then times when you feel like you just want to close the doors and walk away…It’s certainly not for the faint hearted.

Overall it’s usually a mixture of passion, drive, fun and a pigheaded attitude that keeps us going. That sense of something I’ve created, built and achieved is a huge driver for people. As well their ability to partly control their income, energy and future.

A driving passion that gets up on a morning is helping people with the skills, influence and knowledge I have, supporting them towards their goals and dreams.

During a performance coaching session with a client of mine who has recently set up their own business with a colleague it became apparent the early issues they face.

Where are we going, how will we get there and what is expected of us by and for each other?

The same can be true for you in business in both a partnership setting or on your own.

Managing your expectations and commitments to your work, self-management and productivity is king.

This newly formed business partnership started because they had a common passion and drive to create something amazing and they know they have a place in their market for it.

They have the skills and knowledge in their field, however running a business is a different animal all together.

So here’s what was discovered in my clients session:

They need to get clear on the following and have this completely mapped out to avoid bigger issues, fall outs and challenges down the line.

  • Where are we going? (Vision)
  • How will we get there? (Strategic plan)
  • How will we track our individual performance? (Their working performance)

 


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No.1 The Vision for your business is critical. Without it you will continue to just tread water and stay frustrated with your lack of direction and progress.

Especially in a business partnership knowing the vision of the company is key and that both people are pulling in the same direction.

Everyone thinks they have a vision but a recent survey of business owners suggested that less than 30% of them are crystal clear on the objectives and future of their business.


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No.2 The Strategic Plan. How will we get to the vision? If one person has one view point and the other has their own, then there will be is a continuous butting of heads. This is the major issue my client faces right now.

One party believes in doing it ‘this’ way and the other ‘this’ way. Its creating friction and a lack of progress. Neither are right or wrong, this issue is they aren’t on the same page.

Mapping out HOW to best get to the objectives of the business that include both parties is key. This is what we are working on in coaching and doing some facilitation to solve.

If you have your own business you won’t have this issue because you’ll make the final decision. However what you might struggle with is selecting the best plan for you and actually sticking with it. Food for thought.


Performance

No.3 Personal Performance. This is how your work in monitored. In a self employed basis you might measure yourself against a simple metric of money in vs money out. The business is growing if I have more money in than the previous month or year.

That’s the very basics of what you want to measure your self performance against. Getting KPI’s in place is key for ANY business owner. Discovering what these are can sometimes be a little trickier.

How will you measure your performance and ultimately the performance of your business?

In my clients case they need this for each other because there’s nothing worse than one person who feels like they are doing more for the work than their partner.

KPI’s need to be put into place to manage expectation levels and to have a standard of ‘This is what you do and this is how you know what you’re doing is working’.

It’s not complicated but it can be easily missed.


 

Opening a business is exciting especially at the start because the possibilities are endless. You can feel the energy and drive coming off you in spades at the start.

In all that excitement ensure that the BASICS are done, the above 3 are just the start of that.

Regardless if you are on your own, a partnership or a team, getting those 3 things right at the start will save you huge headaches down the line.

The work you do ON your business isn’t just on marketing, sales and creating more programs/services…The work is also creating the vision, the plan and how you will get there and measure/track this along the way.

It’s not always sexy but it is essential.

David.

For my Business Performance Coaching services information and to find out more head over to:

https://davidwilkinsonperformance.com/business-coaching/

Look Back to Look Forward For 2019…

It’s that time of year again, a fresh start, a time for new or updated goals and resolutions to be set.
As I sit down and start to get clear on the year ahead, I’m reminded of the power of reflection.

See what so many of us do is we become reactive to our current feelings and emotions.

For example, ‘I’ve put weight on, So I need to hit the gym 5 days per week and detox myself to lose it, I’ve got to get this weight off ASAP’.

Or ‘I hate my job I need a new career so I going fully into that’.

Or ‘I’m broke after Xmas I need to earn more money’.

Or ‘I’m surrounded by negative people so I need to get away from them’.

These are all valid goals, However before you start transforming your entire life I implore you to spend some time looking back over the past 12months and asking yourself some key questions;


What did you learn or discover about yourself? 

What made you happy? 

What do you want to do more off and then what do you want to do less of?

What’s changed in your life over the past year? 

How do you feel about those changes? 

What word or phrase would sum up the past 12 months for you? 

What mistakes did you make? 

How does those mistakes make you feel, or what’s your thoughts on them?


The word that comes to mind for me when I reflect over the past year was…Discovery, 

More clear than that, Self Discovery.

My year was full of moments of self discovery and personal awareness.

Discovery in key areas of my life such as;

My relationship with exercise and how I was using it as a mental and emotional crutch. And how this was giving me serious anxiety and overwhelm.

Discovery in my relationships with family members and the importance of correcting these and moving forward in my life.

Discovery in my own personal style and self confidence as a man. Coming to terms more with who I am and being more comfortable with that.

Discovery in what makes me happy and what I want from my future with Helenlee (my fiancee) and our life together.

Discovery in my career and what I want to do, achieve and become. Discovery on the importance of serving and coaching other people. Becoming clear on what my purpose is and where I can best help people.

These discoveries all came about at various times throughout the year however I wasn’t aware of them all until I actually sat back and reflected on my year and had a conversation about it.
This shaped my year but this will also shape my coming year. Because of all the self discovery I have made about myself, who I am, what I want, where I want my life to do, what makes me happy, what I want more of and what I want less of.
This allows me to prepare and set my intension for the next year.

This means I’m not reactive but actually proactive.

My next 12months will follow on from 2018.
By looking back and becoming aware of what we have done, this can give us clarity about the changes or continuation of what we have or haven’t been doing.
So before you settle down and start putting together your New Years resolutions, take some time to reflect on 2018 this could have a hugely positive affect on 2019 and beyond.


I’m now taking on coaching clients for 2019. 

Do you have a significant career or business dream/goal you wish to achieve?

What’s the biggest challenge you face right now in your business or career? 

Do you have a life challenge or goal that you feel you’d need support, focus or clarity to accomplish? 

What’s that one thing you want that you know when you have it will change your life? 

“I coach people on whatever is challenging them at the time or whatever opportunity is not being achieve. Helping clients self manage themselves on a daily basis to produce the results they desire most”. 

If you want to transform the results you are experiencing for 2019 and beyond then click the link below:

https://davidjohnwilkinson.wordpress.com/coaching/

The ONLY Reason I’m Coaching is Because of This.

Yesterday was the start of me doing my level 3 diploma in Learning and a Development with CIPD.

This past year and now next year (2019) will have been mainly taken up of me doing continued learning and carving out a second career for myself.

The thing is though 12-18 months ago I was lost. I wasn’t doing any performance coaching or any personal development courses.

I new I wanted to become a professional coach and help people achieve their goals through powerful conversations, but I had nothing else figured out; I didn’t know what to do, how to do it, where to start?

And I thought these we’re my issues…

But they weren’t.

My real issuee was a limiting belief I had,

My self confidence wasn’t where it needed to be because I was more focused on

“What will other people say or think?”

So instead of starting a new path and jumping in with fun, love and passion…

I was more concerned with the worry of what others would say and this stopped me.

But let’s be honest, How many of us struggle with our own mindset?

There’s always something we put off doing, or starting or continuing because of a limiting belief we may have.

The No.1 thing that kills peoples ambition, dreams, passions, purpose and their ability to have and live the life they want…Is their limiting beliefs.

I was disguising mine behind the fluffy stuff of; When, What, Where, How…

It was stopping me focusing on the bigger picture.

Our beliefs control how we act, think, behave and this obviously affects us.

Limiting beliefs around:

Self confidence, money, self worth, our abilities, self identity, Judgement, Love, Rejection, Trust, Failure, Age..

These are just a few that can shape the course of our lives.

What COULD you putting off because of mindset?

Like I said in Monday’s email, We aren’t broken. There’s nothing wrong with us…

We just have a blockage. It’s like having a blocked sink at home and the water can’t flow…

You don’t rip the kitchen out and put in a new one…You find away of removing the blockage.

Life is the same.

This is how coaching helped me, it still helps me now. It helps me become and create the life I want.

It helps to create opportunities and get past blockages.

Performance, success, life, business coaching…Whatever you want to call it works.

It worked for me,

It works for my clients

And it’s helping people all over the world either get past their biggest challenge and frustration in life right now, or its helping them create the life they want,

I was able to walk into that classroom yesterday on my L&D course and start a new chapter of my life…

I couldn’t mentally have done that 18months ago.

What are you not doing or putting off that you really really would love to do, have or be?

What right now is causing the biggest challenge in your life that you want resolved?

An invitation from me to you…Email me if you want to have a real in-depth person to person conversation and let’s see together what you can achieve, do or create in and for your life.

email me at wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk

David

What’s Running Your Business, You Or Anxiety?

Do you ever wake up some mornings feeling super motivated, like you can just go to work and crush your to do list?

What about days when you feel so overwhelmed that you get nothing done and find you’ve spent all day time wasting on social media or doing nothing of value?

You might not know it but both these are states of anxiety, stress or overwhelm and they come from an emotional reactive mindset. The issue is you could be running and managing your business from either of these emotions on any given day and not realise the negative affects its having on you and your business success.

When we manage ourselves and business from an emotional state we could actually be seriously under performing, reducing our chances of success and on the rocky road to mental, emotional and physical burn out.

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Take for example if you’re business is lacking in converted sales numbers and you don’t hit your target this month…You could get very reactive and start marketing like a mad man without really planning it all out before hand. Trying to sell your services/products without really considering the long term game.

You’ll have become reactive to an emotional state of mind.

You don’t plan your marketing, your sales, your strategy out…You just react to the moment and the thought ‘I need more sales’. And although you may very well need MORE sales, However it’s your needy approach that will kill your businesses ability to really succeed.

The key is to work daily form a place of measurable production.

The phrase “what gets measured gets done”is a phrase to live by for us self employed business owners.

The only way we can build a successful, scalable, productive and profitable business…Long term is to create production boundaries that enable us to measure our working output.

This way there’s no more working from emotions and reaction, there’s NO working for a place of feeling because this has NO PLACE in the managing of you.

Did you know that the writer Stephen King sits down everyday and writes 2000 words REGARDLESS of his mood, energy or feeling?

He doesn’t write 5000 and he doesn’t write 500, he writes 2000 and if this takes him 2 hours or 4 hours that’s what he does. He sets measurable boundaries for himself…And the results speak for themselves.

So what do you measure in your business? 

How do you measure your days productivity? 

What action steps do you create DAILY that move your business forward? 

This is just one of the things I coach my clients to do in their business and it creates relentless clarity and productivity.

I find that most business owners don’t NEED more information, they are already overload with it. What they need are new habits, structure and organisation that improves their working function, performance and mindset.

Then on top that need require accountability to doing what they said they would do to grow their business. Sometimes all you need is someone else in your corner supporting you and being a sounding board for ideas. Sometimes you need a friendly kick up the ass…And sometime you need somewhere in the middle of both.

I’m opening slots up for my Performance Coaching Program.

Go from Good to Great to Unstoppable in your life and business.  

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I’m taking on ONLY 5 business owners/self employed operators who are serious about taking 2019 by the b*lls and creating the business and life they want. I will personally support, coach and keep you accountable on a one-one basis.

 

Here’s the thing, Most coaches have a one size fits all program, then they bluff or tweak this around each client…I don’t. My coaching is completely individual to YOU because it’s your life, your goals, your personality. It’s my job to help you achieve your dreams in life and coach you as you are.

If this is you then message me direct at wilkinsondj@hotmail.com for more information and to apply for one of these spaces.

Have a productive day.

Alpha Dave.

Failing in Fitness.

Have you ever heard that failure in fitness, as in life is an essential ingredient to the over all process?

See without it we can never reach beyond our preconceived limits, we can never hit the heights of our abilities.

Within my own fitness journey over the past 2 months I have attempt a new PB in my Back squat, Front squat, Snatch and clean and jerk…And each time I’ve fallen short and not reached a new PB. Missing lift after lift over and over again. I’m getting close but just not reaching it.

However this is the reality of what can occur when ANY OF US try and push past our limits and this made me think of this blog post today.

Fitness is all about fitter, stronger, faster and improvement. Its all about small marginal gains made over a long period of time. AND the same is true for business, climbing the corporate ladder, relationships and personal development, they are all achieved and built through small marginal gains done consistently over time.

The ONLY way we can improve is to push beyond our current preconceived limitations. The thing is, when we push to our limits we are much more likely to miss the mark, make a mistake or screw up…Than we are likely to succeed.

The problem occurs when people are so fearful of making a mistake, or they fear failure, or they lack self belief in their own abilities that they are unconfident about pushing outside of these limits. So they end up living in their comfort zone. They end up procrastinating and being halted by fear.

So they end up playing it safe, staying in the comfort zone, not taking risks because of a lack of self belief. Also is he/she has ventured out before and put it on the line and failed, this has probably been fatal to their self confidence. Now meaning they are less likely to venture out again in the future.

The issue is that may of us have this impression that failure means the end, it spells disaster. But I’m a big believer in that we NEED to make mistakes so we can find our true path.

What I believe with failure is this:

  1. The route I have chosen isn’t right for me, so chose a different way. 
  2. I’m not ready to be at that level right now, but in time I will be. 
  3. I must work harder and smarter. 
  4. I’ve learned something that I can change for next time to get a different outcome.
  5. Failure isn’t the end, its an opportunity to learn, adapt and put things right for next time. 

The saying “We win or we learn” is a great saying because its true. If you don’t get the outcome or result you we’re hoping for, you actually learned something that can be implemented next time so you get a different outcome.

Remember that FAILURE is NEVER FINAL. It’s only showing us that the route we have taken may not be right…So go another way.  

We learn through our mistakes and as long as we aren’t fearful of doing so we can pick up on valuable lessons that make us better next time. I encourage you to find a successful person in the world who hasn’t failed more often than they have won.

Anyone who wants to achieve more whether that be in the gym, sport, business, career, income or life will have to taste preconceived failure more often than they taste success. This is the price we pay for going to our limits. This is what raises our own bar and takes us to that next level in whatever our venture is.

To move us forward in life we will have to go to our limits and continue to push to break through them. During training, in the lab, in the office, at home or where ever it is you do your work, you will have to drop the ego and embrace the screw ups and mistakes…Because its all part of the learning process.

Then sometime in the not so distant future when it matters, when it happens, when it’s go time, when all eyes are on you…that’s when you’ll hit your next level, your PB. That’s when you’ll achieve your personal greatness, that’s when you’ll past your current sticking point. That’s when all the f**k ups are forgotten for that moment of glory and success.

Failure in fitness is like life, it has to happen for us to push past it toward future greatness….Because failure is never final and its never fatal. 

Failure is never final or fatal unless you ALLOW it to be. 

I dare you to do that thing that’s making you feel scared and unsure of yourself. I dare you to try that new PB in the gym. I dare you to train for that marathon. I dare you to enter that competition, I dare you to pursue your passions in life, I dare you to enhance your knowledge,  I dare you to step up and try. I dare you to learn from your mistakes and use that to get a better outcome next time…

I dare you to try it over and over again and see what outcome you get.

Because the reality of the situation is this…You deserve to make your life the best it can become and you owe it to yourself to at the very least TRY.

Alpha Dave.

PS: Failure is never Final…We either win or we learn. 

Discover Your True Potential.

How often do we look at where we are in relation to our goals and think…

“I’m still miles away”. Or “I just feel like I’m no further forward”. Or “It’s to hard”. 

With ANY goal what we should understand is that it’s about doing, achieving, having or reaching something we DON’T already have. And with any goal that’s worth while, it’s probably something that isn’t easily attainable.

If it were easy to achieve we’d have no motivation for it, right?

I’m a huge believer that we can achieve MOST things in life if we set our minds to it. I don’t believe we can have anything we want because there will always be limiting factors such as ability, skill, knowledge, genetics etc that come into play.

HOWEVER for 85-90% of our goals we can achieve them as long as we are willing to put the consistent hard work in and level up as a person. (YES you will need to develop yourself to reach a new goal or level, I’ve wrote many blogs on this)

How to Discover Your True Potential. 

The issue that many people have (me included from time to time) is that we want our goals NOW, TODAY and we want everything yesterday. We want to reach our potential NOW. 

Let’s take for example opening a new business. We get an idea. We design our product/service. We put our systems in place. We get our branding done and we market it…Then nothing really happens. We might get a few new customers but our business just doesn’t seem to taking off. Then in a few years we’re wondering why we aren’t as big as Apple or Starbucks, or even other business locally to us.

This is that instant gratification BS causing us to feel this way.

We have guru’s telling us we can be whatever we want to be, we can have want ever we want. We look at social media and see all these people building a personal or business brand and it looks so easy. We see these athletes reaching new levels of fitness, strength and speed and it looks simple. We see fitness models showing off their bodies and believe we can achieve the same with just a few simple exercises per day.

We live in a world of NOW, instant results, instant gratification and instant success.

But anyone with half a brain knows that success is anything but instant. 

If we desire REAL long term success and reach that LEVEL we desire whether that be in business, career, sport, wealth or areas of life such as fitness and health, they are achieved via ‘marginal gains’ done through consistent effort.  

Marginal gains is where the magic happens. Marginal gains is where you discover and harness your POTENTIAL.

Let’s take for example an Athlete, lets says Football since it’s the World Cup.

A footballer needs skill, strength, speed, stamina, mental toughness, nutrition, speedy recovery, a strong team attitude…Just to name a few attributes.

Take each of these areas and let’s say for a player to reach their ‘true potential’ they’ll need to be or as close to 100% in each area. The likely hood of this happening is very slim but humour me for a minute.

Let’s say right now your scores are:

  • Skill 70%
  • Strength 65%
  • Speed 90% 
  • Stamina 75% 
  • Mental 90% 
  • Nutrition 50% 
  • Recovery 40% 
  • Team attitude 95% 

Most people do 1 of 3 options:

  1. They look at their weaker areas and try to increase these as soon as possible. So they will take nutrition and recovery and focus solidly on these to increase their scores. However they end up neglecting other areas. So nutrition might go to 80% but their speed drops to 70% and there stamina to 50%. So they end up losing out in other areas and actually potentially worsen their performance.
  2. Some just focus on their strengths and leave their weaknesses. They think if they just work harder on their strengths then everything will be ok. However the more they focus on their strength areas and ignore their weaknesses…The weaker those areas become. Speed goes up to 95% but recovery drops to 35%. They are actually no further forward.

The secret is option number 3, the marginal gains approach. 

3. A smart individual looks at making a steady, consistent and focused 1% increase in each area everyday or every week. So they focus on nutrition and improve by 1%, same with strength, skill etc. They continue every week to progress these by 1% marginal gains.

Overtime they raise their entire game, results, ability and success via an ‘all round’ approach.

This approach takes longer and requires patience, however the results achieved through this approach are much more long term and sustainable.

It’s about making a 1% improvement in EACH and every area and continually doing this month on month, year on year. It’s through these small, consistent incremental steps that done over time get us to our goal.


If we only look for instance success and gratification then we could be heading for disappointment. If we are tying to take bigger leaps than we are capable of then we could end up burning out, screwing up, neglecting other areas and not really understanding what we need to do consistently that can make us a success. We don’t lay the foundations.


Marginal, consistent gains is where the magic happens, its where you harness what you’re potentially capable of as a human.

Remember any successful athlete, entrepreneur or individual when you follow them online or watch their videos you are often just seeing the end result, their highlight reel, their moment in the sun. Unfortunately that leads to this instant gratification need and belief that success is a given right.

However what you didn’t see are the years and years and years it took of marginal gains, sacrifice, effort, constant commitment and mental fortitude it took to get to that level.

Focus on the longer game and make small forward steps consistently and through this you’ll discover what you are truly capable of.

 

Alpha Dave.

We Learn From Our Mistakes Not Our Wins.

There are some very powerful lessons that we CAN learn as a result of mistakes, setbacks, mishaps or even our failures. These lessons, if learned have the capacity to transform our future success.

Now I don’t really like using that word…Failure because we never truly fail. However I know that that particular word is used to describe a particular event that we have had a lack of success in.

What I learned…

On Saturday I took part in another Crossfit finals competition, This one was called ‘Battle For Middle Ground’. I was entered into the middle ground category which was an intermediate comp.

During this competition us athletes had 4 events to complete and one event to complete 2 weeks prior to the competition starting, so 5 events in total.

The Events: 

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This is how my competition stacked up.

  • Event 0 (the one we did 2 weeks before the event). This was a 10 rep max push press, back squat and deadlift all set in 12min total = 16th.
  • Event 1 = 2nd
  • Event 2 part A = 26th
  • Event 2 part B = 1st
  • Event 3 = 12th
  • Event 4 = 3rd.

Overall my finish was 4th and I narrowly missed the podium by 3 points.

As you can see I had some very good finishes throughout the day however a 16th and a 26th place finish in 2 events stopped me reaching that podium. And this is what myself and you can learn from our mistakes.

See a win doesn’t really tell you that much, ok it tells you what you’re doing is probably working, or maybe you were a little lucky, but a loss can give us so much more information.

For me when it comes to Crossfit I know where my weaknesses lie, I have tangible results and data that conform this its not just based on theory or feelings. To win a Crossfit competition of this standard I would need to finish all my events at a minimum inside the top 10 on everything, maybe even top 5.

I had 3 event finishes outside the top 10 and then 3 top 3 placings. This shows my inconsistency as an athlete and what my strengths and weaknesses are.

I believe that for any of us it’s our loses that can show us what we need to fix.

Take any area of life you may have come up short in, work, career, business, sport, hobbies, financial. You’ll have come up short and missed your mark and this is where we LEARN. Our mistakes highlight the part/s of us we need to improve upon, or the extra knowledge, skills, abilities we need to get or improve upon so we have better success next time.

A setback gives us data, an actual tangible result that when analysed tells us what we need to do next time so we don’t get the SAME result. 

I challenge you to look at where your coming up short, what might be holding you back, what areas could you be making mistakes in that are affecting your bigger picture and correct these. Look at the information that’s been given to you, be honest with yourself and then ‘Do The Work’ to correct them.

I could easily look at my high place finishes and think to myself ‘I’m doing ok, I’m winning events and coming top 3’. And YES that is nice to see but in all honesty it means nothing to me if I’m not winning the competition overall.

I’d rather come top 5 in all the events and WIN the competition overall, than win a few workouts and miss the podium.

For me that’s the fuel to my fire, my motivation, my drive. Knowing I can get better and doing what it takes. I’m not the complete athlete yet, Im not the complete performance coach or motivational speaker I know I can be. That’s why everyday I try and improve one part of each of these.

I look at what I suck at, what I’m weak at, I’m honest with myself, self critical and I look to putting it right.

In Crossfit it can be difficult for some athletes to admit they are weak at something, they don’t like to be in the gym surrounded by their friends, fellow athletes, competitors and look foolish as they try and master a skill, lift or improve strength in things they are weak at. Ego can very easily get in the way here, and I’ll admit I do feel this way from time time to time.

But it’s only when we embrace these moments, these workouts, these opportunities to get better that we WILL actually improve.

I won’t be competing in individual competitions for about 6-8months now. I’ll only be doing team comps or maybe something individual for fun, but for major individual comps i’ll be taking a back seat so I can work on my weaknesses and come back a stronger athlete. I’ll be putting the work in so I correct the mistakes as I work towards my long term goal.

So my challenge to you is be prepared to screw up, miss your mark and have setbacks. You’ll discover these when you step out your comfort zone and when you start pushing to your goals. In these moments I challenge you to look at your weaknesses, be self critical, be honest with yourself and then do the work to put it right for next time.

Why?

Because when you do then you grow, evolve, level up and get closer to your goal. You have to be aware of your weaknesses as much as your strengths because this is also where you need your attention. Then you can correct them and move further forward.

I challenge you to do what it takes in training, in self development, in self mastery and be prepared to fail. I challenge you to get out your comfort zone and maybe even feel like you look foolish from time to time because when you embrace your ability to learn from mistakes then there isn’t ANYTHING that can stop your progress apart from your own ego. 

Alpha Dave.

 

Mistake + Correction = Learning. 

 

 

What Feeling Exhausted Taught Me.

I wrote the below blog in 2014 and it STILL rings true today…

What feeling exhausted taught me today.

 

So this morning after a 5am alarm call (I hate getting up before 6:30am, it’s not good for me)

I rolled out of bed, got ready and made it into work.

Standing there this morning as I waited for my double espresso to pour out I had all these feels

Of being overwhelmed.

I was feeling like I had so much to do and not enough time to do that, you’ve almost certainly felt this way before right?

I was thinking there’s just so much work to be done to make DH fitness into the life changing company it can be.

Also thinking about how much I want to be the best athlete I can be
As I sat there sipping my coffee, both these feeling were followed up with doubt, fear, overwhelm, dread and stress.

Right there and then I stopped myself in the moment that point where you catch yourself

And I said to myself…

…What if all I do is being better today than I was yesterday?

Let me say that again

What if all I do is be better today that I was yesterday?

Because let’s face that’s all we have, the now, the today

The past is over right, we can’t change that

The future isn’t really ours to own or change either.

Yeah we can plan, organise, dream etc.

But we really only have today and right now.

So instead of me thinking how can I improve all these areas in my life and stressing the f**k out about then, I just though…

What can I do today to be better?

An immense weight lifting from me,

So today I’m going to do one thing to inspire one person (might even come from this blog that’s why I wrote it)

Its might be during our team training and development session today
Or it might be a member of dh fitness…either way all I need to do to know I’m on point today is inspire and motivate 1 person.

As for my journey to being the best athlete I can be

All I’m going to do is go and train and give it the best i’ve got, nothing more and nothing less…That’s all I can ask of myself.

Thanks for reading the ramble

Alpha Dave, Aiming to be the best version of myself one day at a time.

My Next Crossfit Competition

My next Crossfit Competition will be this Saturday and I’ll be competing at the ‘First Means Everything’ Finals.

My focus and mindset going into this competition is to give my absolute best and I will leave ‘everything’ I’ve got on the competition floor.

As they would say “The hay is in the barn”. I’m the most physically and mentally prepared I have EVER been for a competition and this Saturday will be my opportunity to put all the preparation to the test.

However it’s the journey that pushes me.

See the goal does not matter as much as we believe it does. Regardless of size, scale, time frame, why you want it etc…None of this matters as much as the process…aka the journey.

The journey we undertake to move us towards our goal/s, that’s where we must excel. That’s where we must find happiness, joy, fun, freedom, contentment and personal growth.

The goal will never be the be-all-end-all, it’s the journey that should make us feel alive, passionate, purposeful.

Sure the goal is important because it gives us direction, something to work towards and clarity of our progress, a kind of test at the end to see how well we’ve performed, or a pat on the back for something achieved.

I could never reach my goals if I hated the process and that’s because it doesn’t matter how motivated I am, if my hearts not truly in it then its not for me.

The purpose of the process is to change you.

 

Will the journey be easy?

Absolutely not, it will test you, push you and move you further out of your comfort zone than ever before because that this is the purpose of the process. The process is meant to ‘CHANGE’ you.

You can not be the same person you are right now today if you want more, better, bigger, happier, healthier, freedom in your life. The very idea of having more means you as a person MUST become MORE.

You need to level up, grow, self develop and move yourself onto a high plain in life. Then once you are committed to this, then the goal becomes closer.

And remember with any goal, once it’s been achieved and then celebrated you’ll always desire something else. This is what makes the greats…Great. They never settle, they never stop, they never stagnate, their desire never stops. When it does they leave that area of life behind and move on.

When the journey stops being your purpose in life, then you’ll discover a new path to follow.

Note, that when you set a goal for yourself and you feel that rush of excitement comes over you with all the possibilities it will bring to your life, I encourage you to start thinking about the journey YOU must take to achieve that specific outcome.

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Consider WHO do you need to become to achieve your goal/s.

What will your daily habits will look like?

What will your weekly schedule look like?

What does your mindset need to become?

Who you will need to bring into your life to support you?

What strengths do you have that will assist you?

What areas do you need to improve?

What skills and knowledge you will need to adopt?

How much this is going to take from your life, commitment level?

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There is a personal transformation you will need to go through to reach your ambitions in life and it will change you.

Be ready for change because it’s one of the only certainties in life.

Alpha Dave.