How Your Mindset Can Run Your Business

I’m a massive advocate of journaling, and in recent years ‘this’ activity has had some positive press around it. For those who don’t really get ‘journaling’, it’s not necessarily keeping a diary of your day, although that info sometimes goes in. It’s more a process of writing down your current thoughts, feelings, emotions, ideas and self questioning your perceptions about yourself, actions, life and dreams.

What I want to hone in on in this post is the act of…Self Questioning.

Now I don’t care who you are, how successful you are, what you’ve achieved in life, we all suffer with negative thoughts and stories. These are often a series of negative thoughts we have flowing through our mind on a regular basis.

The problem MOST people have is they NEVER challenge their thoughts and stories. They just leave them to run wild in their mind and because of this often stay stuck in an area (or areas) of life. This is because they continue to listen and believe the thought and this controls the actions taken and ultimately the outcome they get.

Simple things like: “I’m stupid”, “I can’t do that”, “I should be more successful by now”, “I’m fat”, “Who will listen to me”, “I’m too old, I’m too young”, “I could never do that”, “I’m just not wired that way”, “I’ve always been the type of person who…”.

You get the idea.

I was doing my own journaling on Friday and the thought that came to my mind was…“I should have more clients by now”.

I became conscious of this thought and for a few minutes it controlled my focus. I started to think “Yeah I should have more clients now, why don’t I?” “What am I doing wrong, am I not good enough, am I not doing enough?”

These self petetuaing thoughts running through my mind, if these were left unchecked then I would start to either react to them and I believe them, OR they would over time erode my self confidence, which I know all too well from my childhood.

In the past thoughts like this have been left unchecked and I would get all stressed and anxious. I would start to feel fear and start to panic in my business. This has often led me to make mistakes in many ways from doing poor reactive marketing, taking on poor clients or just staying anxious and overwhelmed.

Think about the current story you have been telling yourself;

What is it?

What do you say to yourself, what are you believing about yourself?

With this thought or story, how is it affecting you?

Is it keeping you stuck in procrastination? keeping you stressed and anxious? Do you feel low on self belief and thus stay where you are? Does it make you reactive and fall into a victim mindset? Without knowing your negative story, I guarantee that it’s affecting you.

The key is to hear that story and then do something about it. This is where the POWER of self awareness comes in and self awareness is a learned skill that you continue to improve.

Due to the coaching, therapy and work I have put into myself over the years I had enough self awareness to CHALLENGE THE THOUGHT!

I said to myself: “F**K YOU”. I wrote it down, and then I simply went to work on it.

Now, here’s what some coaches do, they tell you to replace that negative thought with a positive one, an overriding affirmation.

All this does is starts to bog your mind down and overload it with thoughts, now your mind has more thoughts and in time goes between which one it should believe the most and too often this depends on the mood you are in. In all honesty it’s very difficult to replace one negative story with a positive one…WITHOUT challenging the negative thought to begin with. It’s the same as having weak housing foundations that are made out of rotting wood and instead of ripping them out and starting fresh, you just lay concrete over the top and hope that it will hold when you build your new 3 story house.

It won’t and our thoughts are the same.

I believe that in 2020 we will see a MAJOR trend where business leaders will focus on growing their mindset, become more self aware and learn to recognise and evolve their emotional intelligence as a prerequisite for success in the modern age of business.

Here’s why: Because the life we live, the success we have and how we see and rate ourselves, is ONLY a direct reflection on how we see the world, our OWN perspective, values and experiences, And for as long as we see it via our current perspective we WILL continue to experience the same results. In short, having the same mindset in 2020 will give you the same results or worse as it did in 2019, 2018, 2017, 2016 etc etc.

So if you want to unlock the potential within yourself and have that align to your business, then unlocking and cultivating your mindset is critical.

Read all the books you want, attend all the courses you desire, listen to all the podcasts that are out there, these are great…But they don’t help you do the most critical thing…Challenge your current module of thinking and this is where you can truly create a mindset that’s bullet proof for success. Because this is where we must do THE WORK and start cultivating our mind.

On Friday I sat down and asked myself if the thought I was having “I should have more clients by now“. Then I asked myself, “Is this true?” and I used my 3 step system (see below) to help me do this. This is also a system I use with my Performance Coaching Clients to help them overcome the stories that hold them back from being the best they can be.

Here’s a simple system that works, but only when you put the work into it.

1) What is the truth? Write the thought or story down and ask yourself is this even true?

Is there any evidence to suggest that it is? Is so, what evidence is there? If not then there is No truth in the story and you have created an expectation for yourself that doesn’t align with you, your goals or your why. The thought is just a thought and nothing more.

Then ask yourself, What is the actual truth?

In my case the truth was, I have the clients I have created because of the work I have put into creating them. If I want more clients then I need to either; keep doing what I’m doing, do more client attraction and also understand that doing thing consistently over time creates results. Remember time is time and the more time you put into something, the better the long term results. The quick fix, instant gratification model the world uses right now is total unfulfilling and mentally damaging BS.

2) Given the situation what do I want to create? So the situation is I would love more clients, so what can I do to create more clients? I write down solutions, options and ideas. Ask yourself the same question to your situation.

Create a list of possible solutions, NONE of which you have to do just yet, just be creative and think outside of your story and then pick one and DO IT. Ask yourself the question: Given the situation what do I want to create?

3) Create an agreement not an expectation. Move away from expectations and what you expect of yourself and others because you will always be left feeling unfulfilled or unsatisfied. Why?

Because people (or you) either don’t reach your expectations or they (or you do) and you expected that anyway…So either way you feel dissatisfied.

Instead create an agreement and accountability, something or someone to keep accountable to. This creates something you hold yourself to based upon the TRUTH of the situation and the outcomes you have set yourself. Accountability is often the missing piece for business leaders because they have NO one to keep them accountable to their growth, actions and decisions, who right now keeps you accountable to doing what you said you would do?

For me it’s a case of, I’m going to consistently do 3 things every month for 3 months to create 3 new clients. And I will be held accountable by X to do this.

For anyone who is reading this who wants to unlock their truest potential in 2020 and beyond, the key is to work past THAT story or thought you have running through your head. That one that’s keeping you where you are right now.

The reality is you can’t ignore it and hope it goes away. You can’t replace it with a positive affirmation and hope that it goes it just goes away…

BUT you can challenge it and realise that thoughts are just thoughts and they have NO power, control or hold over you…It’s you and I that put emotion and power into our thoughts. It’s us that allows them to control us. It’s like standing at the side of the road and each car passing is a thought, we can either let the cars drive by and pay them no attention, or we can latch into one specific type where we focus and obsess about it.

A thought is just a thought and it’s us that allows them to dictate our beliefs and actions. It’s us that allows us to become emotionally invested around them. If you have a challenging thought and are struggling to let it pass you by, then write it down and start challenging your assumptions around it. Get clarity and then use my 3 step system about to create outcomes and actions that MOVE YOU pass it.

This is some of the work I have done myself on a regular basis and the work I support my clients to do because without it we continue to stay frustrated and stuck in our situation and there’s nothing worse than knowing you have the potential to achieve more in life and with yourself, but you can’t seem to get out of your own way.

This is why the performance coaching work I do with my clients has so much transformational benefit and is supporting my clients to create the life and business they desire most. On top of that it’s the accountability for you to follow through on your actions, because who right now is holding you accountable?

If you would like to know more about how we could work together and have an informal conversation, message me direct or email me at: wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk

Have an amazing 2020

David

What Goes in ALWAYS Comes Out

Your performance as a human is 💯 based on what you put INTO your body, mind and sole.

We all want MORE from ourselves. Whether that’s more energy, clarity, to have more freedom, look better, feel better, be stronger and fitter. To sleep better, have more sex, live on purpose or have more money.

BUT people just want to take from themselves and demand MORE of their body.

Pushing it harder mentally, physically and emotionally.

Working more hours, more hours logged into their phones and social media. More fast food or food on the go because they’re too busy to eat. More coffee to stay alert, more booze to relax and chill.

Neglecting themselves, neglecting their family, neglecting their relationships.

Always expecting more from the body and just hoping you’ll get through. Just hoping you won’t crash and burn. But this mentality is like playing Russian Roulette, at some point you’re going to get hit with the bullet that hurts you.

Some people it’s a mental break down, off work with stress or depression.

Some people it’s a physical breakdown, heart attack, exhaustion, burn out, disease or illness.

Your body and mind is only ever as good as what you put back in. The engine will only run on what fuel goes in.

So what can you do? 

Feed yourself the right foods, do the right exercises, get enough sunlight, get enough rest and recovery. Learn more, put better knowledge into yourself. Connect deeper with people, love more, create more space for yourself to think.

Spend time on GIVING BACK to your body, something every day and you’ll reap the rewards the other end.

And that’s the truth, start giving back to yourself rather than just taking.

If you were in a relationship and all you did was take, take, take what would happen?

Eventually it would end right? because you gave nothing back.

You’re body is the same, your mind is the same. You continue to take without putting back and that’s when we crash and burn.

You don’t need to go off the grid, live like a monk, be vegan or become a gym rat.

Just some simple, straight forward optimisation practises for your: Mind, Body, Sleep, Play, Relationships, Nutrition and Energy and you can transform your day.

For more details head over to where I share these practices with busy professionals who want more, better, happier and healthier lives: https://bit.ly/2GO7kMW

 

David

The Struggle in Business is REAL

If you’ve been in business long enough you’ll know that it’s a roller coaster of ups and downs, wins and knockbacks.

There are times when you’re on top and then times when you feel like you just want to close the doors and walk away…It’s certainly not for the faint hearted.

Overall it’s usually a mixture of passion, drive, fun and a pigheaded attitude that keeps us going. That sense of something I’ve created, built and achieved is a huge driver for people. As well their ability to partly control their income, energy and future.

A driving passion that gets up on a morning is helping people with the skills, influence and knowledge I have, supporting them towards their goals and dreams.

During a performance coaching session with a client of mine who has recently set up their own business with a colleague it became apparent the early issues they face.

Where are we going, how will we get there and what is expected of us by and for each other?

The same can be true for you in business in both a partnership setting or on your own.

Managing your expectations and commitments to your work, self-management and productivity is king.

This newly formed business partnership started because they had a common passion and drive to create something amazing and they know they have a place in their market for it.

They have the skills and knowledge in their field, however running a business is a different animal all together.

So here’s what was discovered in my clients session:

They need to get clear on the following and have this completely mapped out to avoid bigger issues, fall outs and challenges down the line.

  • Where are we going? (Vision)
  • How will we get there? (Strategic plan)
  • How will we track our individual performance? (Their working performance)

 


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No.1 The Vision for your business is critical. Without it you will continue to just tread water and stay frustrated with your lack of direction and progress.

Especially in a business partnership knowing the vision of the company is key and that both people are pulling in the same direction.

Everyone thinks they have a vision but a recent survey of business owners suggested that less than 30% of them are crystal clear on the objectives and future of their business.


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No.2 The Strategic Plan. How will we get to the vision? If one person has one view point and the other has their own, then there will be is a continuous butting of heads. This is the major issue my client faces right now.

One party believes in doing it ‘this’ way and the other ‘this’ way. Its creating friction and a lack of progress. Neither are right or wrong, this issue is they aren’t on the same page.

Mapping out HOW to best get to the objectives of the business that include both parties is key. This is what we are working on in coaching and doing some facilitation to solve.

If you have your own business you won’t have this issue because you’ll make the final decision. However what you might struggle with is selecting the best plan for you and actually sticking with it. Food for thought.


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No.3 Personal Performance. This is how your work in monitored. In a self employed basis you might measure yourself against a simple metric of money in vs money out. The business is growing if I have more money in than the previous month or year.

That’s the very basics of what you want to measure your self performance against. Getting KPI’s in place is key for ANY business owner. Discovering what these are can sometimes be a little trickier.

How will you measure your performance and ultimately the performance of your business?

In my clients case they need this for each other because there’s nothing worse than one person who feels like they are doing more for the work than their partner.

KPI’s need to be put into place to manage expectation levels and to have a standard of ‘This is what you do and this is how you know what you’re doing is working’.

It’s not complicated but it can be easily missed.


 

Opening a business is exciting especially at the start because the possibilities are endless. You can feel the energy and drive coming off you in spades at the start.

In all that excitement ensure that the BASICS are done, the above 3 are just the start of that.

Regardless if you are on your own, a partnership or a team, getting those 3 things right at the start will save you huge headaches down the line.

The work you do ON your business isn’t just on marketing, sales and creating more programs/services…The work is also creating the vision, the plan and how you will get there and measure/track this along the way.

It’s not always sexy but it is essential.

David.

For my Business Performance Coaching services information and to find out more head over to:

https://davidwilkinsonperformance.com/business-coaching/

The ONLY Reason I’m Coaching is Because of This.

Yesterday was the start of me doing my level 3 diploma in Learning and a Development with CIPD.

This past year and now next year (2019) will have been mainly taken up of me doing continued learning and carving out a second career for myself.

The thing is though 12-18 months ago I was lost. I wasn’t doing any performance coaching or any personal development courses.

I new I wanted to become a professional coach and help people achieve their goals through powerful conversations, but I had nothing else figured out; I didn’t know what to do, how to do it, where to start?

And I thought these we’re my issues…

But they weren’t.

My real issuee was a limiting belief I had,

My self confidence wasn’t where it needed to be because I was more focused on

“What will other people say or think?”

So instead of starting a new path and jumping in with fun, love and passion…

I was more concerned with the worry of what others would say and this stopped me.

But let’s be honest, How many of us struggle with our own mindset?

There’s always something we put off doing, or starting or continuing because of a limiting belief we may have.

The No.1 thing that kills peoples ambition, dreams, passions, purpose and their ability to have and live the life they want…Is their limiting beliefs.

I was disguising mine behind the fluffy stuff of; When, What, Where, How…

It was stopping me focusing on the bigger picture.

Our beliefs control how we act, think, behave and this obviously affects us.

Limiting beliefs around:

Self confidence, money, self worth, our abilities, self identity, Judgement, Love, Rejection, Trust, Failure, Age..

These are just a few that can shape the course of our lives.

What COULD you putting off because of mindset?

Like I said in Monday’s email, We aren’t broken. There’s nothing wrong with us…

We just have a blockage. It’s like having a blocked sink at home and the water can’t flow…

You don’t rip the kitchen out and put in a new one…You find away of removing the blockage.

Life is the same.

This is how coaching helped me, it still helps me now. It helps me become and create the life I want.

It helps to create opportunities and get past blockages.

Performance, success, life, business coaching…Whatever you want to call it works.

It worked for me,

It works for my clients

And it’s helping people all over the world either get past their biggest challenge and frustration in life right now, or its helping them create the life they want,

I was able to walk into that classroom yesterday on my L&D course and start a new chapter of my life…

I couldn’t mentally have done that 18months ago.

What are you not doing or putting off that you really really would love to do, have or be?

What right now is causing the biggest challenge in your life that you want resolved?

An invitation from me to you…Email me if you want to have a real in-depth person to person conversation and let’s see together what you can achieve, do or create in and for your life.

email me at wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk

David

What’s Running Your Business, You Or Anxiety?

Do you ever wake up some mornings feeling super motivated, like you can just go to work and crush your to do list?

What about days when you feel so overwhelmed that you get nothing done and find you’ve spent all day time wasting on social media or doing nothing of value?

You might not know it but both these are states of anxiety, stress or overwhelm and they come from an emotional reactive mindset. The issue is you could be running and managing your business from either of these emotions on any given day and not realise the negative affects its having on you and your business success.

When we manage ourselves and business from an emotional state we could actually be seriously under performing, reducing our chances of success and on the rocky road to mental, emotional and physical burn out.

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Take for example if you’re business is lacking in converted sales numbers and you don’t hit your target this month…You could get very reactive and start marketing like a mad man without really planning it all out before hand. Trying to sell your services/products without really considering the long term game.

You’ll have become reactive to an emotional state of mind.

You don’t plan your marketing, your sales, your strategy out…You just react to the moment and the thought ‘I need more sales’. And although you may very well need MORE sales, However it’s your needy approach that will kill your businesses ability to really succeed.

The key is to work daily form a place of measurable production.

The phrase “what gets measured gets done”is a phrase to live by for us self employed business owners.

The only way we can build a successful, scalable, productive and profitable business…Long term is to create production boundaries that enable us to measure our working output.

This way there’s no more working from emotions and reaction, there’s NO working for a place of feeling because this has NO PLACE in the managing of you.

Did you know that the writer Stephen King sits down everyday and writes 2000 words REGARDLESS of his mood, energy or feeling?

He doesn’t write 5000 and he doesn’t write 500, he writes 2000 and if this takes him 2 hours or 4 hours that’s what he does. He sets measurable boundaries for himself…And the results speak for themselves.

So what do you measure in your business? 

How do you measure your days productivity? 

What action steps do you create DAILY that move your business forward? 

This is just one of the things I coach my clients to do in their business and it creates relentless clarity and productivity.

I find that most business owners don’t NEED more information, they are already overload with it. What they need are new habits, structure and organisation that improves their working function, performance and mindset.

Then on top that need require accountability to doing what they said they would do to grow their business. Sometimes all you need is someone else in your corner supporting you and being a sounding board for ideas. Sometimes you need a friendly kick up the ass…And sometime you need somewhere in the middle of both.

I’m opening slots up for my Performance Coaching Program.

Go from Good to Great to Unstoppable in your life and business.  

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I’m taking on ONLY 5 business owners/self employed operators who are serious about taking 2019 by the b*lls and creating the business and life they want. I will personally support, coach and keep you accountable on a one-one basis.

 

Here’s the thing, Most coaches have a one size fits all program, then they bluff or tweak this around each client…I don’t. My coaching is completely individual to YOU because it’s your life, your goals, your personality. It’s my job to help you achieve your dreams in life and coach you as you are.

If this is you then message me direct at wilkinsondj@hotmail.com for more information and to apply for one of these spaces.

Have a productive day.

Alpha Dave.

Discover Your True Potential.

How often do we look at where we are in relation to our goals and think…

“I’m still miles away”. Or “I just feel like I’m no further forward”. Or “It’s to hard”. 

With ANY goal what we should understand is that it’s about doing, achieving, having or reaching something we DON’T already have. And with any goal that’s worth while, it’s probably something that isn’t easily attainable.

If it were easy to achieve we’d have no motivation for it, right?

I’m a huge believer that we can achieve MOST things in life if we set our minds to it. I don’t believe we can have anything we want because there will always be limiting factors such as ability, skill, knowledge, genetics etc that come into play.

HOWEVER for 85-90% of our goals we can achieve them as long as we are willing to put the consistent hard work in and level up as a person. (YES you will need to develop yourself to reach a new goal or level, I’ve wrote many blogs on this)

How to Discover Your True Potential. 

The issue that many people have (me included from time to time) is that we want our goals NOW, TODAY and we want everything yesterday. We want to reach our potential NOW. 

Let’s take for example opening a new business. We get an idea. We design our product/service. We put our systems in place. We get our branding done and we market it…Then nothing really happens. We might get a few new customers but our business just doesn’t seem to taking off. Then in a few years we’re wondering why we aren’t as big as Apple or Starbucks, or even other business locally to us.

This is that instant gratification BS causing us to feel this way.

We have guru’s telling us we can be whatever we want to be, we can have want ever we want. We look at social media and see all these people building a personal or business brand and it looks so easy. We see these athletes reaching new levels of fitness, strength and speed and it looks simple. We see fitness models showing off their bodies and believe we can achieve the same with just a few simple exercises per day.

We live in a world of NOW, instant results, instant gratification and instant success.

But anyone with half a brain knows that success is anything but instant. 

If we desire REAL long term success and reach that LEVEL we desire whether that be in business, career, sport, wealth or areas of life such as fitness and health, they are achieved via ‘marginal gains’ done through consistent effort.  

Marginal gains is where the magic happens. Marginal gains is where you discover and harness your POTENTIAL.

Let’s take for example an Athlete, lets says Football since it’s the World Cup.

A footballer needs skill, strength, speed, stamina, mental toughness, nutrition, speedy recovery, a strong team attitude…Just to name a few attributes.

Take each of these areas and let’s say for a player to reach their ‘true potential’ they’ll need to be or as close to 100% in each area. The likely hood of this happening is very slim but humour me for a minute.

Let’s say right now your scores are:

  • Skill 70%
  • Strength 65%
  • Speed 90% 
  • Stamina 75% 
  • Mental 90% 
  • Nutrition 50% 
  • Recovery 40% 
  • Team attitude 95% 

Most people do 1 of 3 options:

  1. They look at their weaker areas and try to increase these as soon as possible. So they will take nutrition and recovery and focus solidly on these to increase their scores. However they end up neglecting other areas. So nutrition might go to 80% but their speed drops to 70% and there stamina to 50%. So they end up losing out in other areas and actually potentially worsen their performance.
  2. Some just focus on their strengths and leave their weaknesses. They think if they just work harder on their strengths then everything will be ok. However the more they focus on their strength areas and ignore their weaknesses…The weaker those areas become. Speed goes up to 95% but recovery drops to 35%. They are actually no further forward.

The secret is option number 3, the marginal gains approach. 

3. A smart individual looks at making a steady, consistent and focused 1% increase in each area everyday or every week. So they focus on nutrition and improve by 1%, same with strength, skill etc. They continue every week to progress these by 1% marginal gains.

Overtime they raise their entire game, results, ability and success via an ‘all round’ approach.

This approach takes longer and requires patience, however the results achieved through this approach are much more long term and sustainable.

It’s about making a 1% improvement in EACH and every area and continually doing this month on month, year on year. It’s through these small, consistent incremental steps that done over time get us to our goal.


If we only look for instance success and gratification then we could be heading for disappointment. If we are tying to take bigger leaps than we are capable of then we could end up burning out, screwing up, neglecting other areas and not really understanding what we need to do consistently that can make us a success. We don’t lay the foundations.


Marginal, consistent gains is where the magic happens, its where you harness what you’re potentially capable of as a human.

Remember any successful athlete, entrepreneur or individual when you follow them online or watch their videos you are often just seeing the end result, their highlight reel, their moment in the sun. Unfortunately that leads to this instant gratification need and belief that success is a given right.

However what you didn’t see are the years and years and years it took of marginal gains, sacrifice, effort, constant commitment and mental fortitude it took to get to that level.

Focus on the longer game and make small forward steps consistently and through this you’ll discover what you are truly capable of.

 

Alpha Dave.

We Learn From Our Mistakes Not Our Wins.

There are some very powerful lessons that we CAN learn as a result of mistakes, setbacks, mishaps or even our failures. These lessons, if learned have the capacity to transform our future success.

Now I don’t really like using that word…Failure because we never truly fail. However I know that that particular word is used to describe a particular event that we have had a lack of success in.

What I learned…

On Saturday I took part in another Crossfit finals competition, This one was called ‘Battle For Middle Ground’. I was entered into the middle ground category which was an intermediate comp.

During this competition us athletes had 4 events to complete and one event to complete 2 weeks prior to the competition starting, so 5 events in total.

The Events: 

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This is how my competition stacked up.

  • Event 0 (the one we did 2 weeks before the event). This was a 10 rep max push press, back squat and deadlift all set in 12min total = 16th.
  • Event 1 = 2nd
  • Event 2 part A = 26th
  • Event 2 part B = 1st
  • Event 3 = 12th
  • Event 4 = 3rd.

Overall my finish was 4th and I narrowly missed the podium by 3 points.

As you can see I had some very good finishes throughout the day however a 16th and a 26th place finish in 2 events stopped me reaching that podium. And this is what myself and you can learn from our mistakes.

See a win doesn’t really tell you that much, ok it tells you what you’re doing is probably working, or maybe you were a little lucky, but a loss can give us so much more information.

For me when it comes to Crossfit I know where my weaknesses lie, I have tangible results and data that conform this its not just based on theory or feelings. To win a Crossfit competition of this standard I would need to finish all my events at a minimum inside the top 10 on everything, maybe even top 5.

I had 3 event finishes outside the top 10 and then 3 top 3 placings. This shows my inconsistency as an athlete and what my strengths and weaknesses are.

I believe that for any of us it’s our loses that can show us what we need to fix.

Take any area of life you may have come up short in, work, career, business, sport, hobbies, financial. You’ll have come up short and missed your mark and this is where we LEARN. Our mistakes highlight the part/s of us we need to improve upon, or the extra knowledge, skills, abilities we need to get or improve upon so we have better success next time.

A setback gives us data, an actual tangible result that when analysed tells us what we need to do next time so we don’t get the SAME result. 

I challenge you to look at where your coming up short, what might be holding you back, what areas could you be making mistakes in that are affecting your bigger picture and correct these. Look at the information that’s been given to you, be honest with yourself and then ‘Do The Work’ to correct them.

I could easily look at my high place finishes and think to myself ‘I’m doing ok, I’m winning events and coming top 3’. And YES that is nice to see but in all honesty it means nothing to me if I’m not winning the competition overall.

I’d rather come top 5 in all the events and WIN the competition overall, than win a few workouts and miss the podium.

For me that’s the fuel to my fire, my motivation, my drive. Knowing I can get better and doing what it takes. I’m not the complete athlete yet, Im not the complete performance coach or motivational speaker I know I can be. That’s why everyday I try and improve one part of each of these.

I look at what I suck at, what I’m weak at, I’m honest with myself, self critical and I look to putting it right.

In Crossfit it can be difficult for some athletes to admit they are weak at something, they don’t like to be in the gym surrounded by their friends, fellow athletes, competitors and look foolish as they try and master a skill, lift or improve strength in things they are weak at. Ego can very easily get in the way here, and I’ll admit I do feel this way from time time to time.

But it’s only when we embrace these moments, these workouts, these opportunities to get better that we WILL actually improve.

I won’t be competing in individual competitions for about 6-8months now. I’ll only be doing team comps or maybe something individual for fun, but for major individual comps i’ll be taking a back seat so I can work on my weaknesses and come back a stronger athlete. I’ll be putting the work in so I correct the mistakes as I work towards my long term goal.

So my challenge to you is be prepared to screw up, miss your mark and have setbacks. You’ll discover these when you step out your comfort zone and when you start pushing to your goals. In these moments I challenge you to look at your weaknesses, be self critical, be honest with yourself and then do the work to put it right for next time.

Why?

Because when you do then you grow, evolve, level up and get closer to your goal. You have to be aware of your weaknesses as much as your strengths because this is also where you need your attention. Then you can correct them and move further forward.

I challenge you to do what it takes in training, in self development, in self mastery and be prepared to fail. I challenge you to get out your comfort zone and maybe even feel like you look foolish from time to time because when you embrace your ability to learn from mistakes then there isn’t ANYTHING that can stop your progress apart from your own ego. 

Alpha Dave.

 

Mistake + Correction = Learning. 

 

 

What Feeling Exhausted Taught Me.

I wrote the below blog in 2014 and it STILL rings true today…

What feeling exhausted taught me today.

 

So this morning after a 5am alarm call (I hate getting up before 6:30am, it’s not good for me)

I rolled out of bed, got ready and made it into work.

Standing there this morning as I waited for my double espresso to pour out I had all these feels

Of being overwhelmed.

I was feeling like I had so much to do and not enough time to do that, you’ve almost certainly felt this way before right?

I was thinking there’s just so much work to be done to make DH fitness into the life changing company it can be.

Also thinking about how much I want to be the best athlete I can be
As I sat there sipping my coffee, both these feeling were followed up with doubt, fear, overwhelm, dread and stress.

Right there and then I stopped myself in the moment that point where you catch yourself

And I said to myself…

…What if all I do is being better today than I was yesterday?

Let me say that again

What if all I do is be better today that I was yesterday?

Because let’s face that’s all we have, the now, the today

The past is over right, we can’t change that

The future isn’t really ours to own or change either.

Yeah we can plan, organise, dream etc.

But we really only have today and right now.

So instead of me thinking how can I improve all these areas in my life and stressing the f**k out about then, I just though…

What can I do today to be better?

An immense weight lifting from me,

So today I’m going to do one thing to inspire one person (might even come from this blog that’s why I wrote it)

Its might be during our team training and development session today
Or it might be a member of dh fitness…either way all I need to do to know I’m on point today is inspire and motivate 1 person.

As for my journey to being the best athlete I can be

All I’m going to do is go and train and give it the best i’ve got, nothing more and nothing less…That’s all I can ask of myself.

Thanks for reading the ramble

Alpha Dave, Aiming to be the best version of myself one day at a time.

My Next Crossfit Competition

My next Crossfit Competition will be this Saturday and I’ll be competing at the ‘First Means Everything’ Finals.

My focus and mindset going into this competition is to give my absolute best and I will leave ‘everything’ I’ve got on the competition floor.

As they would say “The hay is in the barn”. I’m the most physically and mentally prepared I have EVER been for a competition and this Saturday will be my opportunity to put all the preparation to the test.

However it’s the journey that pushes me.

See the goal does not matter as much as we believe it does. Regardless of size, scale, time frame, why you want it etc…None of this matters as much as the process…aka the journey.

The journey we undertake to move us towards our goal/s, that’s where we must excel. That’s where we must find happiness, joy, fun, freedom, contentment and personal growth.

The goal will never be the be-all-end-all, it’s the journey that should make us feel alive, passionate, purposeful.

Sure the goal is important because it gives us direction, something to work towards and clarity of our progress, a kind of test at the end to see how well we’ve performed, or a pat on the back for something achieved.

I could never reach my goals if I hated the process and that’s because it doesn’t matter how motivated I am, if my hearts not truly in it then its not for me.

The purpose of the process is to change you.

 

Will the journey be easy?

Absolutely not, it will test you, push you and move you further out of your comfort zone than ever before because that this is the purpose of the process. The process is meant to ‘CHANGE’ you.

You can not be the same person you are right now today if you want more, better, bigger, happier, healthier, freedom in your life. The very idea of having more means you as a person MUST become MORE.

You need to level up, grow, self develop and move yourself onto a high plain in life. Then once you are committed to this, then the goal becomes closer.

And remember with any goal, once it’s been achieved and then celebrated you’ll always desire something else. This is what makes the greats…Great. They never settle, they never stop, they never stagnate, their desire never stops. When it does they leave that area of life behind and move on.

When the journey stops being your purpose in life, then you’ll discover a new path to follow.

Note, that when you set a goal for yourself and you feel that rush of excitement comes over you with all the possibilities it will bring to your life, I encourage you to start thinking about the journey YOU must take to achieve that specific outcome.

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Consider WHO do you need to become to achieve your goal/s.

What will your daily habits will look like?

What will your weekly schedule look like?

What does your mindset need to become?

Who you will need to bring into your life to support you?

What strengths do you have that will assist you?

What areas do you need to improve?

What skills and knowledge you will need to adopt?

How much this is going to take from your life, commitment level?

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There is a personal transformation you will need to go through to reach your ambitions in life and it will change you.

Be ready for change because it’s one of the only certainties in life.

Alpha Dave.

What Do You Do If You Don’t Have Time?

You say you don’t have time and struggle to find the time to work on your goals…

I say…BS.

I’m not going to beat around the bush here, I’m going straight into it.

You say you don’t have time to work on your goals…I say you’re not MAKING the time.

Let’s break down the ‘lack of time myth’:

– You have 168 hours per week…WE ALL HAVE THIS. Everyone from you, to Bill Gates and Serena Williams.

– Sleep for 50 of them (average 7hours per night)

– Work for 40 of them,

– Groom for 8 of them,

– Eat and drink for 10 of them…

So how are you spending the other 60 hours, or more specifically 8.5hours per day?

Let’s say you have other commitments, longer working hours, family, gym, commuting to work etc.

ALL that taken into account are you REALLY telling me you don’t have JUST 60 minutes spare per day to work on your dreams?

JUST 7hours per week MAX. 

If you read this and say “No I still don’t have time”. Then my advise to you is your goals aren’t enough for you because if you can’t carve out a little time to work on your dreams then your dreams aren’t for you.

That’s all it takes to get started, 60minutes per day to to work on your dream body, life, business, career or whatever your ambition is.

For most people to find 60minutes extra per day just need to stop mindlessly scrolling Facebook or Instagram and they’ll find time.

Imagine if you just did 60minutes today on your goal, that’s an extra 60minutes you’ve spent on your goal today than you did yesterday. By doing this you are now at least ONE step closer to the outcome you want.

Everything in life in HOW you view it from your perspective. This is partly what MINDSET is.

Someone says; “I don’t have time”.

I say; “You’re not making time”. All because we are both looking at it from different angles.

Change the way you view things and this will transform how you spend those valuable minutes.

You’re either moving closer to your dreams or further away and this comes down to your value of time and how you use it.

Alpha Dave

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