Why don’t we show up in the WORLD?

During lockdown I have done some soul searching, I guess the time away from the busyness, hustle and chaos of a modern, self created life has gave me much needed space for reflection.

I say soul searching because I felt I needed to reconnect with my WHY.

I don’t mean a superficial ‘why’ that gets branded around by some marketers, I mean my REAL purpose and philosophy behind why I do what I do, why I live the way I live, what defines me as a Man, my beliefs and values.

Have you ever experienced any of the following:

  • You’re struggling to clearly define your purpose or have a deeper connection to what you want to do with your life, business or future?

 

  • Maybe know your purpose but get easily lost and distracted by others and what other people of influence say. You find yourself chasing other leaders but you never catch up, continually feeling unfulfilled or feeling not enough. Eventually you look back and feel like you’ve lost a sense of you and your direction?

 

  • Maybe you’re struggling to get to your goals because you’re dealing with so much stress, mental chaos, challenges at home and you spend most days firefighting.

 

  • Or maybe you just can’t make traction with what you’re doing, everything feels like a hard slog and you’re getting burned out on your current path.

 

I have lived all of those at various times.

If you do struggle or feel challenged around the above, I’m going to show you how to move from this!

The reason I wanted to connect more deeply into my philosophy now was I felt I was continuing to look outside of myself, look at what everyone else was doing and I had started to copy, follow and become distracted by them (not their intention) but I was lacking my own intention.

So my Marketing Message didn’t feel congruent, my programs/services weren’t fully complete and other things felt a little disjointed.

So I went back to the basics, WHY I wanted to become a coach in the first place.

I reconnected with this message:

“I want to coach Men to show up in the world as the very best version of themselves”

What does this even mean?

I spent years of my childhood and youth hiding, been quiet and shy, feeling like I couldn’t stand up and be who I was. This seeped into my early business years and I felt like I had to wear a mask (a metaphorical one) this was so I could play a role that made me look more confidence, strong, in control…In reality I had no idea who I was.

For many years I wasn’t able to connect with my authentic self, to be able to accept myself for who I am, and then in return show up as myself. This often resulted in me feeling lost, unsure and unfulfilled with most of the choices I made in business and life.

I find so many Men struggle with self acceptance and self worth.

Worrying about what other people think of them, worrying about judgement, fear, failure, criticism and worst of all, they never feel enough.

So often these Men actually pull themselves down with negative self talk and the continuous cycle of self defeating thoughts.

One of the most powerful things I personally worked on was increasing my Self Worth. This is something that is vastly underrated in my opinion.

Now I coach Men to lean into who they are and this enables them to show up in the world as the most impactful and influential selves.

They start showing up in the Core 4 areas of life (Body, Mind, Home and Business) and this results in them creating MORE Fulfilment, Fun, Freedom and Financial Success.

This differs from client to client, but ultimately they desire a certain amount of Fulfillment, Fun, Freedom and Financial success and this aligns with their biggest over arching goal, So I work with them to achieve what thye desire most.

BUT, for this to EVEN happen they have to start ‘Showing Up’

I connect with this because that’s the transformation I went through and that’s why I share and aim to inspire other men through coaching conversations to do similar on their journey.

 

The second part of my philosophy is:

“As the very best version of themselves”

To achieve or create more in life we don’t have to be more than we are, but we do have to show up as all that we are.

So coaching Men to step into being all they are capable of is the intention because in that space there is very little they can’t do.

Take a moment and recall a time when you were on fire, when you were in that state of “flow”, How did you feel? What were you doing? What did you accomplish, create?

That state is self created and in that state you are in your potential and able to create magic!

So my coaching helps Men get into that place DAILY.

Most of the time we are fire fighting, dealing with mental chaos, dealing with high stress, anxiety, we are feeling overwhelmed and then on top of that we can struggle with fatigue, burn out, arguments and challenges at home and this just loads on top of us.

How the hell does someone in that place create a life they love to live on purpose?

They don’t!

But they can when they show up as all that they are,

They better manage or remove stress, remove anxiety, increase mental clarity, focus, increase energy, productivity and they re-gain control.

When you are HERE in that space, that’s when dreams are created, purpose is discovered and lives are transformed.

So for you,

What parts of your life are you NOT showing up in?

What results are you experiencing right now because you aren’t showing up?

What would change if you started showing up as the best version of you?

Sharing this message is what lights me up,

So thank you for reading it

David

PS:

If what I’m saying is resonating with you, then I’m personally inviting you to have a conversation with me, around your goals and what you want to create or what challenge you want to move past in your world, click the link to find out how – https://davidwilkinsonperformance.com/work-with-me/

EVEN When She Packed Her Bags I Couldn’t See it…

Every morning for 6 years straight I got up at 4:45am so I could get ready to start work at my gym for 6am.

During the same period, every evening for 6 years straight I got home at 9:30pm from my gym…

I was Exhausted!

I was personal training AND running my gym at the time.

To get through this slog I “told myself” I was happy to do it.

Spinning lines in my head like:

“I’m making sacrifices to build my business”
“It won’t always be like this, next year will be different”.
“You’ve got to work hard to build a business”.

Of cause there’s a required level of sacrifice, hard work and commitment to create anything of value.
Because working 4 hours a week, whilst lying on a beach sipping Cocktails, making big bank sounds like a lovely story…

If only it were that easy.

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I remember all too well the moment my girlfriend got up and told me she was leaving me.

What a kick in the face that was.

See in my mind I was focused on…

I’m working this hard for us, I want to provide for our future, give us the life we want.

The house, the car, the holidays, the weekends away…The stuff.

So I worked ‘balls to the wall’ year on year grafting working 12-14 hour days, using my weekends to recover, only to go back to the grind come Monday and do it all over again.

Guess what she wanted?

Me (as surprising as that is), quality time with me, time i’m not spent on my phone answering enquiries or responding to emails and FB messages at 10pm at night.

Time with me where I wasn’t a tired, moody miserable bastard.

I had become so obsessed with business, success and chasing a dream…

That I ended up sacrificing my relationship, friendships, freedom and mental sanity.

I can look back on that time and be objective about it, but back then I thought what I was doing was right, even when my girlfriend was packing her bags to leave.

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I guess we don’t know another way…Until we do!

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If this is you, I empathise, I get it.

The focus is probably on creating the life you want, making £££ to provide for yourself and family and doing this whilst you do work you love,

But in the process are you driving a wedge between YOU and the very people you are suppose to be doing it for?AND it’s probably costing you sleepless nights, anxiety and a chaotic overwhelmed mind.
Probably to top it off, you’ll not be making the money you want for the sacrifices you are making.

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If you are looking for a “quick fix” solution because you have a similar challenge to what I had…
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the guru’s are wrong, There isn’t one.
There’s no easy 4 steps to fix it and turn it around so by next month life is good.

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BUT …

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There is a way ANYONE who is struggling and feels stuck in their business can “start” to break free…

If they are willing to work smart, create more self awareness and put the correct strategies in place over time, will a little help can become…Unstuck…
And I’m going to share with you how to START that process!
Tuesday 12th May at 8pm I am going to running a LIVE online…

Discover the C4 Method:

For Male Business Owners Who Feel Stuck, Still Busting Their Arse But Want to Unlock More MoneyTime and Freedom And Can Finally Access Certainty in Business

…All while working less and living more.

You can register you place HERE

 

OR alternatively you can continue to bury your head in the sand…
Keep working 12 hour days whilst giving away a little bit of your soul and mental sanity every day…

And keep pushing your love ones away,

 

The choice is yours!

 

David

PS –

I finally found the courage to change and implement the right systems and strategies and eventually me and my girlfriend got back together…

I’m actually marrying her on the 26th August this year. On top of that I now run a business I love, that no longer owns me and I can make good, reliable money from it.

Here’s that link again to the webinar if you want in:

https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_z_0VCChxT6e6LnA3Jr20Qw