EVEN When She Packed Her Bags I Couldn’t See it…

Every morning for 6 years straight I got up at 4:45am so I could get ready to start work at my gym for 6am.

During the same period, every evening for 6 years straight I got home at 9:30pm from my gym…

I was Exhausted!

I was personal training AND running my gym at the time.

To get through this slog I “told myself” I was happy to do it.

Spinning lines in my head like:

“I’m making sacrifices to build my business”
“It won’t always be like this, next year will be different”.
“You’ve got to work hard to build a business”.

Of cause there’s a required level of sacrifice, hard work and commitment to create anything of value.
Because working 4 hours a week, whilst lying on a beach sipping Cocktails, making big bank sounds like a lovely story…

If only it were that easy.

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I remember all too well the moment my girlfriend got up and told me she was leaving me.

What a kick in the face that was.

See in my mind I was focused on…

I’m working this hard for us, I want to provide for our future, give us the life we want.

The house, the car, the holidays, the weekends away…The stuff.

So I worked ‘balls to the wall’ year on year grafting working 12-14 hour days, using my weekends to recover, only to go back to the grind come Monday and do it all over again.

Guess what she wanted?

Me (as surprising as that is), quality time with me, time i’m not spent on my phone answering enquiries or responding to emails and FB messages at 10pm at night.

Time with me where I wasn’t a tired, moody miserable bastard.

I had become so obsessed with business, success and chasing a dream…

That I ended up sacrificing my relationship, friendships, freedom and mental sanity.

I can look back on that time and be objective about it, but back then I thought what I was doing was right, even when my girlfriend was packing her bags to leave.

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I guess we don’t know another way…Until we do!

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If this is you, I empathise, I get it.

The focus is probably on creating the life you want, making £££ to provide for yourself and family and doing this whilst you do work you love,

But in the process are you driving a wedge between YOU and the very people you are suppose to be doing it for?AND it’s probably costing you sleepless nights, anxiety and a chaotic overwhelmed mind.
Probably to top it off, you’ll not be making the money you want for the sacrifices you are making.

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If you are looking for a “quick fix” solution because you have a similar challenge to what I had…
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the guru’s are wrong, There isn’t one.
There’s no easy 4 steps to fix it and turn it around so by next month life is good.

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BUT …

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There is a way ANYONE who is struggling and feels stuck in their business can “start” to break free…

If they are willing to work smart, create more self awareness and put the correct strategies in place over time, will a little help can become…Unstuck…
And I’m going to share with you how to START that process!
Tuesday 12th May at 8pm I am going to running a LIVE online…

Discover the C4 Method:

For Male Business Owners Who Feel Stuck, Still Busting Their Arse But Want to Unlock More MoneyTime and Freedom And Can Finally Access Certainty in Business

…All while working less and living more.

You can register you place HERE

 

OR alternatively you can continue to bury your head in the sand…
Keep working 12 hour days whilst giving away a little bit of your soul and mental sanity every day…

And keep pushing your love ones away,

 

The choice is yours!

 

David

PS –

I finally found the courage to change and implement the right systems and strategies and eventually me and my girlfriend got back together…

I’m actually marrying her on the 26th August this year. On top of that I now run a business I love, that no longer owns me and I can make good, reliable money from it.

Here’s that link again to the webinar if you want in:

https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_z_0VCChxT6e6LnA3Jr20Qw

Stressed and Burned Out, Here’s WHY I Work With Men.

Have you ever been in that place, mentally, physically or emotionally?

That Stressed out or mentally and physically burned out place?

Maybe you’re in a struggle right now with both of these.

I speak to so many guys at business events or online who tell me they’re struggling right now and don’t know what to do, so they just keep trying to plow on, head down and ‘Get On With It’.

Or they have been broken and have started to put themselves back together again.

To be fair you could also be in a place of feeling stressed out, lost and overwhelmed but you’re not on your knees…But perhaps you’re just struggling with clarity, direction, energy or confidence because of it.

The issue I’m bringing up here is that at some point in time we are all going through, will go through it it or have gone through stressed, burn out, anxiety and maybe even depression.

I’ve been there myself.

I’ve been so stressed out I was lashing out. Taking my anger and frustration out on my fiancee.

I was in that place where all I wanted to do was discover what the hell I was doing and where I was going with my life…Sounds so simple right?

Probably one of the hardest things I ever had to do because I was looking in all the wrong places. It’s almost like you can see the signs, the lack of sleep, the anxiety, the stress, the anger, the frustration, the delusion…BUT it’s hard to pull yourself out of it.

I was always thinking that “When I get this, or make this much money, or get here in business…Everything else will take care of it’s self”

How WRONG I WAS.

It just didn’t matter what I did, I couldn’t figure it out.

And because of this, everything else I looked at in my life wasn’t up to standard…My own perspective on the situation.

I would look at other parts of my life and recent them. I even resented the success of my fiance whose career was taking off whilst I was stuck.

I was becoming bitter under the surface whilst smiling on the outside.

And you know what?

I look back now and I’m like, who the hell was that guy?

I can say I have come out the other side of this, but it was no miracle cure. It wasn’t like I read one book or took one course and BOOM my life transformed.

I did 2 years of solid soul searching and self-discovery.

I did 2 years of serious self-development.

I did 2 years of getting to know me, all my insecurities, self doubts, fears, judgements, emotions, self awareness…As well as all the things in my life that are great, my success, my achievements, what makes me happy.

I just worked on me.

Now I don’t think it takes that for everyone, some people it can take a few months, some people a life time and I guess everyone else in the middle.

This is why YOUR Journey is your journey and no one else can say…

HERE, I can fix you in 5 steps.

I always smell BS, and I bet you do too!

What it does take to start is awareness of the problem, or awareness that you even have a challenge.

Being aware that you are stressed, struggling and maybe even burned out.

After awareness, it’s clarity.

This is why I put my Man-Unleashed together in the first place.

I wanted to create a place, a program and a coaching environment where men could go and develop who we are, in a non judgemental space.

I know what it’s like, I struggled to be open and honest round others. We see it as a sign of weakness, right?

However, it’s actually a sign of strength. To say you are struggling, to be honest and open and ask for a little help…IS STRONG.

To be your true and authentic self and put that person in life…IS STRENGTH.

So I’ve created a program that can enable men to be open about their struggles, get clear on who they want to become and then map out a way of getting there…

WHILST being their true selves.

I work with men because I have been ‘that’ guy, the guy who on the outside looks like he had it together but on the inside was crumbling.

I got myself together, and I’m still working on who I am…I eventually found my voice and the self confidence to put it out there, so helping other guys to do the same.

WHY?

So these men can show up to each part of their life and live life as the very best version of themselves. Be the best farther, husband, friend, manager, boss, colleague, leader they can be.

David

PS: If you are a man who has read this and it resonates with you and you yourself are feeling challenged in life and not where you want to be, Message me at wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk .