Stressed and Burned Out, Here’s WHY I Work With Men.

Have you ever been in that place, mentally, physically or emotionally?

That Stressed out or mentally and physically burned out place?

Maybe you’re in a struggle right now with both of these.

I speak to so many guys at business events or online who tell me they’re struggling right now and don’t know what to do, so they just keep trying to plow on, head down and ‘Get On With It’.

Or they have been broken and have started to put themselves back together again.

To be fair you could also be in a place of feeling stressed out, lost and overwhelmed but you’re not on your knees…But perhaps you’re just struggling with clarity, direction, energy or confidence because of it.

The issue I’m bringing up here is that at some point in time we are all going through, will go through it it or have gone through stressed, burn out, anxiety and maybe even depression.

I’ve been there myself.

I’ve been so stressed out I was lashing out. Taking my anger and frustration out on my fiancee.

I was in that place where all I wanted to do was discover what the hell I was doing and where I was going with my life…Sounds so simple right?

Probably one of the hardest things I ever had to do because I was looking in all the wrong places. It’s almost like you can see the signs, the lack of sleep, the anxiety, the stress, the anger, the frustration, the delusion…BUT it’s hard to pull yourself out of it.

I was always thinking that “When I get this, or make this much money, or get here in business…Everything else will take care of it’s self”

How WRONG I WAS.

It just didn’t matter what I did, I couldn’t figure it out.

And because of this, everything else I looked at in my life wasn’t up to standard…My own perspective on the situation.

I would look at other parts of my life and recent them. I even resented the success of my fiance whose career was taking off whilst I was stuck.

I was becoming bitter under the surface whilst smiling on the outside.

And you know what?

I look back now and I’m like, who the hell was that guy?

I can say I have come out the other side of this, but it was no miracle cure. It wasn’t like I read one book or took one course and BOOM my life transformed.

I did 2 years of solid soul searching and self-discovery.

I did 2 years of serious self-development.

I did 2 years of getting to know me, all my insecurities, self doubts, fears, judgements, emotions, self awareness…As well as all the things in my life that are great, my success, my achievements, what makes me happy.

I just worked on me.

Now I don’t think it takes that for everyone, some people it can take a few months, some people a life time and I guess everyone else in the middle.

This is why YOUR Journey is your journey and no one else can say…

HERE, I can fix you in 5 steps.

I always smell BS, and I bet you do too!

What it does take to start is awareness of the problem, or awareness that you even have a challenge.

Being aware that you are stressed, struggling and maybe even burned out.

After awareness, it’s clarity.

This is why I put my Man-Unleashed together in the first place.

I wanted to create a place, a program and a coaching environment where men could go and develop who we are, in a non judgemental space.

I know what it’s like, I struggled to be open and honest round others. We see it as a sign of weakness, right?

However, it’s actually a sign of strength. To say you are struggling, to be honest and open and ask for a little help…IS STRONG.

To be your true and authentic self and put that person in life…IS STRENGTH.

So I’ve created a program that can enable men to be open about their struggles, get clear on who they want to become and then map out a way of getting there…

WHILST being their true selves.

I work with men because I have been ‘that’ guy, the guy who on the outside looks like he had it together but on the inside was crumbling.

I got myself together, and I’m still working on who I am…I eventually found my voice and the self confidence to put it out there, so helping other guys to do the same.

WHY?

So these men can show up to each part of their life and live life as the very best version of themselves. Be the best farther, husband, friend, manager, boss, colleague, leader they can be.

David

PS: If you are a man who has read this and it resonates with you and you yourself are feeling challenged in life and not where you want to be, Message me at wilkinsondj@hotmail.co.uk . 

WHY Time is The Wrong Metric For Evaluating Work

Time is the wrong metric to evaluate work productivity.

For as long as we, organisations and businesses continue to put the intention on time being a viable way to assess work productivity, we will continue to miss out on how to get the very best out of ourselves and people.

It’s not about how much time you work it’s about how effectively you use that time.

Optimise your energy, productivity and work space for maximum results and to #winyourday

So what ways could we optimise our work productivity to ensure we get more done in less time?

1) Check emails first.

Ok there are a boat load of books and guru’s out there that say, don’t check email until lunch time. I get why they say that…

BUT…

Sometimes you might get an email that requires your attention, that if left a minute longer could burn down your day, business or other. Sometimes your messages are something you need or are working on, so checking them later in the day doesn’t really sit.

HOWEVER checking them at the start of your work day and then giving them a priority level would be more effective.

Label what emails need direct attention, what emails need and can be done later and which ones you don’t need to respond to at all.

Be more effective with what you do. You can use Gmail for this.

2) Get creative head space.

If you work in an office or a place where you are or can be constantly bothered then doing creative work in there if going to be a ball ache.

You need clarity and space to do creative work.

I like to be able to go to my local coffee shop and get my head down for 3hours and do my creative work there. For people that are self employed this is Zen because it gives you space. Or maybe go to your favourite place for productive work.

If you work in an office and need to do creative work then is there somewhere you can go to create head space?

3) Turn Your Notifications OFF.

Nothing worse than getting plugged in for a day of work and then constantly having your phone binging or beeping all day.

Social media and email notifications are designed to get your attention and more often than not they will. Each little break in distraction takes on average 64 seconds to get you back into what you were doing.

So if that phone or even on your computer is going off every 10-15min just image how many mental distractions that’s giving you throughout your work day.

Get those notifications off and phone on silent.

There’s a time and a place for social media.

4) Get moving.

A study showed that for every 3hours we sit down in a row each day without moving we can over time take 2years off our life span.

It’s no joke that periods of sitting is damaging our health, our backs, necks, joints, metabolism, digestion and well-being.

The key, get up every 60-90min and move for 3-10minutes. Go for a walk, stretch, do some squats, do something. Have fun and be creative with the movements you do.

It’s great for a mental and physical break and you’ll feel the benefits when you return to your desk.

5) Drink water.

Yeah this is obvious but I doubt many do it. When sitting at your desk have a 1lire bottle of water and aim for 2 of these per day. Have a sprinkle of sea salt in for your minerals.

Get that brain hydrated.

Just a few simple tips for optimising your work space and productivity for maximum results.

David

PS: Check out details for my upcoming event for how to Win Your Day by optimising each part of your day and life.

Click the link for details:

https://mailchi.mp/18dc5a77e2fb/optimialevents

 

What Goes in ALWAYS Comes Out

Your performance as a human is 💯 based on what you put INTO your body, mind and sole.

We all want MORE from ourselves. Whether that’s more energy, clarity, to have more freedom, look better, feel better, be stronger and fitter. To sleep better, have more sex, live on purpose or have more money.

BUT people just want to take from themselves and demand MORE of their body.

Pushing it harder mentally, physically and emotionally.

Working more hours, more hours logged into their phones and social media. More fast food or food on the go because they’re too busy to eat. More coffee to stay alert, more booze to relax and chill.

Neglecting themselves, neglecting their family, neglecting their relationships.

Always expecting more from the body and just hoping you’ll get through. Just hoping you won’t crash and burn. But this mentality is like playing Russian Roulette, at some point you’re going to get hit with the bullet that hurts you.

Some people it’s a mental break down, off work with stress or depression.

Some people it’s a physical breakdown, heart attack, exhaustion, burn out, disease or illness.

Your body and mind is only ever as good as what you put back in. The engine will only run on what fuel goes in.

So what can you do? 

Feed yourself the right foods, do the right exercises, get enough sunlight, get enough rest and recovery. Learn more, put better knowledge into yourself. Connect deeper with people, love more, create more space for yourself to think.

Spend time on GIVING BACK to your body, something every day and you’ll reap the rewards the other end.

And that’s the truth, start giving back to yourself rather than just taking.

If you were in a relationship and all you did was take, take, take what would happen?

Eventually it would end right? because you gave nothing back.

You’re body is the same, your mind is the same. You continue to take without putting back and that’s when we crash and burn.

You don’t need to go off the grid, live like a monk, be vegan or become a gym rat.

Just some simple, straight forward optimisation practises for your: Mind, Body, Sleep, Play, Relationships, Nutrition and Energy and you can transform your day.

For more details head over to where I share these practices with busy professionals who want more, better, happier and healthier lives: https://bit.ly/2GO7kMW

 

David