During lockdown I have done some soul searching, I guess the time away from the busyness, hustle and chaos of a modern, self created life has gave me much needed space for reflection.
I say soul searching because I felt I needed to reconnect with my WHY.
I don’t mean a superficial ‘why’ that gets branded around by some marketers, I mean my REAL purpose and philosophy behind why I do what I do, why I live the way I live, what defines me as a Man, my beliefs and values.
Have you ever experienced any of the following:
- You’re struggling to clearly define your purpose or have a deeper connection to what you want to do with your life, business or future?
- Maybe know your purpose but get easily lost and distracted by others and what other people of influence say. You find yourself chasing other leaders but you never catch up, continually feeling unfulfilled or feeling not enough. Eventually you look back and feel like you’ve lost a sense of you and your direction?
- Maybe you’re struggling to get to your goals because you’re dealing with so much stress, mental chaos, challenges at home and you spend most days firefighting.
- Or maybe you just can’t make traction with what you’re doing, everything feels like a hard slog and you’re getting burned out on your current path.
I have lived all of those at various times.
If you do struggle or feel challenged around the above, I’m going to show you how to move from this!
The reason I wanted to connect more deeply into my philosophy now was I felt I was continuing to look outside of myself, look at what everyone else was doing and I had started to copy, follow and become distracted by them (not their intention) but I was lacking my own intention.
So my Marketing Message didn’t feel congruent, my programs/services weren’t fully complete and other things felt a little disjointed.
So I went back to the basics, WHY I wanted to become a coach in the first place.
I reconnected with this message:
“I want to coach Men to show up in the world as the very best version of themselves”
What does this even mean?
I spent years of my childhood and youth hiding, been quiet and shy, feeling like I couldn’t stand up and be who I was. This seeped into my early business years and I felt like I had to wear a mask (a metaphorical one) this was so I could play a role that made me look more confidence, strong, in control…In reality I had no idea who I was.
For many years I wasn’t able to connect with my authentic self, to be able to accept myself for who I am, and then in return show up as myself. This often resulted in me feeling lost, unsure and unfulfilled with most of the choices I made in business and life.
I find so many Men struggle with self acceptance and self worth.
Worrying about what other people think of them, worrying about judgement, fear, failure, criticism and worst of all, they never feel enough.
So often these Men actually pull themselves down with negative self talk and the continuous cycle of self defeating thoughts.
One of the most powerful things I personally worked on was increasing my Self Worth. This is something that is vastly underrated in my opinion.
Now I coach Men to lean into who they are and this enables them to show up in the world as the most impactful and influential selves.
They start showing up in the Core 4 areas of life (Body, Mind, Home and Business) and this results in them creating MORE Fulfilment, Fun, Freedom and Financial Success.
This differs from client to client, but ultimately they desire a certain amount of Fulfillment, Fun, Freedom and Financial success and this aligns with their biggest over arching goal, So I work with them to achieve what thye desire most.
BUT, for this to EVEN happen they have to start ‘Showing Up’
I connect with this because that’s the transformation I went through and that’s why I share and aim to inspire other men through coaching conversations to do similar on their journey.
The second part of my philosophy is:
“As the very best version of themselves”
To achieve or create more in life we don’t have to be more than we are, but we do have to show up as all that we are.
So coaching Men to step into being all they are capable of is the intention because in that space there is very little they can’t do.
Take a moment and recall a time when you were on fire, when you were in that state of “flow”, How did you feel? What were you doing? What did you accomplish, create?
That state is self created and in that state you are in your potential and able to create magic!
So my coaching helps Men get into that place DAILY.
Most of the time we are fire fighting, dealing with mental chaos, dealing with high stress, anxiety, we are feeling overwhelmed and then on top of that we can struggle with fatigue, burn out, arguments and challenges at home and this just loads on top of us.
How the hell does someone in that place create a life they love to live on purpose?
But they can when they show up as all that they are,
They better manage or remove stress, remove anxiety, increase mental clarity, focus, increase energy, productivity and they re-gain control.
When you are HERE in that space, that’s when dreams are created, purpose is discovered and lives are transformed.
So for you,
What parts of your life are you NOT showing up in?
What results are you experiencing right now because you aren’t showing up?
What would change if you started showing up as the best version of you?
Sharing this message is what lights me up,
So thank you for reading it
If what I’m saying is resonating with you, then I’m personally inviting you to have a conversation with me, around your goals and what you want to create or what challenge you want to move past in your world, click the link to find out how – https://davidwilkinsonperformance.com/work-with-me/