Are You Making Business Too HARD For Yourself?

Are you making building a business or creating a successful life too HARD for yourself?

Do you often find yourself procrastinating on your daily tasks and to-do-lists?

Do you find yourself continuing to “put off” those tasks that seem hard or those actions that would have you feeling more uncomfortable if you did them?

Are you telling yourself that building a business is “hard” work and that it’s going to take years before you see any real return?

Have you said to yourself, “I need to get out of my comfort zone more, I’m NOT doing enough or pushing myself enough”?

If you have ever said any of those things to yourself I am hear to say, you are potentially setting yourself up to FAIL!

The motivational mantras and success gurus out there tell us that we NEED to get out of our comfort zone to create success and that life begins outside of the comfort zone…

This is total horse SH*T.

 

The problem is that we mix these worn out success lines and phrases into our already fagaile, negative self talking mindset.

On average 80% of the thoughts we have as humans are negative.

So pile into that more phrases and thoughts that make us feel like we aren’t good enough, that what we are doing isn’t enough and that we have to not feel fear anymore to create success, is just making the situation worse.

On a daily basis, people are getting up and telling themselves that they aren’t good enough, or that they are lazy, unmotivated, that they aren’t working hard enough…

These leads down a road of constant procrastination.

Then to top it off, at the end of the day they feel guilty because they haven’t worked on their business, done their to-do-list and instead have spent the day scrolling the internet instead of building a business…

Then the fear kicks in and the negative self talks starts again.

This cycle is breaking more business ambitions globally than the COVID-19 pandemic EVER will.

 

What’s going on?

 

What’s going on here is you believe you need to be a outside of your comfort zone to create success…

But you have an ‘inner competing commitment’ inside of you that it telling you not too.

The example I give is;

You want to cross the road, you are standing on one side and you can see that when you cross the road and reach the other side that all the success you want is over there waiting for you. You know that’s exactly where you want to be.

So you go to cross the road because all your motivation and inner desire is there in you, But as you step off the curb you stop and you notice all the cars, vans and traffic that is flying up and down the road.

You hesitate because you start to feel fear, How can you cross this road safely now?

Your fear is your inner competing commitment because it’s keeping you safe, but now you feel guilty and like a failure because you can’t overcome that fear and move.

You start to question your entire personality and everything you think about yourself. Before you know it you’ve worn yourself down with added stress, anxiety and crippling self doubts.

Now you think success is only for the brave, those who don’t feel fear and that you aren’t enough, so what’s the point. Fear has won!

You end up sitting on that curb frozen or turn around and go back to what you know, flight.

When in actual fact the answer was there all along and what you didn’t realise was that you don’t need to try and rush across the road and be brave.

You need to take a step back and take a break. Accepting that you want to get to the other side but you don’t need to risk yourself to get there.

By taking a step back and looking around you notice there’s a footbridge that crosses the road to your left. You can take the foot bridge and safely cross the road WITHOUT getting massively out of your comfort zone. That footbridge (alternative route) was there along, but because you weren’t lifting your head up you didn’t see it.

 

You can create success by “moving” in your comfort zone.

 

See the powerful word here is MOVE!

We create success by doing, by taking action, by moving.

If you move inside your comfort zone, complete actions that you feel comfortable doing and that still align to building your business, then you WIN.

When we feel fear we often freeze, we procrastinate and we put off the doing part. Then we do something that makes us feel relaxed or brings the stress levels down…But what we didn’t do was move positively.

If we move inside our comfort zone and we take consistent action then this creates success far quicker, easier and in a much more fluid way.

Building a business, getting in shape, speaking on stage, putting yourself out to the world, posting on social media, running a marathon…These aren’t easy and they all come with a level of commitment and self discipline required.

However we don’t need to slap the “It’s hard” label onto them.

If I’m not a runner and I want to train for a Marathon, I don’t tell myself that today on my first day of training that I need to run hard and I have to run 26 miles…That would be madness right?

I just tell myself I can go out and run 1 mile today. One mile is in my comfort zone because I know I can run or at the very least walk 1 mile. But when I run that 1 mile today I grow in confidence because I completed it.

This gives me momentum to run 1.5 miles next time.

We can choose to approach ANY goal we have and do it with more ease and enjoyment, it’s a state of mind, it’s about finding our footbridge and taking that one step at a time.

 

Thank you for reading.

 

David

What Do You Do If You Don’t Have Time?

You say you don’t have time and struggle to find the time to work on your goals…

I say…BS.

I’m not going to beat around the bush here, I’m going straight into it.

You say you don’t have time to work on your goals…I say you’re not MAKING the time.

Let’s break down the ‘lack of time myth’:

– You have 168 hours per week…WE ALL HAVE THIS. Everyone from you, to Bill Gates and Serena Williams.

– Sleep for 50 of them (average 7hours per night)

– Work for 40 of them,

– Groom for 8 of them,

– Eat and drink for 10 of them…

So how are you spending the other 60 hours, or more specifically 8.5hours per day?

Let’s say you have other commitments, longer working hours, family, gym, commuting to work etc.

ALL that taken into account are you REALLY telling me you don’t have JUST 60 minutes spare per day to work on your dreams?

JUST 7hours per week MAX. 

If you read this and say “No I still don’t have time”. Then my advise to you is your goals aren’t enough for you because if you can’t carve out a little time to work on your dreams then your dreams aren’t for you.

That’s all it takes to get started, 60minutes per day to to work on your dream body, life, business, career or whatever your ambition is.

For most people to find 60minutes extra per day just need to stop mindlessly scrolling Facebook or Instagram and they’ll find time.

Imagine if you just did 60minutes today on your goal, that’s an extra 60minutes you’ve spent on your goal today than you did yesterday. By doing this you are now at least ONE step closer to the outcome you want.

Everything in life in HOW you view it from your perspective. This is partly what MINDSET is.

Someone says; “I don’t have time”.

I say; “You’re not making time”. All because we are both looking at it from different angles.

Change the way you view things and this will transform how you spend those valuable minutes.

You’re either moving closer to your dreams or further away and this comes down to your value of time and how you use it.

Alpha Dave

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The Paralyzing Power of Feeling Overwhelmed.

The paralyzing power of feeling overwhelmed and the NEGATIVE affect it has on your life.

The scenario;

We start a new career path or business, or maybe a new training and dieting program and because we are excited and motivated our intention is to do as MUCH as we can.

We want to do it all now and strike whilst our motivation and energy is highest. We feel we can take on the world, We want to be at our end goal NOW…

But because of this do we actually end up biting off more than we can chew or taking on more than we can handle? 

We try so hard to do it ALL, that we end up doing nothing and become paralyzed with feeling overwhelmed.

For example:

We try to do everything on our new diet, following the plan 100%, buy all the recommend supplements, the healthy foods, cooking clean meals, avoiding social events, cutting back on alcohol, sugar etc.

However after a few weeks we realise that we just can’t keep this pace so we end up stopping. Or we adjust the diet to fit and end up doing less and less until we eventually go back to eating how we did before we started.

Let’s say the goal is to get in shape so we hit the gym 5-6 x per week, every week. Doing classes, HIIT training, cardio, weights, core work etc…We try and fit it all in but we get tired, burned out, we miss sessions and then get peed off. The more this happens the higher our chances are of stopping. We started out by doing more exercise than we can physically and mentally handle and the only way forward is to do less. The problem with doing ‘less’ is we can feel like we’re failing.

Maybe we start doing a sport and we try to progress quickly because we want to get good at it sooner rather than later. We try and develop the fitness, the strength, the skills and knowledge that go with the sport, But its a long process. We end up realising that their’s soooo much to it that we haven’t got time to fit it in. So we either continue to feel overwhelmed and underprepared in the sport, feeling like we aren’t good enough…Or we quit.

Maybe we start a new career or open a new business, we start doing everything, reading and learning everything. Going onto courses, building our skills, marketing, getting new clients, networking, branding, tax returns., accounts, sales, employment, trying to get ahead, putting more hours in…The list goes on.

We dive in the deep end and try and swim. We try and keep pace but realise that we are doing everything, and none of it to the standard needed to create a successful business or a flying career. We realise we can’t keep this pace so we feel stressed, burned out, anxious. We start to procrastinate on tasks, decisions, things don’t move forward as quickly as we’d like. So we start to panic, get frustrated and stress ourselves out.

We’re not growing the business at the rate we want. We’re spending almost every waking minute consumed by the business/career. Over time we’ll spend year upon year driving everyone close to us away and all we’ll have is a business/job that you LIVE to work for, becoming a slave to it. And every waking day is just a series of stresses and overwhelm.

In most of these situations feeling OVERWHELMED is the core of it all. This sometimes can become so intense that we end up procrastinating. And this means we end up doing NOTHING…Which makes us feel MORE overwhelmed and stressed… So the cycle continues. 

Overwhelm

Why does this happen?

Because as humans and we already have a full plate in our lives. We’re already doing and juggling so much, especially in the modern world where we WANT to have it all.

HOWEVER we only have so much time, energy and mental space for so many things (Work, Family, Fitness, Fun, Sport, Eating, Sleeping, Social time, Down Time, Personal development)…especially if we want to have everything that life offers.

So what SHOULD we do?

“Swing Singles”.

The key is to take small BUT consistent swings at life, or put differently just take one step at a time…aka Swing Singles.

The aim is to do JUST ONE THING, OR TAKE THAT ONE STEP that moves you closer to your goal/s. And ONLY one thing until this becomes a permanent part of your daily routine

Then once we’ve done that we can focus on the next step WHILST continuing to do step 1.

For example:

+ If you want to improve your nutrition then change ONE eating habit. For example eat a healthy breakfast 6 days per week for 4 weeks. This ingrains the HABIT. Just do ONE thing. Leave everything else until you can consistently eat a healthy breakfast. Don’t worry about lunch, dinner, snacks etc. Don’t worry about gluten and sugar content right now. Just nail down 1 meal. Get that right first and THEN move on.

+ If you want to improve your fitness and you DON’T exercise right now, then start with doing 10minutes of exercise 3 x per week. If you do exercise then just increase what you do by 10%. So if you run 5miles 3 x per week then run 5.5miles. Avoid trying to add in 1-2 more sessions per week, or trying to go 5 x per week. You’re got to do things that are manageable. Start small then build up.

+ If you want to grow your business choose 1 AREA to work on and do this consistently for 4 weeks. If it’s sales that could be make 1 phone call to a perceptive client 5 days per week for 4 weeks. Then do 2 per day and so now. Ingrain the habit of ‘DOING’ into your schedule.

It sounds so simple…And it is in theory.

What makes this strategy work is YOUR doing something that will have a positive affect on the area of life you wish to improve. Doing something that is manageable and then ‘doing it’ over and over again (swinging singles) until it brings results.

Results aren’t achieved by hitting a ‘home run’ every once in a while or trying to keep hitting them over and over even when you keep missing. This one hit wonder mentality and trying to do it ALL in one go, is what’s leaving you feeling more overwhelmed because you continue to miss the long term results.

The key is to keep hitting that ball for a single. Then move to base one, then hit it for another single and you move to base 2 etc etc. I’m using a Baseball metaphor to describe Swing Singles…But I think it fits really well.

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Most people try this all or nothing approach. It’s all in at 100%. But then after 3-4 weeks or so motivation drops and every week they end up doing less, 90%, 80%, 70% etc. Until they end up doing ZERO…Sound familiar?

However when you swing singles the approach is to do 10% this week, then 20% next month, then 30% and so on. We continue to move forward and do MORE…Not do less.

Once you have that one habit ingrained into you and your DAILY routine for about a 28day time period…Then start the next habit, swing that next single. And repeat the process…This strategy works. 

Swing singles everyday and that is when the magic happens.
Remember you are human, your not a robot. You can’t keep doing more and more, you’ll burn out, get overwhelmed, stressed and frustrated…Then you’ll quit.

Flip this on its head, do less now. Start small and build upon these habits over time.

The art of swinging singles is the secret to LONG TERM success.

Alpha Dave