We Learn From Our Mistakes Not Our Wins.

There are some very powerful lessons that we CAN learn as a result of mistakes, setbacks, mishaps or even our failures. These lessons, if learned have the capacity to transform our future success.

Now I don’t really like using that word…Failure because we never truly fail. However I know that that particular word is used to describe a particular event that we have had a lack of success in.

What I learned…

On Saturday I took part in another Crossfit finals competition, This one was called ‘Battle For Middle Ground’. I was entered into the middle ground category which was an intermediate comp.

During this competition us athletes had 4 events to complete and one event to complete 2 weeks prior to the competition starting, so 5 events in total.

The Events: 

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This is how my competition stacked up.

  • Event 0 (the one we did 2 weeks before the event). This was a 10 rep max push press, back squat and deadlift all set in 12min total = 16th.
  • Event 1 = 2nd
  • Event 2 part A = 26th
  • Event 2 part B = 1st
  • Event 3 = 12th
  • Event 4 = 3rd.

Overall my finish was 4th and I narrowly missed the podium by 3 points.

As you can see I had some very good finishes throughout the day however a 16th and a 26th place finish in 2 events stopped me reaching that podium. And this is what myself and you can learn from our mistakes.

See a win doesn’t really tell you that much, ok it tells you what you’re doing is probably working, or maybe you were a little lucky, but a loss can give us so much more information.

For me when it comes to Crossfit I know where my weaknesses lie, I have tangible results and data that conform this its not just based on theory or feelings. To win a Crossfit competition of this standard I would need to finish all my events at a minimum inside the top 10 on everything, maybe even top 5.

I had 3 event finishes outside the top 10 and then 3 top 3 placings. This shows my inconsistency as an athlete and what my strengths and weaknesses are.

I believe that for any of us it’s our loses that can show us what we need to fix.

Take any area of life you may have come up short in, work, career, business, sport, hobbies, financial. You’ll have come up short and missed your mark and this is where we LEARN. Our mistakes highlight the part/s of us we need to improve upon, or the extra knowledge, skills, abilities we need to get or improve upon so we have better success next time.

A setback gives us data, an actual tangible result that when analysed tells us what we need to do next time so we don’t get the SAME result. 

I challenge you to look at where your coming up short, what might be holding you back, what areas could you be making mistakes in that are affecting your bigger picture and correct these. Look at the information that’s been given to you, be honest with yourself and then ‘Do The Work’ to correct them.

I could easily look at my high place finishes and think to myself ‘I’m doing ok, I’m winning events and coming top 3’. And YES that is nice to see but in all honesty it means nothing to me if I’m not winning the competition overall.

I’d rather come top 5 in all the events and WIN the competition overall, than win a few workouts and miss the podium.

For me that’s the fuel to my fire, my motivation, my drive. Knowing I can get better and doing what it takes. I’m not the complete athlete yet, Im not the complete performance coach or motivational speaker I know I can be. That’s why everyday I try and improve one part of each of these.

I look at what I suck at, what I’m weak at, I’m honest with myself, self critical and I look to putting it right.

In Crossfit it can be difficult for some athletes to admit they are weak at something, they don’t like to be in the gym surrounded by their friends, fellow athletes, competitors and look foolish as they try and master a skill, lift or improve strength in things they are weak at. Ego can very easily get in the way here, and I’ll admit I do feel this way from time time to time.

But it’s only when we embrace these moments, these workouts, these opportunities to get better that we WILL actually improve.

I won’t be competing in individual competitions for about 6-8months now. I’ll only be doing team comps or maybe something individual for fun, but for major individual comps i’ll be taking a back seat so I can work on my weaknesses and come back a stronger athlete. I’ll be putting the work in so I correct the mistakes as I work towards my long term goal.

So my challenge to you is be prepared to screw up, miss your mark and have setbacks. You’ll discover these when you step out your comfort zone and when you start pushing to your goals. In these moments I challenge you to look at your weaknesses, be self critical, be honest with yourself and then do the work to put it right for next time.

Why?

Because when you do then you grow, evolve, level up and get closer to your goal. You have to be aware of your weaknesses as much as your strengths because this is also where you need your attention. Then you can correct them and move further forward.

I challenge you to do what it takes in training, in self development, in self mastery and be prepared to fail. I challenge you to get out your comfort zone and maybe even feel like you look foolish from time to time because when you embrace your ability to learn from mistakes then there isn’t ANYTHING that can stop your progress apart from your own ego. 

Alpha Dave.

 

Mistake + Correction = Learning. 

 

 

What Feeling Exhausted Taught Me.

I wrote the below blog in 2014 and it STILL rings true today…

What feeling exhausted taught me today.

 

So this morning after a 5am alarm call (I hate getting up before 6:30am, it’s not good for me)

I rolled out of bed, got ready and made it into work.

Standing there this morning as I waited for my double espresso to pour out I had all these feels

Of being overwhelmed.

I was feeling like I had so much to do and not enough time to do that, you’ve almost certainly felt this way before right?

I was thinking there’s just so much work to be done to make DH fitness into the life changing company it can be.

Also thinking about how much I want to be the best athlete I can be
As I sat there sipping my coffee, both these feeling were followed up with doubt, fear, overwhelm, dread and stress.

Right there and then I stopped myself in the moment that point where you catch yourself

And I said to myself…

…What if all I do is being better today than I was yesterday?

Let me say that again

What if all I do is be better today that I was yesterday?

Because let’s face that’s all we have, the now, the today

The past is over right, we can’t change that

The future isn’t really ours to own or change either.

Yeah we can plan, organise, dream etc.

But we really only have today and right now.

So instead of me thinking how can I improve all these areas in my life and stressing the f**k out about then, I just though…

What can I do today to be better?

An immense weight lifting from me,

So today I’m going to do one thing to inspire one person (might even come from this blog that’s why I wrote it)

Its might be during our team training and development session today
Or it might be a member of dh fitness…either way all I need to do to know I’m on point today is inspire and motivate 1 person.

As for my journey to being the best athlete I can be

All I’m going to do is go and train and give it the best i’ve got, nothing more and nothing less…That’s all I can ask of myself.

Thanks for reading the ramble

Alpha Dave, Aiming to be the best version of myself one day at a time.

My Next Crossfit Competition

My next Crossfit Competition will be this Saturday and I’ll be competing at the ‘First Means Everything’ Finals.

My focus and mindset going into this competition is to give my absolute best and I will leave ‘everything’ I’ve got on the competition floor.

As they would say “The hay is in the barn”. I’m the most physically and mentally prepared I have EVER been for a competition and this Saturday will be my opportunity to put all the preparation to the test.

However it’s the journey that pushes me.

See the goal does not matter as much as we believe it does. Regardless of size, scale, time frame, why you want it etc…None of this matters as much as the process…aka the journey.

The journey we undertake to move us towards our goal/s, that’s where we must excel. That’s where we must find happiness, joy, fun, freedom, contentment and personal growth.

The goal will never be the be-all-end-all, it’s the journey that should make us feel alive, passionate, purposeful.

Sure the goal is important because it gives us direction, something to work towards and clarity of our progress, a kind of test at the end to see how well we’ve performed, or a pat on the back for something achieved.

I could never reach my goals if I hated the process and that’s because it doesn’t matter how motivated I am, if my hearts not truly in it then its not for me.

The purpose of the process is to change you.

 

Will the journey be easy?

Absolutely not, it will test you, push you and move you further out of your comfort zone than ever before because that this is the purpose of the process. The process is meant to ‘CHANGE’ you.

You can not be the same person you are right now today if you want more, better, bigger, happier, healthier, freedom in your life. The very idea of having more means you as a person MUST become MORE.

You need to level up, grow, self develop and move yourself onto a high plain in life. Then once you are committed to this, then the goal becomes closer.

And remember with any goal, once it’s been achieved and then celebrated you’ll always desire something else. This is what makes the greats…Great. They never settle, they never stop, they never stagnate, their desire never stops. When it does they leave that area of life behind and move on.

When the journey stops being your purpose in life, then you’ll discover a new path to follow.

Note, that when you set a goal for yourself and you feel that rush of excitement comes over you with all the possibilities it will bring to your life, I encourage you to start thinking about the journey YOU must take to achieve that specific outcome.

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Consider WHO do you need to become to achieve your goal/s.

What will your daily habits will look like?

What will your weekly schedule look like?

What does your mindset need to become?

Who you will need to bring into your life to support you?

What strengths do you have that will assist you?

What areas do you need to improve?

What skills and knowledge you will need to adopt?

How much this is going to take from your life, commitment level?

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There is a personal transformation you will need to go through to reach your ambitions in life and it will change you.

Be ready for change because it’s one of the only certainties in life.

Alpha Dave.

What Are You Willing to Do to WIN?

When I’m talking about ‘winning’ in this blog I’m referring to winning at anything in life, sport, business, love or financial success…..

Basically you achieving your major goal/purpose.

I would like you to read this from your own perspective and take it into context with your major purpose and passion. The area/s of life you are striving for growth and success in.

Questions:

  1. To be successful and win in your chosen area, what are you ‘willing’ to give and do?

     2. What are you NOT willing to do, give in order to become successful?

So often we ask this question to ourselves or maybe a coach or mentor does;

“What are you WILLING to do to achieve your goal/s?”

What we are willing to do will vary from person to person because their desires, passion, ethics, upbringing, morals and abilities come into play here.

However, I also believe a great question to ALSO ask yourself is;

“What are you NOT willing to do, give or have in order to make it to the top?”

See for all of us we have a line, a line that we will not and can not cross. And this can go from anything from the number of hours we can/are willing to work, the sacrifices we are willing to make…Right down to the ethics and morals we might be willing to put into questions in order to reach the top.

It’s a balance for anyone trying to become successful. A balance between what we are willing to do to achieve our goal/win, and what are aren’t.

Where do you draw the line when it comes to;

  • Sacrifices in terms of money, time and effort.
  • Playing to win.
  • Increasing your knowledge base, learning and skill level.
  • Stresses placed upon family, partners, loved ones, friends and relationships.
  • Financial investment.
  • Screwing others over to reach the top.
  • Partaking in unethical activities in business, sport and life.

 

JUST TO NOTE: I’m not saying that to be a winner or to succeed in your endeavors you need to be unethical, cheat or screw people over. Far from it.

However what I am saying is you have to understand to your very core what YOU personally are willing to give to attain your goal.

People have their own views on what it takes to win and that’s anything from hard work, making sacrifices to blatant cheating and underhanded tactics.

So here’s a question to you,

In your OWN opinion do you NEED to cheat the system or go against the grain to WIN in your chosen area?

OR

Can you achieve success by playing by the rules? 

How you personally answer this questions will probably tell you all you need to know about your own personal mindset and beliefs around success.

How many people have heard the same old line about someone who’s become successful in business…

‘In order for them to reach the top they’ve probably screwed a lot of people over on their way up’.

What about in sport;

‘Yeah they’re only that good because they cheat or take drugs’.

I’ve heard these lines time and time again and I’m sure you have. People tend to use these to rationalise someone else’s success when it seems alien to them, or not possible in that persons mind.

The problem is how many people ‘actually’ start to believe these worn out lines and because they have heard them so often that they actually believe them. So much so that they CAN stop pursuing their own goals because they think they HAVE to cheat or be un-ethical to win and aren’t willing to do it.

OR on the flip side.

They actually believe the only way to reach the top is via these routes so they start screwing people over or cheating in sport in a pursuit to reach the top.

 

However in my opinion what we SHOULD focus on is OURSELVES. 

What are you willing and not willing to do to be successful?

Forget about the stories, forget about what you ‘think’ you know about what it takes and just focus on what you are willing to give to achieve your dreams.

This is ALL you can focus on.

Be willing to go down your own journey, do it your own way. Not following the crowd or following some preconceived notion that to be successful you must do X,Y or Z.

Your level of success is determined by what you personally give to it and ultimately whether you can sleep at night with a clear conscience when all is said and done.

Thanks for reading today.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this below?

Alpha Dave.

 

 

 

The Fuel To My Fire.

The power of the human mind, will and spirt is vastly underestimated in my opinion. And it’s probably ourselves that underestimate JUST how much we can do when we put our mind to something.

One year ago I remember this specific moment so clear…

Standing watching 10 of my fellow competitors walk out onto the competition floor, each one of them having their names read out and having the crowd cheers as they walked to their starting positions.

These 10 men had made it into the final of the Jolee Crossfit Competition. Which is a in house competition between the athletes within the Jolee Crossfit Box group. It’s by no means the Crossfit Games, however the athletes on show are ALL fighting for pride and that podium position, All good athletes in their own right.

One year ago I had to sit at the side and watch the final workout go ahead without me in it. It was my first ever real Crossfit competition so even making the final that day would have been tough…But I set very high standards of myself. The disappointment I felt that day was intense. In that moment as I watched these 10 guys go out for that final event I said to myself…

“Next year I will return to this competition and I’ll make the podium”.

In that moment I made a promise to myself and one I vowed to actually keep.

In the past I’ve made promises to myself, I’ll achieve this, or I’ll do that but somehow I end up finding ways of letting myself down. Giving up and putting it off. How many times have you said to yourself, I’m going to achieve X,Y,Z but ended up putting it off, or giving up?

HOWEVER for me this time it was different.

I don’t know if you’ve ever experienced this before in a certain area of your life? But when I started Crossfit training to be a competitive Crossfit athlete I just new it was for me. I just felt that I was made to do this. I know it might sound stupid to some, or maybe even a little arrogant to others, But I just new this is what I was made AND wanted to do.

So that day when I made ‘that’ promise to myself something in me clicked. A light went on and I new I was going to do whatever it took to make it back to the competition next year and do so in the best physical and mental shape of my life to podium.

This for me is the power of setting the ‘RIGHT’ goals for yourself.

Something you are hugely passionate about. Something that keeps you awake at night. Something that will get you to ‘do the work’ even when you can’t be bothered, or when your tired…This is the power of setting the ‘right’ goals for you.

Goals, success and high standards in life are NOT achieved when you ‘only’ work on them when you can be bothered. 

Far to often we as human allow our FEELINGS and EMOTIONS to dictate the effort we put into working on our goals. And this is why for so many of us we can miss the mark because we just do it when we feel like it.

Your dreams are turned into a reality when you are willing to consistently put the WORK IN regardless of how you feel, your emotions, your frame of mind, your lifestyle.

You have to in my opinion become almost robotic to it. All emotion is taken away and all you do…Is DO. You do whatever it is you need to do to ensure your goals are achieved.

And that’s what I had to do to.

Every day, every week, every month for 1 year I did what I needed to do.

  • I worked out 8-10 x per week every week, never missed a workout EVEN when on holiday.
  • I ate healthy and fuelled my body correctly around workouts.
  • I sacrificed nights out, meals out, drinking, social events.
  • I started to workout with better athletes and surround myself with people who are fitter, stronger and better Crossfitter’s than me.
  • I busted my ass in the gym so hard I’ve had to peel myself off the floor.
  • I got around the right people, coaches and support networks.
  • Every week I worked on my mental game. My mindset and mental strength.
  • I pushed myself to work on my weaknesses and continue to improve my strengths.
  • I entered other competitions during the year to improve my confidence and event strategy.

And I did this consistently for a year. And this is what counts.

Did I live like a monk for a year?…NO. I’ve been on holiday, I’ve been on stag do’s. I’ve had nights out. I’ve ate cake, chocolate. There’s been times when I could have pushed a little harder in the gym.

But I have always put the work in.

I tell you this NOT to impress you, but to impress upon you that it’s the consistency that counts towards you achieving your own goals. Not just doing it for a month, or going all in when you can be bothered. It’s the day to day small steps that when added together allow you to leap forward.

Fast forward to Sunday 17th September and my return to the Jolee Throwdown.

This time I was ready to go. That morning when I woke up I said to myself;

“I’ve done everything I could and was willing to do, I’m ready”.

After 5 brutal workouts. Throwing down against some very good competition. Getting pushed to my physical limits, achieving some personal bests, I ended up finishing 2nd.

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For me I feel like I WON 2nd place. Leaving it all on the competition floor and knowing that I did everything I could do that day. A proud moment and a significant ‘little win’ for me personally.

So what now?

For me it’s some down time to reflect and start to plot for the next 12 months. The next stage of competition. What I need to work on and improve, how I’m going to do this and what are my major goals for next year?

I wrote this blog post because I know what’s possible when we put our minds and hearts into something.

Whatever you need for fuel to motivate you, for me it was the disappointment of missing out last year. So for you, find that fuel to your fire and light that b*tch up.

Your goals are there for the taking…You’ve just got to be willing to ‘DO THE WORK’.

Before I leave you I’m reminded of something Crossfit Athlete Josh Bridges said;

“You better love the journey and the pain because the podium lasts about 2minutes” 

And this is so true for ANY goal. The journey and the effort you put in day in day out is what you MUST love. It’s what should motivate and inspire you. Because the winning, the success, the money, the podium, that reaching the goal at the end doesn’t last long at all because for us Alpha’s…It’s always on to the NEXT goal.

 

Dare to be Alpha.

Alpha Dave.

 

 

 

 

To Have MORE You Must Become MORE.

It’s human nature to desire, want and need more in our lives.

More purpose, happiness, love, success, money, freedom etc.

These desires run deep and I’ll say this right now…There’s nothing wrong with wanting more, its human nature.

This is why so many people set goals for themselves, everything from their career, income, bodies, lifestyles etc.

People set goals because they want more and a goal gives them a target, direction, Something to aspire and work towards.

On top of that if gives you good feelings when you image your life HAVING that goal in it.

Because of goal setting and the ‘You can have whatever you want’ motivational phenomenon we have seen a surge in motivational and coaching guru’s telling us we CAN have more, we CAN do it…Hell in a way, I’m one of them.

Through social media, youtube, audios, books, seminars, coaching events more and more people are chasing their dreams, And I personally tip my hat to everyone that’s chasing theirs.

HOWEVER >>>

You must also understand that there is a vital piece of this equation that is over looked.

To have more you must become MORE.

To achieve more success, love, happiness, income, health etc you MUST as an individual, evolve, grow and level up.

There’s this ‘theory’ that if we set goals, wish for them, work hard, then in some magical way those goals will become a reality for us….If it were only that simple.

When we set out sights on something (your goal/s) then they are usually bigger than you right now. What I mean by this is, your goal/s are out of reach and out of your current comfort zone/ability level RIGHT NOW.

Take something like a persons desire to earn more money.

Let’s say you’re on £30k per year, but you want to make £100k per year. That goal is entirely doable, However it is 3 x plus what you’re already earning.

The chances of you making £100k by CONTINUING to do the SAME things that’s making you £30k Is very unlikely.

The chances of you making 3 x your income and being the same person you are right now is also very unlikely.

You’ve heard this saying right?

 

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result”.

 

You aren’t going to increase your income by continuing to work as you are, With the SAME skill, knowledge, attitude, mindset and character level you currently have.

For your income to grow…You’ll need to grow.

You’ll need to become more knowledgeable and skilled in your field. Or you might have to open your own business in which case this brings on a whole new level of skills and expertise you’ll need.

You’ll need to work smarter, more efficient, be more productive, discover how to delegate, manage etc.

Just hoping and day dreaming about MORE money isn’t going to bring MORE into your life. You have to act and become MORE of a person that makes £100k per year.

Building your skills, knowledge, attitude, character, outlook, mindset, body, productivity.

And this principle CAN used for ANY goal.

Let’s say you want to run sub 10sec for 100m. Right now you currently run 10.5sec. Just by doing the exact same workouts, running intervals an lifting the same weights you’re currently doing WON’T get you any quicker.

As you get stronger you have to lift more weight, run faster intervals, train more efficiently, improve your technique. Work on your mental game, be more effective with your nutrition and recovery.

You have to level up your entire game.

This bridges the gap between where you are right now in your life…And where you want to be…

And this goes for anything in life.

The ONLY way you can meet your goals is for you to grow to the same size they are.

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Ok so what do you do next?

  • Start by looking at the characteristics and habits of people that have or are doing what you want. What do they do daily? What’s their mindset? Work ethic, attitude, commitment, daily habits? What are their daily actions like?

 

  • What habits and characteristics do you need to improve upon or adopt for you to reach a similar level? I’m not saying don’t be you…Always be yourself. What I’m saying is you need to be MORE than you are. So discover what you need to bridge the cap and start building these traits and habits into your life.

 

  • Everyday aspire to be and become more. Improving every area of you and your life. Your mindset, body, career, relationships. Aim and focus on becoming more of a rounded person. Levelling up every area of your life, attitude and character. It takes daily practise until it becomes part of your life.

 

  • Self evaluate yourself, look at your weaknesses. What areas are you weak in and can you either improve upon these through developing skills, hiring a coach etc or are these areas you can delegate and hire someone/s to help you. This is what being smart is all about.  With this also look at your strengths and how you can continue to improve upon these.

 

The key to going from WHERE you are right now in life, to where you want to be (reaching your goal/s) is about levelling up as a person. And the way to doing this is by working on YOU.

Grow as a person and you’ll grow to the size of your goals. 

Dare to dream big…Dare to be Alpha.

Alpha Dave.

 

 

It’s Not What You Do…It’s How You Do It.

It’s not what you do…It’s how you do it that counts.

Have you ever heard this saying before…

“How you do something is how you do everything”. 

For any entrepreneur, athlete or professional how you do ANYTHING is how you do EVERYTHING, It’s the STANDARDS you hold yourself to.

This relates to everything from your:

  • Character.
  • Attitude.
  • Professionalism.
  • Commitment.
  • Mindset.
  • Positivity.
  • How you deal with adversity.
  • Work ethic.
  • Determination.
  • Organisation.
  • Communication skills…The list goes on.

 

Let’s take attitude for a moment and use it in a context of a persons outlook and approach in life, And lets take it on something very simple like ‘time management’.

If you’re in business and you are always LATE. Late for meetings, late for clients, always have people waiting for you because you have poor time management this becomes a reflection of your attitude.

When it comes to those people who are doing business with you then your poor time management reflects on their opinion of you, how might conduct business and your standards. So they COULD get the opinion that you don’t value their time. That your product and service may also be late in delivery or service. That you can’t stick to time frames and schedules. That you may promise things and not deliver on your word.

All of these have consequences on whether people will continue to do business with you now and in the future.

All because you we were late for meeting/s.

How you do anything is how you do everything. 

So flip this on it’s head and let’s say your early for your meeting.

You’re punctual, You’re well prepared. They’re business matters to you. Your smart, your attitude is one that cares.

This then reflects on how they perceive you are in day to day business and it all comes down to something as simple your time management, because it’s the standards you hold yourself to.

How you do something is how you do everything. 

And this goes for athletes, business owners, people you are in a relationship with and anyone you come into contact with.

Your attitude, mindset, positivity, outlook, professionalism, work ethic etc will reflect in everything you do good or bad.

This is why your character is probably more important than your skill and ability level. You could be the most gifted athlete on the planet but if your work ethic sucks then it’s very unlikely you’re going to reach the peak in your sport.

However let’s say you at a good athlete, not the most naturally gifted BUT you work your ass off in training, in recovery, with your diet and never give less than 100% in everything you do…The likely hood of this person succeeding is dramatically increased over the more gifted athlete who has a weaker character.

Working on your character and attitude is just as important as brushing up on your skills and knowledge. And YES character is learned.

Sure we get a lot of it when we grow up and these are instilled in us during our upbringing…Both our good and not so good traits. But we can always work to be an improved human being…

It’s a state of mind.

Aiming to become a better, more rounded person and becoming a master of yourself and your mind is the ultimate personal journey.

Working on your mindset, outlook, positivity, dedication, self control, confidence, humility and commitment will make you a better person, strengthen your character and better in whatever you do in life.

These things just like any skills have to be worked on and improved. And by doing so you’ll grow to that next level in life.

The truth is you can’t have more in life if you can’t become MORE.

What I mean by this is, you can’t have more happiness, success, freedom, love, money, fun, humility, confidence to name a few if you can’t become MORE of a person yourself.

Just by being the same you as you are right now won’t take you to that next level in your life because you won’t grow. And without growth there is no progress.

You must grow as person in all areas and this starts with a desire to be and become more than you already are.

Develop your character and your level of success with dramatically increase.

Dare to be Alpha.

Alpha Dave.