It’s that time of year again, a fresh start, a time for new or updated goals and resolutions to be set.
As I sit down and start to get clear on the year ahead, I’m reminded of the power of reflection.
See what so many of us do is we become reactive to our current feelings and emotions.
For example, ‘I’ve put weight on, So I need to hit the gym 5 days per week and detox myself to lose it, I’ve got to get this weight off ASAP’.
Or ‘I hate my job I need a new career so I going fully into that’.
Or ‘I’m broke after Xmas I need to earn more money’.
Or ‘I’m surrounded by negative people so I need to get away from them’.
These are all valid goals, However before you start transforming your entire life I implore you to spend some time looking back over the past 12months and asking yourself some key questions;
What did you learn or discover about yourself?
What made you happy?
What do you want to do more off and then what do you want to do less of?
What’s changed in your life over the past year?
How do you feel about those changes?
What word or phrase would sum up the past 12 months for you?
What mistakes did you make?
How does those mistakes make you feel, or what’s your thoughts on them?
The word that comes to mind for me when I reflect over the past year was…Discovery,
More clear than that, Self Discovery.
My year was full of moments of self discovery and personal awareness.
Discovery in key areas of my life such as;
My relationship with exercise and how I was using it as a mental and emotional crutch. And how this was giving me serious anxiety and overwhelm.
Discovery in my relationships with family members and the importance of correcting these and moving forward in my life.
Discovery in my own personal style and self confidence as a man. Coming to terms more with who I am and being more comfortable with that.
Discovery in what makes me happy and what I want from my future with Helenlee (my fiancee) and our life together.
Discovery in my career and what I want to do, achieve and become. Discovery on the importance of serving and coaching other people. Becoming clear on what my purpose is and where I can best help people.
These discoveries all came about at various times throughout the year however I wasn’t aware of them all until I actually sat back and reflected on my year and had a conversation about it.
This shaped my year but this will also shape my coming year. Because of all the self discovery I have made about myself, who I am, what I want, where I want my life to do, what makes me happy, what I want more of and what I want less of.
This allows me to prepare and set my intension for the next year.
This means I’m not reactive but actually proactive.
My next 12months will follow on from 2018.
By looking back and becoming aware of what we have done, this can give us clarity about the changes or continuation of what we have or haven’t been doing.
So before you settle down and start putting together your New Years resolutions, take some time to reflect on 2018 this could have a hugely positive affect on 2019 and beyond.
I’m now taking on coaching clients for 2019.
Do you have a significant career or business dream/goal you wish to achieve?
What’s the biggest challenge you face right now in your business or career?
Do you have a life challenge or goal that you feel you’d need support, focus or clarity to accomplish?
What’s that one thing you want that you know when you have it will change your life?
“I coach people on whatever is challenging them at the time or whatever opportunity is not being achieve. Helping clients self manage themselves on a daily basis to produce the results they desire most”.
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