When I’m talking about ‘winning’ in this blog I’m referring to winning at anything in life, sport, business, love or financial success…..
Basically you achieving your major goal/purpose.
I would like you to read this from your own perspective and take it into context with your major purpose and passion. The area/s of life you are striving for growth and success in.
- To be successful and win in your chosen area, what are you ‘willing’ to give and do?
2. What are you NOT willing to do, give in order to become successful?
So often we ask this question to ourselves or maybe a coach or mentor does;
“What are you WILLING to do to achieve your goal/s?”
What we are willing to do will vary from person to person because their desires, passion, ethics, upbringing, morals and abilities come into play here.
However, I also believe a great question to ALSO ask yourself is;
“What are you NOT willing to do, give or have in order to make it to the top?”
See for all of us we have a line, a line that we will not and can not cross. And this can go from anything from the number of hours we can/are willing to work, the sacrifices we are willing to make…Right down to the ethics and morals we might be willing to put into questions in order to reach the top.
It’s a balance for anyone trying to become successful. A balance between what we are willing to do to achieve our goal/win, and what are aren’t.
Where do you draw the line when it comes to;
- Sacrifices in terms of money, time and effort.
- Playing to win.
- Increasing your knowledge base, learning and skill level.
- Stresses placed upon family, partners, loved ones, friends and relationships.
- Financial investment.
- Screwing others over to reach the top.
- Partaking in unethical activities in business, sport and life.
JUST TO NOTE: I’m not saying that to be a winner or to succeed in your endeavors you need to be unethical, cheat or screw people over. Far from it.
However what I am saying is you have to understand to your very core what YOU personally are willing to give to attain your goal.
People have their own views on what it takes to win and that’s anything from hard work, making sacrifices to blatant cheating and underhanded tactics.
So here’s a question to you,
In your OWN opinion do you NEED to cheat the system or go against the grain to WIN in your chosen area?
Can you achieve success by playing by the rules?
How you personally answer this questions will probably tell you all you need to know about your own personal mindset and beliefs around success.
How many people have heard the same old line about someone who’s become successful in business…
‘In order for them to reach the top they’ve probably screwed a lot of people over on their way up’.
What about in sport;
‘Yeah they’re only that good because they cheat or take drugs’.
I’ve heard these lines time and time again and I’m sure you have. People tend to use these to rationalise someone else’s success when it seems alien to them, or not possible in that persons mind.
The problem is how many people ‘actually’ start to believe these worn out lines and because they have heard them so often that they actually believe them. So much so that they CAN stop pursuing their own goals because they think they HAVE to cheat or be un-ethical to win and aren’t willing to do it.
OR on the flip side.
They actually believe the only way to reach the top is via these routes so they start screwing people over or cheating in sport in a pursuit to reach the top.
However in my opinion what we SHOULD focus on is OURSELVES.
What are you willing and not willing to do to be successful?
Forget about the stories, forget about what you ‘think’ you know about what it takes and just focus on what you are willing to give to achieve your dreams.
This is ALL you can focus on.
Be willing to go down your own journey, do it your own way. Not following the crowd or following some preconceived notion that to be successful you must do X,Y or Z.
Your level of success is determined by what you personally give to it and ultimately whether you can sleep at night with a clear conscience when all is said and done.
Thanks for reading today.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this below?