The social media syndrome is something that a friend of mine calls it, however I thought it was a great name to explain the social phenomenon that’s transforming how we look at our lives and how we compare it to others.
Now before you get the wrong end of the stick I’m by no means bashing social media, I think it’s an amazing tool. It’s great for interaction, reaching audiences of people we wouldn’t have had access too. It’s a great way of keeping in touch, building brands and your personal brand. And obviously a way for us to stick our noses into other peoples lives…I’m joking about that one by the way…Well not really :-).
However this is where social media gets a bit murky and can have a negative affect on our lives and our possible futures.
I’m personally a huge believer in that you can have almost ANYTHING you desire in life, your goals, aims, ambitions. I say ‘almost’ because I believe you still need to have skills and aptitude towards your chosen path,,,But by no means is it the most vital part of the mix but it goes a long way.
I also believe that if you discover, What you want, you work hard for it, surround yourself with the right people and you have patience then you have a recipe for success.
The biggest things you must FIRST discover before ANY of the above will work for you is:
- Who are YOU?
- What do you want?
I 100% believe that you must discover who you are as a person, what you believe, what your deepest darkest secrets are, what your BS is, what your excuses are, what your thoughts are, what your interests and passions are…And TRULY discover who you are as a person.
Once you’ve done this then and ONLY then can you understand what you want from life (your goals). Only then can you know what will make you happy and how it fits for you.
And that’s it right? Its about what makes us happy at the end of the day.
Soooo, here’s where the social media syndrome kicks in.
We scroll social media sites and look at OTHER people’s lives (nothing wrong with that, we all do it). We look at what they are doing, where they live. what car they drive, what holidays they go on, what physical shape they are in, how happy they are, how much money they look to have etc etc.
We scroll through and look at other peoples lives through a very small lense or screen.
Then what? And here’s where it can get off track for some people.
We compare. We compare and start to compete.
- Why don’t I have XYZ?
- They look happy in their lives and I don’t feel as happy in mine.
- Should I upgrade my house, car, holiday home, life, partner?
- Do I need to have a six pack or a booty to be attractive?
- My sport, competitive times and wins aren’t as good as theres so I mustn’t be as good as an athlete as them.
- They have more followers or get more ‘likes’ than me so they must be more popular than I am.
- I need a new job that pays me more money because I NEED more money?
- I mustn’t be fulfilled or happy like this person because my relationship doesn’t look likes theirs.
This is just a very brief summary of things that can go through our heads when we get onto social media and compare.
Here’s the thing…
We then start getting trapped into other peoples lives and start building our LIVES around what we THINK we want or what we THINK will make us happy. We follow other peoples social media highlight reel (It’s called a highlight because many people only share the GOOD things on social media) that we forget about WHO WE truly are and WHAT WE truly want.
Our goals, dreams and ambitions get put to one side, or forgotten about as we chase an ‘ideal’.
A life that we probably never intended for ourselves buts it’s what we THINK we should do or have. Its what we assume will make us happy because it is what others on social media are doing. Its the life our friends, colleagues and those we follow have.
And we end up getting LOST.
– We work jobs we hate just for money we don’t need and forget about our passions and purpose in life.
– We buy things we don’t want or need and get into debt over them. Having to work even harder and longer in our uninspiring jobs to pay for these things.
– We assume that unless we look like an Instragram model we are unattractive and this has a serious negative affect on our mental health, self esteem, self image and confidence.
– We think that unless I’m making X amount per year then I’m NOT making it in life, business, career.
We end up losing the sense of what makes us unique…Our individuality
This is what makes you and I unique. It’s the fact that we have our own mind, thoughts, beliefs, up-bring, dreams, goals and outlook on life.
And we miss this and get trapped into the social media bubble…The Social Media Syndrome.
Its time to lift your head up and start to decide what it is YOU want. What will make you truly happy, unfilled and content?
Ask yourself these questions and take time with the answers;
- Who am I?
- What do i truly want?
Answer these questions and understand YOU more and you’re ahead of 95% of the population. More importantly when you know the answers you can work towards YOUR dreams.
This is your life and NOW is the time to pursue what will make you happy in life, purpose, body, relationships and mindset.
Discover your inner Alpha.